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The End Of Fear Project presents The Myth Of Fear
Jess- Suppose you find yourself mysteriously in a lost island regardless of the events that created this situation one thing is certain you do not have your identity;
Öbecause your identity is no longer related to the environment Öand this is a tiger youíre afraid of the tiger because you know what it is.
The image of the tiger is in relationship with your past that is why you know it.
This is a kind of a monster, youíre afraid of the monster cause you do not know what the monster is. The image of the monster is also in a relationship with your past.
This is a mystery and you fear the mystery because you do not actually know what the mystery is. The mystery is also in relationship with your past,
youíre afraid because it can create a possible problem or maybe it intrigues the mind but the sense of preoccupation is still there.
These are natural fears and there is nothing wrong with natural fears because they are there to protect us from possible threats.
Diego : And what about this? This is the unknown, itís what you do not know yet how can you be possible afraid of what you do not know yet?
How can you be afraid of this? This is in relationship with nothing. Itís not in a relationship with your past. How can you define the unknown if the unknown is not compatible with anything that you know
Jess: And From here so much struggle and friction comes and it has been like this for over a millennia.
I am talking about the friction between the known and what will comeÖWhich is the friction between how things are now and how we would like things to be tomorrow.
These two aspects of our life are actually the same face.
Diego: But we continuously forget it creating the constant separation between the fact that sometimes we do perceive something that we know
... but it is impossible to be decoded by the intellectual mind.
Jess: And then we want to translate those perceptions into language so that we can share it with our community our family our loved ones and so forth.
And from this translation we lose our knowingness our sensitivity and our perceptiveness
Öand then that translation becomes archetypes and structures beliefs and then institutions
Öand then everything is translated into collective and intimate superstition.
A holographic illusion collectively and intimately accepted.
And this identity grows as a psychological tool in which to maintain an illusionary known.
And with identity comes your fear to lose your identity and from this we have existential fear
Which is not natural at all it is a collective intellectual illusion and the illusion of the unknown.
This is the story of a myth, the same myth that has been around for a millennium; this is the myth of fear.
Diego:"Every time I hear that someone say I do not even know my own fear
my personal observation is actually that most of the people know exactly what their fears are but they do not know how to communicate how to express or how to share their fears.
Especially cause first of all we have to separate what the natural fears are many the fear of reality or what ever: if I have a tiger near by me of course I am in fear
Öand then we have existential fears such as the source of anxiety depression on so on."
Pablo: ìWhen you are growing up and you know you have a family and all those conditions since you were little they tell you to do this to do thatÖ
you get so used to it sometimes you do not even know when your doing it for example you have to do good you have to go to college and you have to be successful, be able to pay your bills
youíre not allowed to slack off so you know you just keep doing it and doing it so much you do not even realize it
and then you think a little and realize this is not what I want to do but its like this internal fight.
This is how I feel: itís like an internal fight one part of me wants one thing and another part of me is like fighting. "
Diego: ìWe are educated and programed to avoid all the intimate dealings with fears
Öand because we have to match what society wants from us such as self-fulfillment success and a career and especially an identity
Öso we are like a software or like robots if you like we are programed to build up an identity.
The fakeness that is behind this mentality creates constant separation between the need to belong to something and the need to be detached
Öfrom the system and from the life we are living.
And from this comes fear and itís a paradoxical situation the more we try to match what we have been told to the more we increase internally fears.
We live in an environment where it is almost forbidden to talk about fears cause if you do you are seen as automatically weak. "
Pablo: ìYes but I need to find out what my fears are Ö
cause I grew up with no religion or anything my dadís god was money and thatís it thatís all he wanted was money and that made me separate from money.
I hated money and I still do because even with my sister, she did not talk with my dad for years then one day she got sick and she died
and my dad realized that money was not that important because you know all those years he lost with my sister because of stupid money.
After that I was thinking wow all this cause of money.
My dad when he talked about his fears he would say the only thing I fear is to be poor so that was his thing but he is trying to put that on me but I never cared about that.î
Diego: ìThe problem comes that when we want to truly understand and inquire on our fears and where they come from,
we tend to use this inquiry to compare ourselves to who we are now and what happened to us in the past.
For example by saying the reason ëI am the way I am now is the consequence of my pastí and that is not true because this is a way to become a victim of your personal fear.î
Jess: ìYou cannot have a relationship with anyone if you cannot have a relationship with yourself or with anyone or with your fears or even with the unknown
Öhaving it your enemy does not work so well it causes a lot of unnecessary struggling and suffering as opposed to making it your friend
the unknown
Öinstead of running and fighting from it but rather working with it, understanding it.î
Katheryn: ìI know and itís a lot of work.î
Jess: Is the fear of the unknown really real or just something that we are not considering?
the unknown
In each relationship (it does not matter if itís with a person or with a thing or with a moment in time) what is our responsibility?
Is it our responsibility to continue to persevere our past... which include our fears and the memory of our fears are in the past?
Öor should it be cultivated in our acceptance with the unknown which is supposed to be our future as our future is to be right here and now?
Pablo: ìFor 3 years now I have been responsible with trying to do the right thing but I do not feel happy I feel like I kill myself I feel like I am killing my spirit.î
Jess: ìTrying to do the right thing what is the right thing?î
Pablo: ìWhat other people say is the right thing.î
The perception of self becomes neuro linguistic identity
Then it becomes responsibility, the ìresponsibilityî programmed in the system in which we live
Then it becomes a friction between the feeling of our self and what the system wants us to be
Then it becomes confusion, pressure, fight and fear
Diego : ´ I would like to say from this comes an automatic question are we living our life or we living the life that the system wants us to live?
past
Öconsidering for example the responsibility in the matter of what is right and what is wrong. It does not matter if I do my job for 10 hours a day or 1 hour or if I am joblessÖ
I mean the main question is are we living our life in accordance with our sensitivity and perception of self or are we living a life in a model suggested by the system in which we live?
Thatís the main question. Fear comes from the activation of all of the ideas of guilt regrets or responsibility.
But I think it is quite easy if we have to see our life like a balance which in a plate we have the responsibility as we know it and as we have been told about it
Öand in the other plate we have the psychological freedom not really the material freedom but psychological freedom a free mind what would we choose?
the responsibility that is mostly suggested by the background in which we live? or will we chose our personal psychological intimate freedom?
and this is extremely important so it is more important to understand the mechanism of fear rather then fear itself
for example there are so many people especially in western countries that in fear to be in fear and that is why they get depressed.
Stephanie: ìI was reading your post on Facebook and I was getting a feeling I should participate.î
Jess: ìOk you just had a feeling so your brave enough to go into your fears and share them with other people?î
Stephanie: ìYes something inside of me was pushing me to do it.î
Katheryn: ìFear of the unknownî
Diego: ìFear of the unknownî
Katheryn: ìUnknownî
Stephanie: ìFear of the unknownÖ ever since I was a kid if I did not know something I would not do it Öeven if my parents tried to convince me to do it I still would not do it
Öfor example I did not know what to expect and I was always thinking ëoh my god what is going to be and what is going to happen?í. Should I really do it or maybe I should not show up and thatís better like this kind of fear.î
Diego: ìYou know whatÖ itís the classic fear of not being able to match the expectations that we have. Right?
For example the fear of not being able to say what exactly we want to say the fear of not being able to feel what we want to feel and we can call that fear insecurity right?
Behind insecurity there is the fear of the unknown. Ok? But if you think about it the unknown is something that we do not know yet right? So how can we fear something that we do not know yet?
Suppose that for some mysterious reason you find yourself on a lost island in the middle of nowhere and you are alone on the island ok?
In this case what you fear is the present moment meaning to say just natural fear and youíre not anymore in relationship with your past
your past in that situation is just your memory in your mind or your identity in your mind but every action with comparing yourself with the past it does not work on that island itís not helpful
Öso if we consider these two examples the lost island and the life you are living right now what is the difference?
Stephanie: ìThat I compare myself with my past?î
Diego: ìAnd from comparing comes suffering confusions and fear of tomorrow, do you agree with that ?
that from comparison comes fear of the unknown and struggling and suffering and confusion do you agree? And so I ask you a question now if you understand it why do you compare?î
Stephanie : ìThatís a good question actuallyî
Katheryn : ìI think the way I can pin it down in one sentence is fear of the unknown and that is a big one for me.
I have not done a lot of things that are kind of out of my comfort zone and they are probably cause of my past fears.
The unknown things for me is falling in love thatís a big one having a good long lasting meaningful relationship thatís important thatís balanced.î
Angela : ìIt tends to be right when we wake up or right before we go to bed or when we are really tired and not paying attention when we are frustrating and annoyed with one another and we feel like we are wasting time in this relationship.î
and we feel like we're wasting time in this relationship"
Jessica : ìYou guys are triggering each others fears and more fears have been coming up for you guysî
Katheryn : ìAnd I have a lot of fear I do not want to mess up and I do not want to do what my parents did for my whole life pretty much.î
Diego : ìAre you really sure to fear of the unknown? where is the fear?î
Katheryn : ìWhat do you mean?î
Jessica : ìAre you sure the unknown is what your afraid of?î
Katheryn : ìI think so what do you think I am afraid of?î
Angela : ìItís the fear of not making progress not succeedingÖî
Diego : ìIf we have some fears the fear exists only when they are related with something no?
for example if I fear a new relationship this fear is obviously is not the new relationship because the relationship is not taking place right now.
Itís the unfamiliar so am I in fear with the possibility of the new relationship or am I in fear with what I do know with what could happen with what can happen tomorrow?
Its quite relevant cause if we observe the origin of fears, existential fears in this case, and the unknown, all of these fears are actually belonging to the known, the field that we know right?î
Katheryn : ì I am kind of just going off of what I know.î
Shiva : ìShe gets really frustrated when it does not go fast enough and like jessica said we do not need to push it it will come
Ö but for her it needs to go fast and if that is not the case then ya that is the fear for her it does not go fast enough
and if she does not see the approval fast enough then she starts thinking she failed and then frustration comes and I try to remind her what jessica said do not push it it will comeÖî
Jessica : ìWe are going to have to do it many times in order to understand and be aware of the pattern to understand how your mind works and falls into the addiction.î
Ayumi : ìSo when those kind of feelings come up maybe I should ask myself questions to see what kind of pattern I have right? So I should feel this feeling, observe and to gradually detach myself.î
Jessica : ìWhen the mind is fully detached then the psyche fliesî
Angela : ìWe have gotten to a point where we can actually communicate with each other effectively, we actually now can realize when our ego is getting in the way.î
Diego : ìBut if you observe clearly this fear, this fear is placed in the idea of the future. the fear to fail takes place in the future. itís a fear of the future.
but you are experiencing your relationship with yourself and with both of you and with the present moment in the present moment and itís the present moment that you are building up your future.
so how can we build up our future in our present moment if we fear to fail in the future? which is not yet here. So I ask to you where is the fear? fear is in the future or better to say being the future as something not yet real.
Itís the fear towards the idea of the future. its not in the present moment. if youíre afraid to fail, you cannot fully peacefully experience the present moment.
And very often we tend to pick up stuff from the past being fear of something, fear to be not enough for something through the comparison we do through the past.
And we project this towards the screen of the future and in this way we cannot live our present.
If I have to say it an easier way: if I fear the unknown, the experiencing of the fear in regards to unknown and to me is connected to the known and what I know. It is not connected with the unknown right? ì
Katheryn- ìYes I agree with thatî
Diego : ìTherefore if you want to inquire deeply not in the manifestation in that fear which you know well how it manifests itself but in the origin of this fear the fear of the unknown
Ö you have to inquire in what you know which is your past, and the perception of the time you are living and the comparison you are doing with the past and probably something else which is not yours.
Ömost of the time when we fear the unknown we are actually protecting our fears that belong only to the field of what we know that is the main paradox
Öespecially nowadaysÖ can you think and perceive and inquire in your fear in regards of the unknown without the thoughts and ideas that created that fear?
It is always the friction between ëwhat is nowí ( could be peace joy with no expectations and conditioning) with ëhow I would like things to be tomorrowíÖ through an expectation
so I am I living my relationship through and by peace or am I living my relationship through expectations? Because if I am living my relationship through expectations I will fight continuously.
And I will be in fear to fail also called time and that is not exactly what a relationship is supposed to be. What a relationship is supposed to be for example between two people in which I am free to say :
ì I love you but I am not attached to the expectation or to create a better relationship tomorrowî
then your relationship becomes like a river: it does not matter where the river goes tomorrow the day after tomorrow, it is more important the river rather than the destination of the river.
There must be a self observation constantly otherwise there is identification: I identify myself with my wife because my wife belongs to me.
Or I identify myself with my husband because my husband belongs to me they are my property and I want a better future and I am struggling so hard to make him happy or her happy but thatís a way to avoid the experience of the relationship I am having now
But if you can see your relationship as a spectator in a movie theater and you are watching the relationship as a movie on the screen
and you expect that the movie will be more pleasant but donít forget that you are the movie projector of that relationship. ì
The expectations toward the future are just the movie of our past.
...projected on the psychological screen ...of our present moment.
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these are our you know our monastery temple masters in a way and even those people you knowÖ diego is right even those people we have to let go because they are just a crutch in the end ì
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Jess: ìBut the thing is people are so attached to their beliefs they do not want to detach from their beliefs they just want information in the way that it will be to their basic foundation of their basic belief and they want to build around that
they do not want to question their foundation because ya of course itís important to learn about the religion and new age and even conspiracy theories itís a fact all those things are going on
but itís when people become addicted to it then it becomes their drug like you know when you meet people who are into conspiracies they are freaked out and paranoid all the time they can not live a normal life
and itís really sad to see and itís the same thing with new age people as well again itís like running to stand still or like with religious people they are stuck in it and they do not want to go beyond it.î
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Diego : ìThe New Age scenario and the need of spirituality and new age especially right now after what I call the 2012 delusion in which so many people were expecting some kind of spontaneous awakening.
The need of spirituality, honestly if we inquire honestly, grows from where there is confusion and the main deception in the spiritual need
and the consequential new age expectation is all in the fact that the many the majority of the people that are willing to join whatsoever spiritual path
Öthey do not understand that the point first of all is to ask themselves why they have the need to follow the search for a spiritual solutionÖrather than inquiring the reason you are in that situation, which is a need, a need for something else.
which is a situation of need
Gigi : ìAnd they still found it very hard because itís a surrender. you can take someone with very little education like you said before but you tell them I am asking you not to care.
And for you to say that to them they have to understand so many different things about what you really mean when you say I do not want you to care anymore about your feelings or your thoughts because then you will find the truth,
Öso when someone hears that for the first time or even the hundredth time they do not understand that what diego is really giving me, is the diamond in my pocket, he is telling me there is a diamond in my pocket,
Ö and that I do not have to be a beggar anymore and all he is asking me to do is just look in my pocket right, they can not hear, when they hear that they cannot really hear what youíre saying all they hear is that he is asking me not to care anymore.
ëOf course I care, I careí, do you know what I mean they still have all this identification with what they think what they believe and what they want who they care about
and who they do not care about and all these different things and they are suddenly ask them to all of a sudden to give all that up. Because in their minds which I am sure is something that happens to all of us in our minds
Ö we keep thinking that if ëI keep caring about this thing even though itís never given me any peace and happiness one day itís going to make me happy one day its going to bring me what I wantí.
Unfortunately itís really just a person going after experience after experience after experience where they are like ëI remember one day when diego said to give that all up and now I am suddenly starting to understand what he meant by thatí.
So it takes a human being to go through a lot of experiences to say ëoh when that teacher said X Y and Z this is what they were talking about this is what they were talking aboutí.î
Mind requires psychological security in order to function properly
but when one loses the intimate relationship with his sensitivity ....
then that security ..whihc is the Known...becomes a structure...
...and this existential state creates the viruses of fear and confusion...
identity
Jessica : ìSo how is fear born : first we perceive and then we think and then we translate neurolinguisticly and then we think again and is the intellectual realm of the mind. ì
Diego: ìNothing is wrong until now but the problem comes when we live our life through what we have translated through the intellect only.î
Jessica: ìAnd when oneloses their relationship with their inner sensitivity and then their existence becomes entirely intellectual including god, relationships, society and yes, even spirituality to.î
Diego: ìThen we start to structure everything shaping everything into an identity and then we identify ourselves in our identity and then itís a done deal ì
Jessica: Identity starts to eat our innocence our sensitivity and our relationship with everything because our identity in order to survive it must be in constant relationship with the known.
And the known is the past and it is with our relationship with the present moment and the past that the fears grows
and that relationship is identity and thatís the birth of fear collectively and intimately shared. Its all identity institutions searching rules marks and yes-even spirituality too.
Itís all about identity so now some will think ëah I finally get it its all because I identify myself with the pastí its actually true but its not enoughÖ
this realization is not even the entire book of life that each one of us is living. Not even the cover of a very very deep book the liberation of fear starts here but are you really willing and ready to go deeper down the rabbit hole of the psyche
the liberation of fear starts here but are you really willing and ready to go deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole of the psyche?