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Hey, I'm Lance, this is Brian, and this is our "It gets better"
Hi, I'm Andrew,
and I'm Jason
And we live in Seattle
This is Sebastian, this is Nicolas
Nicolas is four, and my name is Brad, and this is Curtis
I am Tom, this is my partner Larry. This is our daughter Orly, and our son Max
Hi. My name is Mike and I live in Seattle. I'm in my early fourties, and I am a gay dad.
I figured out I was gay when I was fifteen. And I pretty much shut down for eight years or so.
Didn't know what to do, didn't know who to talk to. Did come out on the other side
I never thought I wouldn't kids, but I never knew how I was gonna do it.
When I came out, one of the first things I remember feeling and doing
...was mourning the possibility that I might never be a father.
When I got older and finally came to the self-realization that I am gay,
I went through the second feeling of loss — ok, I am gay, but now my dream of having a family can't happen.
One of the things Jason and I share — aside from, you know, being gay — is that we both wanted kids.
And I've always known that, from probably ten or eleven I've wanted to be a dad. And being gay — that didn't change for me.
It maybe meant that I had to change how I went about having children, but my dream of being a parent never changed.
And four kids later, our dreams have been fulfilled, my dreams have been fulfilled.
As I grew and met Larry, I realized that no, it's not true —
I can be gay and have a family, I can have everything that I dreamed of having.
So my story, my "It gets better" story — and it does get better —
revolves around becoming a part of a family that I never ever expected.
And a bilogical family is for me is just an immense and wonderful, wonderful gift that just keeps giving.
We've been together for 12 years, and we knew, from our second date, that we wanted to have our own family.
I guess when I was growing up I never thought I would have kids. And I think, it's terrific.
What do you guys think about having two dads? Yeah?
Our dreams came true, and your dreams can come true.
And being gay is not a hindrance, it's not a problem, it's not a fault, it's not wrong
and anything is possible.
Trust that it does get better, and know that wherever you are and whatever you are thinking about family,
you can create whatever family you want to, or need to.
If you can dream it, you can do it.
If you're feeling isolated, maybe you are in a town
where it's not accepted to be gay or even seem gay,
but once you get a little older and get through high school,
just moving to a city or somewhere where there are more people,
you'll soon realize there's a whole world out there, that is accepting.
Keep your hopes up, don't give up, don't let other people tell you
what to think or do, and you'll be in great shape.
Without doubt, life is better.
Life was bad, life was good, life has its ups and downs, but today — life is better.
Subtitles — Lilith, genderqueers.info Transcription — Mace Windu, gayforum.su