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Hi this Mary Morrissey. Today I want to share with you the determining factor
that governs our results. Would you like to know
what is controlling the results you're having in your life maybe you had dreams
or goals that
year after year you either don't achieve or
you get a portion of it but you don't really have the ability to create the
life that you love living
on demand. What if you could and what if you knew what was stopping you?
The name for the thing that controls our results
our money, our health, our happiness, our love, our freedom
the name for that is the word paradigm but knowing the word doesn't change our
lives
but it begins with some understanding about that word.
See where I'm filming today the temperature in the room
that I'm in is governed by an invisible thing to me.
I know it exists but it's invisible to me but that thing is called
a thermostat. The thermostat has been set
for a particular temperature. Now if the temperature in the room rises a few
degrees above that
cool air will be brought into this room thus bringing the temperature back to
its normal
range. If the temperature drops a few degrees
the thermostat will change what's going on in this room by sending warm air into
the room
thus bringing the temperature in the room back within a range
of its setting for normal. Your paradigm
governs what's normal for you and it got formed through many many years
of experience and belief that most of which was given to you by your parents,
your school, the media,
others about how this world works and
most of us until we get into some form of personal development or some
form of radical
shift in our way of seeing how things really work in the world
actually live a life where we believe the circumstances control us
and that what's in our bank account determines what we can be and do.
There was a time on our planet where most people believed that the world was
flat.
It was the major operating system for how things worked.
It didn't matter that it was a lie. It mattered that people believed it
because they live little constricted lives based on a paradigm
that the world was flat. Many of us have paradigms that
are as constrictive as the world is flat. Ideas about what we can say yes to
and what we can say no to, what we have to say no to
we look at the price and say "I can't afford that". What if
in fact you could set the setting
on your paradigm for a more expansive life where actually
the life you could create is this life. You actually
can go where you want to go you actually can do what you wanna do you actually
actually can have what you want to have and even more importantly
you actually can give what you want to give to what really matters to you.
That life is available to every single one of us
but it doesn't happen with the world is flat paradigm. It happens with a
different paradigm. And so learning how to install a new operating system
in the way you think about things is not something that usually happens
overnight.
Paradigms get changed one of two ways: they get changed by a dramatic emotional
impact, you're in a
car accident or something just dramatically emotionally
happens and it changes your way of thinking about things or
a period of time with repetition and study
where you begin to question some of your own beliefs. You
begin to get curious about what if I could and you stay inside that question more
often than why you can't.
So how you can change it is first becoming aware
that you do have a paradigm not just you everyone has paradigms.
And is my belief about how I
am with money my belief about how I am with love
my belief with how I am with health my belief with how I am with opportunities
my belief with how I am with the relative freedom or lack of it
that I allow in my life and if any place in your life you're feeling a
constriction
let's redesign that paradigm. Let's install
a paradigm, a way of thinking about things where you literally have more freedom.
So an example that is one time my son
my second oldest son came home and he was a junior high school
and he wanted to go to the junior prom and came home he said mom I need eighty five
dollars cuz I said 85 what
for this was a long time ago and eighty five dollars was a lot of money
to me
some money you know and he said yeah I wanna I need a
tuxedo and I forgot the girl's name Sarah or whatever and I want to take her to the prom
and it's eighty five dollars for the tuxedo.
And I said well rich you don't really need eighty five dollars he said yes I need eighty
five dollars
and we went back and forth a bit about whether he really needed eighty five
dollars I said
you just tell me you want a tuxedo you don't really need eighty five dollars
you need a tuxedo.
He said but you don't understand in order to get the tuxedo I have to have eighty five dollars
and I said "What if you don't?"
He said, "What do you mean what if I don't? and I said well just try this out.
And then I gave him some tools for how to relate to his
vision of having a tuxedo that was one he would really love
without the eighty five dollars first. If he believed he could do it what would
he do and he said well I'd get the eighty five dollars and then I would go try them on
and I said then why don't you go try them on.
Just them on pick out a tuxedo, write down the have the person their
helping you write down the exact
tuxedo you would like. Go to two or three places, he said "Oh I know where I
I'd go there's the best place in town.
I said well go there at least try on a tuxedo to just see what happens.
so he didn't really like my suggesting that he could do this without
the money but he went ahead and did it anyway.
An interesting thing happened while he was trying on the tuxedo the
man who was helping him said and where do you go to high school? Rich said "I go to
Hill High."
He said "Hmm I don't think we have a representative at Hill High yet"
and Rich said, "What do you mean?"
He said "Well our tuxedo
company allows one person from each high school
if you will wear one of our tuxedos for four weeks in a row
coming up to prom night you can wear any tuxedo of your choice that we have
on prom night and it's complementary.
Well Rich was always a clothes horse so this was not only
a great way to have the tuxedo to but it was very fun for him for the four
weeks
heading up to prom. Now
I'm suggesting to us that we have paradigms that control our behavior our
money
our sense of opportunities and why you wanna hang out
with people who have busted some of their paradigms and install new paradigms
and set that thermostat for their life
with more expansion more fun more freedom
is that kind of thinking can be learned and repeated
only you'll be the one to pick the kind of freedom that you want to have.
Twice a year I get a group of people together
Twice a year an event called Dream builder Live.
The people that come hundreds of them come who are
dream builders. They're people who live passionate
purpose filled lives where they understand there is a thinking technology by which
they can say yes to what matters to them and the dreams that are in their heart.
We gather together for Friday Saturday Sunday and we have an event coming up
and I would love to meet you there. It's a supportive environment.
There's a lot of networking that goes on. Some of your best friends
you're ever going to meet in your life you will meet at DreamBuilder LIVE
so click the link below this video and explore DreamBuilder LIVE
and I will hope to meet you at our next live event
and as I leave today I just want to remind you of something.
No matter what's going on in your life, no matter how long it's been there
or whatever is
the power that's breathing you that called you into being is greater than
anything that's in the land of circumstance anything that's in the land
of conditions right now.
That power in you is more. I really deeply know
that you can live a life you love living and the dream that's in your heart
can become the life you love. Have a great day!
See you next time.