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In the wider society, if they wanted to know what it is like being in a mixed race relationship,
what I would say is that it is no different to being , you know, it's no different to
being in an ordinary relationship, for people in the same cultures at all. We have the same
frustrations, and same feelings as everybody else.
You know I think, you know, money is an issue, you know, I think there is a lot of pressure
with work and finding the time to have a balanced relationship. You know either you have the
pressures of life making you need a mortgage, or supposed to have a mortgage, a secure job,
planning for the future.
I think the issues that face parents these days in many ways, and what they have always
been. They have been about building a relationship and
having children, healthy children, finding the right schools, um, being able to keep
a roof over their head, and put food on the table. And doing as
best as parents as a mum and a dad to bring up children as decent adults, with their own
minds and you know own values.
It doesn't matter in a sense about culture or language or religion, although I think
my son would disagree. All those things come after the basis of love first, you know. Love
is first, and so creating, I think we wanted to create, a positive family life for them.
I think there are so many positives, in mixing races, religions, you know because it's just
that wider understanding, but I think, inevitably, it's just going to happen more and more and
more, I mean, no boundaries and borders all these things, you know as much as they try
to make them exist, I mean, they don't so much. So, I think
it has to be taken as a positive thing, and certainly from my experience it has been great.
The secret that has kept us together! I don't know whether it's a secret, otherwise I'd
bottle it and sell it, but I think its commitment really. I think for me, from my side, from
my perspective, I needed that stability, I needed to know that Richard was committed,
and once I knew that he was committed, then I was kind of
very committed. So I think for me commitment is that secret, that once you get married,
it doesn't matter how life goes up and down, and I know, let's
face it, you have lots of downs in your life, don't you? I mean it's not roses round the
door, and you have to work at that. You have to work
very very hard at that. Sometimes it's easy just to walk away, but ummm. Yeah!
Well Johnny and I, when we realised we were going to have a child together, we decided
to make a commitment, and it is very important to us,
that we maintain that commitment, and that we work through any problems we have, because
we both believe that marriage is hard work. That any kind of
relationship is difficult and especially when you have children, it can be exhausting, you
know there are always going to be issues, but I think
staying committed and as a family is very important,
Also I think because we have both come from families that have broken. Both our parents
and parents on both sides have had more than one marriage,
and I think it's something that we've noticed we'd lacked in our childhood, and would like
to give to our child. That strong, stable family environment.
We have to like each other; I think that's the biggest secret. You have to love each
other really, and we do. I think that there is no
other secret really. Yes, as well as being my wife, she is my best
friend. Ah, thank you!
If you are strong enough in who you believe who you've chosen, then you will know that
that is the right person for you, then just get on and do it. Then there is no reason
why you shouldn't be together really, don't let anyone else tell you there is. If you
are happy together, you are happy together, that's it.