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In India, elephant keepers
tie their baby elephants up to giant stumps of trees
which, at the time, they are too small to move
but as the elephants develop, to the point where they're strong enough to move those
big trunks of wood without even a second question
The elephants don't believe that they can
Right now most of us hearing this story, or who have heard this story before, are saying
uh... poor elephants, they grow up and they have no idea
that their reality,
what they believe is real has nothing to do with the actuality of them being big enough to move those stumps
but what we're really talking about here
with the example of the elephants
is you
in your life
those beliefs which you hold
which are a limit to you
plague our lives
they are to blame for the lives that we're living which are less than what we want them to be
Today, if you haven't caught on already, what we are going to be talking about is: How to change a belief?
the first key to changing your beliefs
is to change the way you think about beliefs and the way you think about reality
if you think about your beliefs
and reality as if it is fixed
then it does not contain the natural flexibility which will allow you to change beliefs
So, what is a belief?
A belief,basically, is a thought which you keep thinking
so much so that that creates a very strong frequency within this universe and
that frequency when it collapses
wavefunction into the
third dimensional understand that we call
physical reality
you are now looking at proof
so, you're thinking a thought
which you have thought so often that is now manifested as physical proof
now that you are looking at the physical proof
that, then
strengthens what we would call, a belief
which is basically a thought
which is backed up by confidence
backed up by faith,
trust and acceptance
we could call a belief an assumed truth
or an assumed reality
this is not to be confused with an objective truth or a fixed reality
really, beliefs are basically only the best available explanation that we have
based on the evidence
that we've been observing
in our physical life
Beliefs can
and should be changed if they are a detriment to you instead of the benefit to you
The only beliefs
which we should be holding
and maintaining in our lives are the beliefs which are a benefit to us
especially because, in order to manifest things into our reality
the frequency of our desire and the frequency of our belief
must be an exact match
An example of this would be:
If you have the desire for a perfect relationship
but you have the belief that you don't deserve perfect relationships
the relationship you want cannot show up for you
in order for a perfect relationship to show up in your life
your desire for that perfect relationship and the belief that you deserve it
must line up
and then you will experience the manifestation
for some
using hypnosis or subliminal programming
maybe something which feels good to do at the time and you may want to try to do it
if it's being something which is supplemented with
intentional change
there's nothing wrong with trying this modality of changing your beliefs
it can be a benefit to people, sometimes
but, in my opinion our greatest empowerment,
our greatest freedom
and our greatest joy
is served by
consciously deliberately
changing our beliefs
and becoming the deliberate creators of our own lives and realities
the first step to changing a belief is to identify what that belief is
this can potentially mean chasing a core belief which I have gone into
in my video, my Ask Teal video, on shadow work if any of you would like to refer to that.
the reason you want to find out what your deep...
what we could call a root belief is,
is because, you could say something, have a thought like: I hate speaking in public
that thought is not a core belief
what that is, is an emotional reaction to a core belief
a core belief such as: I'm not good enough.
you always want to be working with the root belief
when you're dealing with
changing your beliefs because it's kind of like a weed,
all of us who understand gardening
know that if you don't pull up the root of a weed
the weed will just keep growing back and keep growing back
So, dealing with
a thought like: I hate speaking in public
would be like dealing with the branch of a weed
whereas dealing with the core belief I'm not good enough, would be
really changing the root
of that weed
simply identifying
what a belief is
is shinning light
on that belief
which decreases their chokehold on you
this is because the vibration of being inside a belief is different than the vibration of looking at a belief
for example: is a different vibration to truly believe
I am not good enough
than it is to say
ahh! I am now looking at that thought which has cropped up which is
I am not good enough
in one you are in the vibration of observing
in one you are in the actual belief
So, just identifying the belief
decreases the vibration that they have
thus, decreases the ability of that belief to manifest into your reality
2)
examine the belief
which you held
we're talking about this negative belief
the only people who have a right
to the beliefs which they hold
are the people who question and decide on those beliefs
not the people who pick them up by default
or experience
we could call this
non deliberate beliefs
you really ought to deliberately choose the beliefs you hold
and take your teeth out of truth
this is what people who are justifying their own beliefs, like to do:
they like to act as if
truth exists outside of a person
in order to change your beliefs you gotta pull your teeth out of the idea
of some kind of truth which exist separate from you
in your subjective reality
let's pretend that truth does not exist
because everything subjective
So, a belief is not true or false
that's where we need to begin
Beliefs are not true or false
They are either
beneficial
or detrimental
that is the only thing you have to decide about your beliefs
my belief is neither true nor false it is either beneficial or detrimental to me
you need to make a list of how it is beneficial to you and a list of how it is detrimental to you
and then
you need to decide if it's more beneficial or more detrimental
once you make your decision (it will usually be detrimental)
decide what you would rather believe
so, let your non beneficial beliefs
be your inspiration
towards beliefs which you want to believe
4)
determine the emotions that are holding you to the belief
like super glue
because of the payoff
that that belief
is creating for you
for example
if I believe that I'm not good enough
if I'm being very honest about the emotional payoff
it might look something like
I get pity when
I feel like I'm not good enough and then I express that to somebody, and that pity
feels like people care about me
or... when I
think thoughts like I'm not good enough I give up the responsibility
of having to try something new
we have to decide whether the emotional payoff
is worth
the limitations
of the beliefs which we're holding
nothing will help anybody to change something
that they don't want to change
so, the first step really, which we are calling the fourth step is, really decide whether you want to change that belief or not
that dedication is going to help
unglue the super glue of the emotional payoff which is keeping you tied to that belief
and once you
decide that you really want to change a belief
and that super glue starts to get weak the belief begins to get weak as well
I was at a seminar once
when I heard probably the best
analogy
when we're talking about beliefs, that I have ever heard
it was comparing beliefs
to tabletop
so, the table top is a belief
let's call it a negative belief
and the legs of that table
is the experiences and the evidence which we are using to back up that belief
and the emotions
what I was just talking about, the emotional payoff
is like the super glue holding the legs of that table to the floor
so, what we need to do is first
decrease the strength of the super glue which is the emotions
then knock out the legs of the table which is the evidence
that we're using to support the belief
and then the belief will fall
and it can be replaced
so, step five after we have
decreased the emotional super glue
is to figure out an alternative explanation,
replace basically, the evidence which we are using to back up our belief, the legs of the table
with new evidence
so you need to
find an alternative explanation
and find alternative evidence
for your belief
by playing devil's advocate
or maybe we should say playing the angels advocate
for example
you could start with a belief like: I'm not good enough
and, obviously that may be backed up by this kind of evidence
I may have been for my whole life perpetuating this by saying:
My father always told me that I wasn't good enough with his actions and potentially with his words
so, an alternate explanation may be something like this:
My father has a very self-conscious
way of being
he's petrified of embarrassment
and so, I
made mistakes and that was an embarrassment to him
and I can explain this by saying
he was the one
who felt as if
he wasn't good enough
I simply adopted this belief
when in truth mistakes don't make anybody not good enough
mistakes are just a part of learning
so, this kind of reframing
of all of the evidence you're using to support your beliefs
is really what is going to take the strength away from that belief which you've been holding for so long
you want to
reframe every single bit of evidence
and proof
that you are using to back up any belief you don't wanna have any more
play the devil's advocate
or the angel's advocate
and replace those with new ways of looking at the situation
a completely new point of view
6)
look for new evidence
of your new belief
I talk on a lot of my videos about the fact that the brain is a scientist
so you can use it
as the scientist that it is
and send it out on a scavenger hunt
for new proof
once you focus on the evidence
or the proof
to back up a new belief
more of those
proof and those experiences will be flowing into your experience as per the
Law of Atraction, this is just how it works
will start off looking for proof
and it will snowball into your experience
until you're sitting in an entirely different reality
an example would be
How am I good enough?
i've had successes
you can list them
I have worth which is innate
the things that I have to say, could really benefit other people
you want to look for as much evidence and as much proof as is humanly possible
go on a total scavenger hunt for it
make it your focus
read articles about whatever you want your new belief to be
and books
and movies, anything that reinforces the new belief, you want to make your focus
7)
use affirmations
correctly
affirmations
don't really work for people
the way that they have been taught to you, because
when you have a belief like: I'm not good enough
that has been backed up by years and years and years and years of proof
when you say something like: I am good enough
suddenly it contradicts your own sense of intelligence and it sounds to you like a lie
so, it makes you more aware of where you aren't
than closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be
so, we need to back up a little bit and be incremental,
and for lack of a better word
we need to place stepping stones
on our road to closing the gap between where we are and where we want to be
so, for example, we could say I am not good enough
now, if you replace that with an affirmation like: I am good enough!
you're going to feel your whole body back up from that emotionally, because you don't actually believe that
but you can find things which are vibrationally on the way to closing that gap
between, I am not good enough, and I'm good enough
by coming up with things you actually do believe which are on the way to the belief that I'm good enough
so, for example, instead of "I am not good enough" you could think
I'm a captivating person
if that's something I truly do believe and it's an incremental step towards "I'm good enough"
that is a thought you want to be using as an affirmation
"I have valuable things to share with people"
is another example
and eventually, once you start practicing, incrementally practicing
beliefs which are closer and closer to the vibration of "I am good enough"
which you actually do believe
Then, pretty soon that gap will be closed. You will say "I'm good enough" and you will believe it
it is all too common
in the world that we have today for people to be living lives which they
think are not up to par with their own happiness
you watch people complaining about the way their life is
you watch people who are really holding them back with these beliefs which they have about themselves and about the life that they live
and they don't really want to take responsibility
nor do they usually know what is creating the life which they're living because they think
that reality is fixed
they think basically, that they come here and they are a part of the reality and
bad things can happen to them without invitation and without focus
the problem is that that just is not correct
the way this universe is meant to run is that it is meant to become the reflection of your thoughts your beliefs
if you are living a life which is anything less than satisfactory and joyful
it is because your focus, your thoughts, and thus your beliefs are not up to par with your desires
they are not
in alignment with who you really are
and they are not in alignment with what feels good to think
so if you want your life to be different
in any way, shape, or form
you have got to change the story that you're telling about your life
you've got to change the thoughts which you are thinking
and when you change the thought that you're thinking
It will change the way that your reality is structuring itself
and then your beliefs about your reality will change
and everyone will stand in amazement wondering how it is that you have created this life
of so much bliss and freedom for yourself
and you can turn around and say:
it's because I took the initiative
to change
my thoughts that I was thinking on a daily basis
and I took the initiative to change
my own beliefs
and when I did that my reality
shifted to become
the exact reality which I wanted, I deliberately created it for myself
it's possible for you all to do this
and it's possible from the space that you're in right now because you're only access of power is right here where you stand
So, I hope this helped you
Have a good week!
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