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Emőke Both, President of BAGázs
I am very very very hopeful that this program is one Emőke Both, President of BAGázs
I am very very very hopeful that this program is one
that can really bring change, significant change to the settlement.
Now, I am about to ask the others,
and I think they will also tell us how they felt,
and you should feel free to say how you felt about it too.
BAGázs Public Benefit Association
Women's mentor training BAGázs Public Benefit Association
Women's mentor training
Heléna Lakatos, mentor
Well, we came to Vanyarc for two days Heléna Lakatos, mentor
Well, we came to Vanyarc for two days
to take part in a mentor training program.
This is a program for adults, mothers with children.
Renáta Raffael, Mentor
We tried to talk about families, Renáta Raffael, Mentor
We tried to talk about families,
to help families in disadvantaged situations with things, for example, difficulties,
those who are struggling, and...
mostly those who do not know where to start,
who want to reach certain goals;
they can't get to these things without help
or make these things happen.
Piroska Jakab, Mentor
If we can we help with what we can Piroska Jakab, Mentor
If we can we help with what we can
to make it better for them and the children.
Nóra Eker, Project Coordinator
The goal of the training was to prepare Nóra Eker, Project Coordinator
The goal of the training was to prepare
the women of Bag to be mentors.
The goal, for them, was to help their mentees
in child bearing,
and to build their sense of responsibility.
And we also discussed different topics.
Anna Rudas, Mentor, Financial Officer
I think the women play a very important role Anna Rudas, Mentor, Financial Officer
I think the women play a very important role
in the life of the settlement,
and we have now gotten to the point
where based on two years of BAGázs's work, they trust us.
This is a very big honor for us,
and I feel that they are the ones
who are reliable to enact change in the family.
Mrs. András Farkas, Mentor
Well, if they see that the parents Mrs. András Farkas, Mentor
Well, if they see that the parents
are starting to set an example,
because until now they aren't- didn't-,
but they will,
and then the children will see their mothers as an example.
Gizella Rostás, mentor
The change will come through the parents, Gizella Rostás, mentor
The change will come through the parents,
and that is how the children will change too.
If the parent doesn't pay attention,
then of course the child does whatever they want to.
So, we talked about pretty deep topics,
which, for example, I would have had difficulty bringing in,
and talking about my own experiences.
But for them, this went much more smoothly
- meaning their ability to trust us, each other, as a group...
and because of this it was very effective-
the discussions were effective.
Istvánné Lakatos, Mentor
A lot of them, the children on the settlement Istvánné Lakatos, Mentor
A lot of them, the children on the settlement
don't attend school regularly,
and we are raising the parents' awareness
about why this is important,
how this can become a problem,
that we have to change this.
There's also a lot of problems with hygiene
for many families here,
these things...
and studying in school
- having a parent take part in that,
so that the child enjoys it-
and building good relationships between teachers and parent,
or, better relationships.
Why is it that you, as peer mentors
can play a very important role?
Or, what is it that you bring to the situation
- not something that we, from Budapest, who come here-
but something that makes them
more likely to listen to you?
Mrs. László Vidák, Mentor:
We can talk to them about exactly those topics Mrs. László Vidák, Mentor:
We can talk to them about exactly those topics
that they feel they can tell us, topics we can help with.
Because one woman to another woman,
we know each other's problems better, we know what a woman needs.
I would ask, for example, in your current situation,
what is it, which is the thing in your life
that you need help with?
The mentor program begins on April 19th.
So, there are six months for this program...
so, this lasts until the middle of October.
Who will mentor whom?
I'll take Cana, I have Maminka
Ma- Malvin (laughs),
Vera, Néma,
Edit, Szemi....
We are going to meet once a week,
talk about where and when, and do it like that.
We'll put down a blanket somewhere and then (agreement)...
: Yes, if the weather is good, then absolutely!
It's important that we don't judge our mentees,
that we discuss things.
What does that mean?
Praise them, encourage them.
: I wouldn't tell them to do this or that or whatever....
Ah,no, that's not good.
We have to tell them that they have to go to school,
they have to wake up at this time or that time...
:I would try to talk to them so they would understand.
Éva Kanalas, Mentor
I am mentoring a mother with 7 children, Éva Kanalas, Mentor
I am mentoring a mother with 7 children,
and she is pregnant right now too.
It will be difficult, because she has children in school,
2-3- I'm not sure now,
plus three kindergarteners,
plus two little ones at home,
and she's pregnant.
How I'm going to figure it out, I don't know yet,
because you know, she has a partner,
who I also want to talk to,
to see if he can watch the children,
so that we can talk an hour and a half or two hours together.
Every general conversation is necessary
so that you can reach this: figure out what they want
- and you can't tell her what she wants,
but you should try to move the conversation
in the right direction so that she can tell figure it out.
The composition of the group was really great,
everyone was were very motivated,
the men helping in the kitchen especially... (laughs)...
I really never would have thought
that I would ever be here,
that I would be able to help others or improve others,
and this is good for me too.
For example, the things at home,
I can learn the same way
that I am able to teach others now.
1, 2, 3...
Goooo BAGázs!