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The other day you called me a 'loser'. That's a negative label. I can change an action, but I can't change a negative label.
Please stop using negative labels. They don't feel good.
What if I called you, "Mr. Nice Guy?"
Well, that feels a little sarcastic. Maybe it's okay. How about just calling me by my first name?
Well, okay.
Thanks. If you're not happy with something I'm doing, then you're welcome to suggest something I can change.
Oh really? Can you give me some examples of things that you can change?
Well, you could request something like... "Please show up on time." "Please look at me when we are talking."
"Please be willing to compromise more often." "Would you please not drive so fast?" "Please help do the dishes?"
"Please stop leaving your socks and underwear on the floor."
"Would you please not stare at other women when we're in a restaurant?"
Okay, I get it. Would you please do all of those things?
Yes, dear.
Then you won't be a loser. You'll be Mr. Nice Guy'.