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We live in an age of hyper-individualism,
an era in which an overdose of free-market culture and simplistic self-help,
have led us to believe that the best way to lead the good life,
and achieve human happiness,
is to pursue our narrow self-interest,
to follow our personal desires.
In a way, the question, 'What's in it for me?'
has become the leading question of our time.
And I believe we urgently need an antidote.
And that antidote is empathy.
But what is empathy?
Empathy is the art of stepping into the shoes of another person,
and looking at the world from their perspective.
It's about understanding the thoughts,
the feelings, the ideas and experiences
that make up their view of the world.
It's about understanding where another person is really coming from.
Now, we all know that empathy makes a difference
in our everyday relationships.
You've probably had experiences where you've been arguing
with your partner, your husband or your wife
and you thought to yourself, 'I wish they just understood my point of view'.
I wish they understood
what I was feeling.
What are you asking for there?
Empathy, of course, right?
But empathy can do more
than help in our relationships.
Empathy can create
radical social change.
Empathy, I believe,
can create a revolution,
not one of those old-fashioned revolutions
of new laws and institutions, public policies,
but a revolution of human relationships.
And we urgently need this revolution
because of a growing global empathy deficit.
In the United States, for example,
empathy levels have declined
by nearly 50% over the last 40 years.
The steepest decline has been in the last 10 years.
At the same time, we have world-wide growing social divides.
In two thirds of western countries,
the gap between rich and poor
is greater today than it was in 1980.
At the same time, over a billion people in the world
are living on less than a dollar a day.
Everywhere we turn, we see the conflicts
caused by religious fundamentalism,
ethnic tensions and anti-immigrant sentiments.
We urgently need empathy
to create the social glue
to hold our societies together
and to erode the toxic 'Us vs Them' mentality,
that is the cause of so much conflict.
Now, there is good news, which is that, 98% of us,
say the neuro-scientists,
have the ability to empathise
and step into somebody else's shoes.
Our brains are wired for empathy.
We are *** Empathicus.
But very few of us have really reached
our full empathic potential.
And as a society, we haven't yet really learned
to harness the power of empathy,
to create social and political transformation.
That's why I'd like to talk to you today about eight ideas
which I think can create
and start a global empathy revolution.
The first, is to train up the next generation.
Empathy can be taught and learned.
It can be learnt just like riding a bike
or learning to drive a car.
It's best to learn it when you're young.
The world's greatest programme for teaching empathy
is the one you can see on the screen here
which is called the 'Roots of Empathy'.
It began in Canada, in 1995.
Over half a million children
around the world
have now done it.
It's spread to many countries.
A unique thing about it is that the teacher is a baby.
A real live baby comes into the classroom, every few weeks,
the same baby for a whole year.
And the children sit around the baby,
and they start talking about the baby.
What's the baby thinking, what's the baby feeling,
why is the baby crying, why is the baby laughing?
They're trying to empathise, step into the shoes of the child.
And they then use that activity
to start thinking about empathy on a wider scale.
What's it like to be bullied or persecuted in the playground?
'Roots of Empathy' has incredible impact.
It increases levels of social cooperation
and sharing amongst the pupils.
It reduces bullying in the playground.
It even increases academic attainment.
That's why I think every child
should have the right to do programmes like
'Roots of Empathy'.
I hope that my five year old twins get to do it too,
because they are the next generation of change-makers.
But we can't wait around twenty years.
For these change-makers to emerge,
we need to become more empathic ourselves,
and lead the empathic revolution
as individuals, as adults.
That's why we need to develop
an ambitious imagination.
The latest psychology research tells us,
that if you mindfully focus
on somebody else's feelings and needs,
that is, empathise with them,
that increases your moral concern with them
and can motivate you to take action on their behalves.
One of the greatest empathic adventurers in human history,
Mahatma Ghandi, pointed out that
we need to be rather ambitious
about whose shoes we decide to step into.
He famously said, in a quote called
Gandhi's Talisman, he said
'Whenever you are in doubt,
or when the self is too much with you,
apply the following test.
Recall the face of the poorest man
who you may have seen
and ask yourself if the step you contemplate
is going to be of any use to him.
Then you will find your doubts and yourself melting away.'
Just imagine if that empathic message
was on the desk of every banking titan
or media baron, or even on your own.
But Ghandi also pointed out that we need
to push ourselves even further,
that we need to empathise
not just with the poor and the powerless,
but also step into the shoes of our enemies.
Ghandi was a Hindu who said, 'I am a Muslim
and a Hindu and a Christian and a Jew.'
I think we all need to learn to empathise with our enemies,
to increase our levels of tolerance,
to make us wiser people and also
to develop smarter strategies of social change.
But how does a Muslim get to meet a Hindu,
or vice versa, how do you people here today
get to meet people who are different from you,
and step into their shoes?
That's why we need to do something else
in the empathy revolution,
which is to spark our curiocity.
Now the problem is,
that most of have lost the curiocity
that we once had as children.
We walk past strangers every day,
without knowing what's going on in their minds.
We hardly know our neighbours.
I believe that we need
to cultivate curiocity about strangers
in order to challenge our prejudices and stereotypes,
because we so often make snap-judgements about people.
I believe that the thoughts in other people's heads,
is the great darkness that surrounds us.
And we need to use cultivating conversations
with strangers to penetrate that darkness.
My advice is that as individuals, at least once a week
you can have a conversation with a stranger.
Whether it's the person who vacuums the floor in the office,
or someone who, you know, you buy a newspaper off every day.
The important thing is to get beyond superficial talk
and, you know, just talking about the weather,
and talk about the stuff that really matters in life:
love and death, politics and religion.
But we also need to cultivate curiocity
about strangers on a social level
and promote projects like the Human Library Movement
which you can see up here on the screen.
It began about ten years ago in Denmark
and the Human Library Movement
is now spread to over 20 countries.
If you go to a Human Library Event,
like this one in London,
you go along and, instead of borrowing a book,
as you would do from a normal library,
you borrow a person, for conversation.
It might be a Nigerian soul singer,
or a single mother living off welfare.
The point is to have conversations with people who are different from you,
challenge your stereotypes.
Just imagine, if you organised a Human Library Event
in your own community,
who would you invite along
for members of the public
to talk to, to spark their curiocity?
Now, how do we know
that these conversations and encounters between strangers,
can really make a difference?
History tells us so.
We need to learn from history.
We normally think of empathy
as something that happens between individuals.
But empathy can also exist
on a mass scale, on a collective level.
Now, of course if you look through history
there have been moments of mass empathic collapse.
Think of the Holocaust, or the Rwandan Genocide.
But there have equally been moments
of mass empathic flowering.
One that I think is vital to know about
happened in the Second World War
during the period of evacuation in Britain.
When the Germans were going to bomb British cities,
the government evacuated, sent away over one million children
to escape the bombs, to go and live
with foster families, with complete strangers.
It was the greatest meeting of strangers in British history,
maybe in world history.
And what happened?
The result was that
relatively well-off rural people
living in provincial towns,
were suddenly faced in front of them,
with the realities of urban poverty in Britain's cities
because the children they saw now in their homes,
were malnurished, had diseases,
had torn and ripped clothes.
There was a mass empathic response and public outcry,
at the destitution that people now
were suddenly discovered in their homes.
There was public pressure from women's organisations,
political groups, to pressure the government
to introduce new child welfare legislation.
And the government responded immediately,
which is extraordinary because
this was a moment in the middle of the war
when there was great resource scarcity.
The government introduced free food for children,
new vitamins, new health packages, education packages.
The government started, due to this empathic encounter,
the origins of the British welfare state.
It shows, I think, that empathy is not just
a soft and fluffy concept about being kind to people.
It can actually shift the social and political landscape.
We need to create encounters like this, today.
Luckily, they are already happening.
In the Middle East, for example,
there is an organisation called the Parents' Circle.
And it does extraordinary grass-roots peace-building projects.
My favorite one, that they did
was called the 'Hello Peace' telephone line.
Now, if you are an Israeli, you could phone
this telephone free phone-number,
and you are put through to a random Palestinian stranger.
You could talk to them for up to half an hour.
Palestinians could phone the number
and they were put through to Israelis.
In the first five years of operation,
over one million calls were made on this line.
Just imagine if you could set up
one of those phone lines today between rich and poor
or climate change sceptics and climate change activists.
One thing I haven't spoken about though, is...
creating experiential adventures.
Just imagine if we didn't just have conversations with people
but we could actually experience something of their lives.
I think a model of this is an organisation called 'Dialogue in the Dark',
which is a unique form of museum experience
where you go into a room for an hour in complete darkness,
and a blind guide takes you through to discover
what it's like to be deprived of your sight for an hour.
You do activities like trying to buy fruit and vegetables
and you fumble with your money.
You go into a cafe, try and sit down and drink a coffee
and, you know, find out how difficult it is.
This museum experience is extraordinarily powerful for people,
and this organisation has spread around the world.
'Dialogue in the Dark' has appeared
in over 130 cities, in 30 countries.
In fact, it's recently just opened in Athens,
and over 6 million people have gone through its doors.
So we need to create experiential adventures
to expand our circles of moral concern.
We also need to learn to harness technology.
Technology's always been important in empathic movements.
In the struggle against slavery in the late 18th century,
the technology that was used was the printing press
to print posters, tens of thousands of them of how many
African slaves could be fitted
on a British slave ship going to the Carribean.
This poster led to mass public outcry, petitions
and it led to, eventually,
the abolition of slavery and the slave trade itself.
Today, the technology we need to think about is
social networking technologies, digital technologies.
Now, we know, that they can be powerful.
We know that during the Arab Spring
and in the Occupy movement,
social networking platforms helped spread powerful emotions,
like anger and like empathy.
Somebody could take a photograph of a young woman called Neda,
shot on the streets of Tehran, and within hours
millions of people around the world knew her name, about her family,
who she was, and went on to the streets to protest at state brutality.
But you also need to recognise that modern technologies,
digital technologies, have a danger to them.
Because, most social networking platforms
have been designed for the efficient exchange of information,
not for the exchange of intimacy and empathy.
In fact, they tend to promote, sometimes, superficial relationships.
There's a danger that they promote
the quantity of the connections we make
rather than the quality.
They tend to connect us with people who are very much like us,
who share our likes in music or films.
So we need to create a new generation of social networking technologies,
which focus on expanding deep empathic connection
and connecting us with strangers.
But as well as this, we need to learn to become empathic leaders.
Because we are leaders, we all have spheres of influence,
whether it's in schools or in the workplace,
in churches or community organisations.
We can take a lead, I think, from great empathic leaders
such as Nelson Mandela
who realised, that in the transition from Apartheid,
it was vital to try and create empathy and mutual understanding
between black and white South Africans.
That's why, in 1995, during the rugby World Cup,
he asked black South Africans
to support an almost all-white rugby team,
a team that was a hated symbol of Apartheid.
And the moment when he shook hands
with the South African rugby President,
after they won the World Cup,
I think, was one of the great, empathic moments of modern history,
and we can all try and follow Mandela's example.
So those are the ingredients to start an empathy revolution.
There is one more I haven't mentioned,
which is to cultivate Outrospection.
Socrates famously said that, to live a wise and good life,
we need to 'know thyself'.
And we've traditionally thought that this means
looking inside yourself, gazing at your own navel.
But I believe to know thyself, we need to balance introspection,
with what I call, outrospection.
Outrospection is the idea of discovering who you are,
and how to live by stepping outside yourself,
and looking through the eyes of other people
and discovering other people's worlds.
Empathy is the ultimate art form for the age of outrospection.
Empathy, as a concept, is more popular today
than at any moment in human history.
It's on the lips of politicians and neuroscientists,
business leaders and spiritual gurus.
Even in the last ten years, Internet searches for the word empathy
have more than doubled in frequency.
That's extraordinary.
But we have to do more than just talk about empathy
or search for it online.
We have to turn empathy into a form of social action.
We need to harness its power for social and political change.
That is the way we're going to create a revolution
of human relationships in the 21st century.
Thank you.
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