Tip:
Highlight text to annotate it
X
My boyfriend just stopped talking to me. What do I do?
Is he getting better at listening to you over time? Or did he fall asleep?
No, I don’t think he’s listening any better. I don’t know if he’s listening to me at
all, because he won’t talk to me.
The silent treatment could be a defense mechanism.
It is usually the woman who stops talking to the guy to punish him. I use it all the
time.
And the silent treatment has only one guarantee, that it will make the other person angrier
due to the lack of communication.
It’s fair play.
No, it just means that the underlying problems simmer until they explode instead of get talked
through or worked out. Maybe he learned the silent treatment from you.
What else could it be?
He might have decided to ignore you in the hope that you’ll eventually go away.
If he keeps this up, I just might.
Have you been bugging him a lot? He might have shut down in response to constant contact.
No, I just call and text as much as he does. Or did.
He might also have shut down in the face of too much criticism.
Why are you accusing me of such a thing?
If everything he says is wrong, if everything he suggests is stupid, if all of his complements
are taken as criticism, he’d eventually stop saying anything.
Should I stop talking to him in return?
That’s a guaranteed breakup. Have you tried being nice to him?
Why? So he’ll regret it when I’m gone?
I think I get why he’s so quiet. Anything he says can and will be used against him by
you.
This conversation is so over.
I get that. And so does your soon to be ex-boyfriend.