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Hello, my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist, and I'm going to talk to you, about how to
better communicate with your wife. Now, a fact of communication in a relationship, is
very, very important, because we cannot be expected to read the other person's mind.
It is very important for us to be able to use a language, that the other person understands.
Not everything has to be verbally communicated. You can communicate many things by physical
touch, physical contact, by a smile, a look, but when it comes to verbal communication,
and when it comes to problem solving through verbal communication, it is very important
to use non-confrontational language, so this is what we call using I language, instead
of you language. What this means, is that you say to your wife, I am very upset that
this and this has happened, instead of, It's your fault, and I'm very upset, so try to
focus on how the situation makes you feel, rather than placing blame on your spouse.
Another effective communication tool, is making clear how you feel, and what you mean. Do
not say yes, when you mean no, and do not say no, when you mean yes. Make sure that
you are clear in your communication. Make sure that your spouse understands where you're
coming from. Maybe they don't have all the information. Maybe that's why they don't understand
what's going on. Try to be clear, and assume that they will be supportive and understand,
if you just explain yourself, well enough.