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Flirting can be one of the more pleasant and exciting aspects of life. Flirtation is an
art, and it makes it possible for strangers to become comfortable with each other, even
at their first exchange of words. It takes between 90 seconds and four minutes
for another person to realize that you are flirting with them.
We're physically programmed to indicate interest almost before we mentally have a say in it.
Slight actions reveal a lot. Stance, eye movement, and gestures like leaning forward to talk
to the person, or quick eyebrow raises are what scientists call contact engagement, signaling
to the other person that you're prepared for things to potentially get physical.
We pick up on flirting in three ways: 55% through body language, 38% through tone of
voice, and only 7% by what we say. It all begins and ends with eye contact, because
if she realizes you haven't focused on her eyes for even one second, she'll lose attention
before you even say a word. Eye contact is a strong form of nonverbal behavior, accounting
for 43% of our attention when communicating interpersonally. But be careful, just a few
seconds separate a Romeo and a creeper. Look directly at the target of your flirtation,
but please don't make it a staring contest. Remember: to stare is to scare!
One common flirting signal is the pupils of our eyes. When people like what they see,
their pupils increase in size, and tend to blink more. Eyes can blink in sync when looking
into the eyes of the person they like. We can make others feel comfortable by mirroring
or matching their mood and actions. When two people enjoy similar things, they tend to
move in sync with each other. Generally, the mirror actions should be done after 10-20
seconds, and must be done naturally, otherwise, the person might take it instead as mockery.
Studies show that gentle, informal touching and touching that involves hugging or face-to-face
contact is perceived as the most flirtatious and romantic. A face touch, for example, is
considered extremely flirtatious. Just make sure your touch is welcome.
If you're a guy, you should consider eating celery before a date. Researchers claim that
eating celery boosts the pheromone levels in a man's sweat, making him more appealing
to the opposite sex. Research also suggest that playing hard to
get doesn't usually work. However, there is a theory that we tend to fancy people who
are hard to get for everyone else, but easy for us to get.
One experiment showed that if people experience fear on a date they often misinterpret that
feeling as love. So dates at a local bar are likely to be successful. Skydiving might seal
your relationship for life. Thanks for watching and enjoy your flirting