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Okay, so today's question
is: How do I let go
of the man that I love knowing that he's in love with somebody else?
It's a hard situation to be in, and I
really,
I feel you there,
that's definitely not an easy task to take on.
But there is, there are a few different things that I suppose that you could do
to really start the healing process.
First of all, I think it's important to
think of love as an open hand. A lot of people see love as:
"Oh, well, I love them and I wanna hold on to them."
But, really, love is unconditional acceptance,
it's allowing
another person or yourself to be
who they are, and to unconditionally accept that.
And it doesn't mean that you unconditionally accept it, and so that's who they are,
and you put up with it. I mean, sometimes, you're dealing with situations that you
can unconditionally accept and choose not to be a part of. But love
is the idea of letting a person be who they are.
And, obviously, you wanna help inspire them to be the best that they can be,
but this is another story, on a separate note. So, when it comes to really loving
this man, if you feel that he is somebody who
really has found a connection with somebody else and is happy with that person, the idea of
being love to him and giving love to him
is really letting him be.
Another thing that you can do
is to really focus on self-love and learning how to
love yourself, in the sense that
you have to figure out what it is that fills you up,
what it is that makes you come alive, what it is
that brightens your day,
fills your life, and and makes you feel whole. A lot of times we focus on the
external, the other person or the other situation,
and we get desperate, and needy, and need that for our own sense of satisfaction, but
if you're willing to deal with the discomfort
that comes from not having that person in your life, and start to learn how to
give love to those parts of yourself, then you start to feel more fulfilled,
and start to feel more
satisfied and whole,
without that person.
And another thing that I would recommend, I don't know how you feel about it,
is prayer,
is meditation, is connection with God, however that is
for you.
A lot of times when we have that hole in our heart,
we look for something else to fill it up, and so it's really important
to find something that's gonna fill you up
with love, that's not depending on something beyond you.
So hopefully that helps, I really
wish you all the best,
and thanks so much for submitting your question.