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Preposterous.
Man is preposterous, ok?
and essentially if you sit back and say "well..."
"So he is, what are we going to do with him?"
We can't do a *** thing.
And so history moves to that point
where people undergo that change.
Let me say it another way
The sailboat will come when it comes
You know what I'm talking about?
A lot of people rowing the boat and the guy says
"How long are they going to row?"
"You have any other suggestions?"
"No" "Well keep rowing"
While you're in a row boat culture instead of saying
"Don't people realize they're driving themselves to nuclear war?"
And your mother may say "yes, it's true"
But she has no investment in American Radiant Corporation
She doesn't own any sophisticated metal plants
where she sells space age metals
She doesn't give a ***,
"stop making weapons!" you know.
But if your grandfather dies and leaves her
a half interest in titanium
then she says "where's titanium used?"
"in submarines, space vehicles..."
"When is the next space program coming up?"
See? Because she's involved.
And that's why I mentioned that students are pretty good
because they don't have any investment when they're going to school
"stop the war now!!"
But once they get out of the school and they work for a law firm
Titanium Incorporated, American Titanium Corporation...
Dow Chemical, they now have a vested interest
They have a home, a car, and a kid going to school.
A community, they belong to the Elks,
they appear before people.
so all of those things reinforce their existence.
The things I teach take away from your life.
Everything I teach here takes things away from you.
in the normal world.
It makes it tougher to get along with people
it makes your income lower
it makes you more disagreeable
There's not a *** commodity
that I have to sell here that's any good.
And people wonder why this system isn't successful.
Once somebody said to me
What is Sociocyberneering?
I said "it's a non-profit organization"
They said who's the president
I said "I am".
The whole idea is,
if you want to make money
there are books like
"How to Make Friends and Influence People"
"How to Get Along with the Joneses"
If you want to do that, that's another package.
We call that living a lie.
Where you smile on the outside and ulcerate on the inside.
Where you have palpitations and temple beating
but you get up and you smile.
When you go to the "right" schools
when you live with the Bentleys of Long Island
and they send you to finishing school, the little girl
you might be at a party and your husband might
tip over a bowl, smile, see?
Then when you get home you chew his *** out.
What happens is uneducated people,
unsophisticated people
they ball each other out
and you go to a Greek party,
you go to a Syrian party, Turkish party...
and they ball you right out there
But, sophisticated people smile, see?
So if your wife trips or ....
and you walk out and then you beat her up...
normal people think everyone gets along so well
"why can't you be like that?"
See they turn it around like that
See that couple always smiling ?
They get along so well...
Whereas, rude people down to earth
you know they manifest their anger right away
they have less ulcers
but the finishing school people have lots of ulcers
psychological problems.
See?
So, you've got to understand
what we need
is not to go to finishing school
and not to be so simple as to ball people out
in the presence of others.
What we have to attain is a point of view
that doesn't lead to the balling out.
You know what that means.
That means...
You give somebody something they think they want
and they try and assemble it
and it's beyond their experience
Instead of saying
"i got you something and you can't even put it together"
"Dope, I should have given it to your older brother."
This is the normal world.
So what you do is
you give them something and say
"if you have difficulty assembling it I'll assist you
in whatever way I can
If I'm able to."
And if they can't put it together
says "there's just no use buying anything for you...
you just don't have the ability.
See? Don't conclude, act that way.
Now, you would look strange as a teacher
if you did that.
If you always were objective, meaning...
if you always acted on behalf of that person.
That is love.
Let me say it again.
If you love the students you work with
Then you're bound to hurt them.
Like I said yesterday
You hurt people because
whenever you instruct people
in the beginning they don't come up to the levels
of instruction that they might think they're at
So if i walk over and say
"Your vanishing points are too close"
Now that's always associated with criticism.
"Uh, your light and shade is too abrupt".
Well that's not criticism.
That is, uh...
Then I'll even take a pencil
and show you how to attain that effect.
or try to.
But it's not criticism.
It is clarification of insufficiency.
That is quite different.
Now criticism is something like this;
"I took her skating and she fell 9 times
embarrassed me in the rink"
That's sick.
It's not even criticism, it is sick.
There's no sense in us to point at people and say
"Boy did she do a stupid thing on Wednesday.
Of all the dopes, there's the prize dope!"
Now you've got to understand
that the person making this announcement
has a low self sufficiency
and he climbs up on your back
That's the way he gets his own sufficiency.
On your back.
Then he says "he who's laughing
is the biggest dope!"
and he climbs on his back.
You see?
So there are people who have no existence.
And they...we must feel sorry for them.
And not only that...
the thing to do is, sometimes
if you do it right...
is when a person starts on you...
You mind if i use you?
That they start on you
and you say "not only that...
I failed 6 times in the 3rd grade"
And you go on naming all the other things.
They go "you're not that bad!!"
And you go on elaborating
Sometimes they might get the message.
And the idea is that kind of conversation
generates morbidity,
depression, anger, hostility.
So normal people that come to me
I used to have therapy sessions
personal therapy.
They come to me and they got a problem...
They will always have a problem
as long as the language they inherit in the culture
has "I'm not as successful as I might be"
"I can't seem to learn as fast as George"
As long as they have comparative values
they will always have problems.
"All the boys used to carry your books to school,
now that your not a pretty your sister came to town
they're carrying her books to school"
As long as your brought up with prettiness
and ugliness and less prettiness
"I'm getting older, I got a new wrinkle here"
"and i got 9 chins, see?"
As long as you're caught up in those values
there is the emotional depression
You know, "the years are rolling by so fast"
Like you want to go back
to the old days.
And the sanity of the future
is looking to the future.
Because, as the computer gets bigger
and wiser, it's more valuable.