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Okay. So does anyone have any questions? Um, anything about how to fill in the worksheet. Or any questions about The Work or anything else?
Hello Katie. Hi. Hi.
Today, I did not come in touch. It was a very stressful situation. It was like a movie running in the distance I could not really get in touch with feeling.
So what was the situation?
It was with my husband after I told him I want to leave and and he asked me to please stay.
Okay and where were you in that moment in this situation? When he asked you to stay.
She was in the living room. Okay was it, was it morning? Was it evening? What time of day? Evening.
Okay. So close your eyes and identify what emotion you're experiencing when he says I want you to stay.
I'm getting afraid.
Okay. So I'm fearful because my husband wants me to stay.
Isn't that the situation?
It was more that I thought that he's not offering enough. He's not really, um, trying hard enough. It wasn't enough for me that he was offering.
Okay so I'm fearful because my husband isn't offering me enough... in that situation.
Okay. Because he's not really caring enough about me.
Okay. I'm fearful with my husband because he isn't caring enough about me.
Okay. So now close your eyes sweetheart and I invite everyone in the room to do the same.
We've all been in a similar situation. Let's locate it. In our own way.
Now sweetheart and we'll all follow along... in that moment you're feeling fearful. He's not offering you enough. He's not giving enough.
What do you want?
Not now, but was what he wanted in that situation?
Slow down. Take your time. Identify it.
I want. What do you want from him? What do you want him to say or do?
I want him to say very clearly what he intends to do. Good. To make our life together better.
And in the interest of inquiry, I would say I want him to tell me what he wants to do. I want him to make our life better.
That way, can you all hear how it's it's broken down for inquiry? Rather than all in one sentence it's in two.
These concepts deserve to be met with unconditional love through inquiry.
And it's respectful to present them on you worksheets in that way.
With the ego in must be loved without condition
Respected and given a chance to speak its voice on this worksheet.
We have hated the ego and we have tried to shame it away and blame it away and it doesn't work.
And I have come to understand that love is the power and that's the language that the ego understands.
It's like a terrified child, so let's bring it forward on these worksheets and give it a voice as we become very still and listen.
To what it has to say.
Let's look at statement number three on the worksheet.
Now close your eyes again sweetheart.
Now do you see his face?
You see the two of you there?
Yeah. Okay. Look at him. What advice would you offer him? To get what you want in statement number one, what advice would you offer him?
Now those of you filling in worksheets...
If the person you're writing about is angry and furious and upset for example, you wouldn't give a person like that advice that they could not follow when you consider where they are emotionally.
So when you consider as you witness him in that moment and you are conscious of your thoughts in that moment.
What advice would you offer him to give you what you wanted in statement number one?
He should. He shouldn't. Um.
He should really consider if he really wants me to stay.
Good. Anything else? Any other advice. Um. I would love if one of you in the room are filling and that worksheet for her as she...
Good. Anything else? Any other advice. Um. I would love if one of you in the room are filling and that worksheet for her as she...
Yeah, she's also wishing for that.
Good. Any other advice to get you want in number one? Any other advice you could offer him and be specific.
He should visualize our future different living together.
Now, if he just visualizes that, will that give you what you want? Nooo.
So let the ego speak, it's got advice for him.
He should consider what it is, um worth for his son, for him.
He should consider again?
What it is worth for his son for him.
Good. That may not be the right expression but I can't think of another one right now.
that's okay her words hers. You know that that's what we want.
I can see through your emotions that you're very close.
And these worksheets we fill in you know, we're the only ones that can really contact this for ourselves.
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