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How Does A Sharp Dressed Man Live Up To His Own Style Expectations- Male Fashion Tips
Hi! I'm Antonio Centeno, the founder of Real Men Real Style. Today, I'm going to be answering
a question, "How does a sharp dressed man live up to expectations?"
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All right, guys, this is what we've got. "Antonio, I'm a Nigerian man in my mid-20s and I live
in the UK. My brother's wedding is coming up in three weeks. I have a drama with colors.
For three weeks now, I've been trying to figure out what I should wear. The issue is I get
easily heated and sweaty and nervous, and people know me as a fashion icon at all the
companies I've worked with whether in Nigeria or in the UK. People expect me to dress sharp,
so what I'm looking to wear is a red suede jacket with grey and striped pocket handkerchief,
big, black colored shirt, dark blue waist coat, grey or brown fitted pants with either
brown shoes and a brown belt, or black shoes with a black belt. That's pretty much what
I've planned on wearing, but I just don't know how to test these colors and I'm just
worried that I'm not going to look good enough. Sincerely, Charles."
All right Charles, so there's a bigger question here. I mean, your outfit, it sounds -- wow!
It sounds like it's got a lot of color. With your complexion, you can probably pull it
off. It sounds a bit color-heavy on top. I would maybe look at the black shirt with navy
combination as a pretty bold thing if you're going for width, also the red suede jacket,
but you know, I'd have to see them. That's the hard thing about colors. You almost have
to see them in person. Screens often lie and there's a bit of a tint there, but the bigger
point I want to hit on is it sounds like you've got a problem of living up to expectations,
that you've built up this image that "Charles has to be the best dressed guy wherever he
goes. It doesn’t matter what company he's at, what event Charles is going to be at,
that Charles needs to be the best dressed guy," and that's a dangerous place to be.
Let me give you a little bit of example. Maybe a lot of guys will experience this. When I
was in college, there was a group of guys. I'm not going to name names, but let's just
say that they heard a lot of stories about how a group of guys before them were awesome
partiers. There was always this expectation to outdo what the people before you did. It's
like, "Oh, they have those stories? What until you hear what I did. It was even bigger and
better." What happened and what I saw over a period of time is what you had to do to
get the story recognized as an amazing story had to get bigger and bigger.
I mean, how do you top a bunch of guys getting into a U-Haul with a keg of beer doing keg
stands on Interstate 80, going to every strip club in Eastern Iowa in a period of four hours
and then getting basically pulled over by the cops and getting away with it? I mean,
I would hear stories like this, and if you're going to try to outdo that, well, you're probably
going to end up hurting someone or going to jail, and that's the problem with expectations.
By the way, I don't know if that really happened or the guys that were involved with that.
I just heard that was a story, but in any case, as expectations go up, the chances of
you falling goes up as well. I really think that "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality
is a bad attitude. You need to dress for yourself, Charles. I mean, it's important that you dress
for respect for the situation and it is your brother's wedding, but at the end of the day,
be the best you.
This is one of those instances when you look at men who have really established themselves.
They've got plenty of money, but yet they're not necessarily flaunting it because they
don't have to. They realize that there's no winner to that game. What I think you should
be focusing on are the other aspects of what it means to be a stylish, well-rounded man.
And so, you need to work on your conversation skills. You need to think about how are your
manners. You need to think about how are you going to help your brother's wedding and be
the best it can be.
What are you going to do? Is there something you can help out to make this experience better
for everyone around you? That's the mark of a true gentleman, is he's not the best dressed
man when he shows up on an event, but he's the man that when people think of the event,
it's like, "Wow! I had a great time," and it was probably because Charles was going
around and, "I had such a great conversation with him. He was attending to my Aunt Mae"
or whatever.
In Nigerian weddings, those things are fun. There's a lot of color. There's a lot of family,
a lot of people just meeting and talking. And if you can be the kind of person that
you can take a little bit of weight off of your brother and everything that's going on
there, you're going to be remembered a lot more for that than you are by how you dressed.
So Charles, that's my advice. Yeah, don't get caught up in that game and trying to be
better every time because it's a no win situation.
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