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To me, when I think about self-determination I think about giving people resources to make
decisions in their lives that are meaningful to them.
The strategic resource in all of this is knowing people in a meaningful sense.
The more we can stay with them and help them process, the clearer they’ll be about what
they need and want and will be useful to them. So when you do that, in my experience, when
I know people in a meaningful sense, they don’t need as much psychiatry as we thought
or as many consultants like me as I thought or plans or psychological evaluations they
need ordinary everyday things like good places to live and meaningful jobs and good health
and friends. I think relationships turn the world around.
Um it’s always been true it’ll always be true, ah, we are relational beings, we
are um we have social brains and we need to be connected in relationship to be well, and
in the absence of that we get sick and don’t feel well. And I think I said it before, Beth
Mount said it first, loneliness is the only real disability, you know when you have people
in your life you love and who love you can get through anything you gotta to get through
. When I have really gotten to know people and
they have me by my heartstrings and I have them by their heartstrings ah real things
that make difference happen, you know its not its not.
I can’t think of a more elegant thing to say.