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How was your day?
Good, I was on Facebook
A lot of news and I read about a situation
It's about a woman...
well... without trying to be offensive
but... umm... this woman sleeps around
She loves to party.
She dresses very sexy.
I don't know... but...
Are you saying women can't go out
and have a good time including having sex?
Men are capable of controlling themselves.
Does that mean if I wore sexy clothes
you would *** me?
No, that's not what I meant
Well, It's just like, umm...
I don't know.
She has a mouth.
She pushed him to his limit.
That's my observation.
So she has a mouth, why doesn't he just leave her?
The bottom line is
no one deserves to be abused
whether she has a mouth or is an awful person.
No one deserves it.
Well, we warned her of his abusive past.
Yet she stayed with him.
In a way, she asked for it.
We can't control who we fall in love with.
Abusers are charismatic
they give them everything they want
and they fall in love.
Does that mean they deserve to be abused?
Why are we questioning the survivors
and not the abuser?
Why did he abuse?
I agree abusing is wrong
Yet why didn't she just go to the police?
It's important to report and have a paper trial for evidence.
But she didn't go to the police.
So, I say the blame's on her.
The community tends to backlash
when survivors report to the police.
If I report, the police will drill me with questions.
Goes into details of my past while doubting my story.
And often it results in nothing happening.
Additionally, after reporting to the police
the abuse will often intensify
and could potentially get to the point of death.
I have seen it happen.
When he hits, sue him!
Just sue and put him in jail.
That way he won't be able to harass, know what I mean?
Have you been involved with those cases
to see how the legal system works?
Well, no... but common sense is
Sue and jail him.
Of course, I would want to sue.
But that's not how it works.
The district attorney under the state
they check out my case to see if they have a good chance of winning or not.
If drinking was involved or I wore sexy clothes
or if I have a reputation for sleeping around
or I tend to go back to my abuser
My case can be viewed as weak
and the DA will not pursue.
What does it leave me with? Nothing.
Even if the case went through
most of the time abusers don't end up in jail.
They settle for lesser charges.
Then the abuser's back and I'm stuck with him.
Well, she is a strong lady.
She should not tolerate being hit.
Actually, you'd just leave your abuser if it were you, right?
Domestic Violence happens to anyone
it's not limited to the weak and vulnerable types.
It can even happen to me.
Abusers don't hit on the first date.
nor they show anger.
It's a slow and gradual process.
Before you know it, you're trapped in that cycle.
If you put a frog into boiling water
The frog will jump right out.
Now, if the frog is in cold water
and is slowly brought to boiling
Before the frog realizes it
the frog will boil to death.
Geez, take it easy...
Your comments contribute to why
Domestic and *** Violence still exist today
It makes it harder for survivors to
get out of the abusive cycle
Are you willing to learn more about Domestic Violence?
Research about it and understand
how to better support survivors?