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Two years ago.
In high school.
I was 12.
I think it's a process.
I always thought, "Now isn't the right time."
I felt like the moment to tell them had arrived.
I suppressed it for nine years.
It was more of a process.
I could feel myself shaking slightly.
I just couldn't stand it anymore.
It felt like someone was standing on my chest.
I tried to say it indirectly.
It gave me so much stress inside.
Telling myself was hard too at first.
We agreed that we wouldn't tell anyone we were together.
I felt like I couldn't talk about it.
After a while, it started to really bother me that I could never talk about it
that I couldn't say, "There's someone I really love."
And I said, "Mom, I'm a lesbian."
"Yes, I'm a gay man."
I told them, "I'm dating a girl, and I'm very much in love."
I'm gay.
I'm bisexual.
Think... Elton John.
The girls always kept trying to convince me.
She advised me to forget about it.
"Don't worry, dear, you'll grow out of it."
"Don't be that way. Be the way I want you to be."
He laughed for about three minutes straight and refused to believe me.
"Yeah, that's what I thought."
My kids accepted it positively.
"OK, tell anyone, just not your dad."
She told me not to tell anyone, to make sure no one at home in the countryside found out.
She said she was going to faint.
"But Mom, does it really matter?"
"Why didn't you tell me sooner?"
And they continued fishing.
If you want to accept me, accept me for who I am, and not for who you think I am.
It's good to tell everyone you think should know.
Our relationship has gotten a lot better since then. With everyone who knows, really.
I don't have to hide who I am.
For me, coming out feels like coming home.
It's really powerful to say out loud for the first time.
When you tell other people, you don't have to change, but the world around you changes.
This is what freedom means to me: that I can live the way I am.
It's an incredible feeling.
It's liberating.
It wasn't easy, it wasn't easy at all...
It's a huge relief.
It's liberating.
I feel whole, I feel good.
I feel at home.
{coming out} - telling yourself or others that you're lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or *** (LGBTQ)
Only 16 percent of Hungarians know LGBTQ people, according to research by the Equal Treatment Authority
Coming Out Day -- October 11, 2012