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discover what you have to prove stay tuned
it's Damon Cart with NLP Gym what do you have to prove before I get
into this if you haven't already please click subscribe to this YouTube
channel so you can get these videos on a regular basis you might be thinking I
don't have anything to prove and to that I would say that's *** and I would
also say for your sake I hope that's not true I hope you do have something to
prove well you may be thinking is I don't need to prove myself and to that I
would say that's a great thing I think a lot of people feel like they do have to
prove themselves let's start with that proving yourself the problem with that
and if you're trying to do this by the way stop it right now because it's
impossible it's impossible to prove yourself why because it's impossible to
prove what you undeniably know what is absolutely self-evident in order to
prove yourself and what I mean by that is the proof the existence of you you
would have to first pretend like you don't exist but trying to prove
yourself as in trying to prove your existence is only going to create pain
and suffering and like I said it's impossible so you'll never accomplish it
we'll just stop that right now I wasted years of my life probably more
than half of my life trying to prove myself and and it says prove my
existence it's silly it's crazy just stop it right now
now the other thing you might be confusing when you think of proving
yourself you may be thinking of proving yourself worth now this is probably this
is where I know I got confused proving myself worth vs. proving myself I
confused it too so you can separate those two right now
so there's proving yourself trying to prove your existence we know that's true
so you don't need to prove that then there's proving yourself worth proving
your valuable proving your deserving proving that you deserve to receive love
to eat to live to exist to have shelter that sort of thing
now this is a common problem for people and then again this is something I've
struggled with for years I've done videos on it I've written about it I'm
not gonna delve too much into it here but just to give you an understanding of
what I'm talking about wandering or trying to work toward or
trying to prove that you deserve love that you deserve affection that you
deserve just a normal things like to eat think about it this way
when you see a baby it's just born would you look at that baby and think oh and
the baby needs to prove itself the baby needs to prove that it deserves to be
loved that it deserves to be fed no that's absolutely ridiculous you would
naturally just give a baby food caring loved attention all those things you
don't wait for the baby to of them to just crew work that it deserves all of
these things and if you're not a parent and you're not in the kids think about
it this way do you ask the same of your pets would you buy a kitten or a puppy
and then wait for the puppy or the kitten to prove itself to earn you
feeding it earn you giving it affection playing with it no it's so this is
ridiculous so if you feel like you have to prove yourself for the most basic
simple things in life again stop this because you were just going to create a
lot of pain and suffering in your life now how does this even happen a lot of
people they have this going on naturally it seems well a lot of times it comes
from childhood it comes from someone she Munich a ting
to you in a very limited way and limitation on their end not on your end
when you were a very young child they communicated to you in a way that
implied that you needed to deserve their love you needed to deserve you needed to
somehow earn the basics you had to earn their love their trust their affection
this happens a lot I don't think parents do it on purpose
but it happens and we pick up this idea that we must somehow earn or deserve
love before receiving it so again just realize this is not it's not true
you deserve these things implicitly and again to try to prove that you do is to
try to work towards proving it you never can truly prove it because
it's not it's not true that you that you don't deserve it so again let this go
you might still be saying okay well I have nothing to prove think about this
think about it if scientists started saying I have nothing left to prove if a
scientist said that what would that person who would that scientist be
effectively doing a scientist would then be eliminating his or her profession
wiping it out because that's a scientists job is to prove or disprove
theories and they do that by study by hypothesizing by experimenting by
creating theories and testing and then experimenting some more and testing some
more this is really really important because you don't need to prove yourself
you don't need to prove your worthiness but you have a lot to prove
those ideas in the back of your head those lingering ideas those things that
you're attracted to those challenges that you're not sure you're up for the
things that scare you but you're attracted to them anyway the things that
have you filled that over and over but you keep coming back to these are your
theories and they're begging you to prove them that's what that's why they
stay there that's why they linger in your mind that's why you keep coming
back to them so that's your theories you need to prove become a scientist in your
own life experiment study hypothesize about what's possible about what you can
do about the challenges that you're interested in theorize about them plan
them experiment test and one of the best things that can happen to you is that
your theories fall apart when you go to test them because a good scientist
doesn't attach themselves to the outcome of an experiment or when they test their
theory their theory proves wrong they just experiment some more they make
another hypothesis they test they create more theories they keep going this is
how we innovate the sciences innovate this is how science evolves this is how
we've gotten all the great wonderful technology that we have do the same in
your own life don't become attached to the outcomes
don't become attached to your theories test them and then they fall apart well
now you've learned something now you've learned something that's not true and
learning something that's true learning what's not true is just as important
and sometimes your theories will be right and you'll feel good about that
and things will work out in a way that you want them to but it that always
happened that way and you're right all the time that's not interesting because
you're not growing so if you've got that book that you've been wanting to write
you're not sure if you can do it and it kind of scares you go for it that's your
theory the theory is you can write a book but
you're not sure you can do it until you test that theory what if you want to
lose 40 pounds what if you want to go get your PhD what if you want to make
six figures these are all theories these are all possibilities study experiment
hypothesize theorize and then start testing start testing if you can do it
or not and believe me when you fail at some of these things it'll be wonderful
because you won't be attached to it it won't be about you it won't be about
your worthiness it will simply be about whether or not your theory was correct
or it wasn't correct and like I said that teaches you everything you need to
know and then you just keep moving forward with this new knowledge this new
understanding knowing has nothing to do with your self-worth doesn't it has
nothing to do with whether or not you should or should not exist which is
absolutely ridiculous you you exist and you're deserving of the basics that
every human is deserving of and now you can move forward actualizing your
potential using science so become a scientist in your own life and test
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