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Hi and welcome to my latest video. As you can see by the title, this video is about
how to write an effective first message to a lady that you like on Plenty of Fish or
other dating sites.
Now the first thing that I would say is if you have been writing one message and copying
and pasting it and then sending it out to multiple women, I would be very surprised
if you get much success doing that.
It's extremely clear when a message has been written in this way. I've received
messages from women that are quite clearly not personalized enough for me to know that
they've actually been sent to me only and I very rarely reply to those types of messages.
Now, when you bear in mind that an attractive lady that you may like the look of on Plenty
of Fish probably gets in the region of 50 to maybe 100 messages a day, if you write
something as simple as, "Hi. You're attractive. Do you want to chat?" or something like
that, you're not likely to get any response from her unless you're extremely attractive.
You're very rich. You got a six-pack or whatever. If you're like me, Mr. Average,
those sorts of messages will just not cut it on Plenty of Fish.
So this is what I do. I will go into Plenty of Fish. I will do a search. I will find the
women that I do find attractive. I will then add them as favourites. The only reason I
do this is that I can go back and easily find out the women that I did like the look of
and then find out a little bit more about them.
So when I've saved them as favourites, I will then look at their profile. Now the first
thing that I look at is all the photographs they've got on Plenty of Fish and the reason
for that is quite often you will see something that's a little bit peculiar in the background
in a picture like this.
It's easy to make a funny comment about what's in the background to her image that
she probably didn't realize was there before. Of course I pay attention to the name that
she has actually chosen, her username on Plenty of Fish. Quite often, you can actually ask
a question about that. Generally people choose usernames that have some meaning to them,
so don't be afraid to ask them why they chose that username or maybe make a funny
comment about the username.
Then look down at the About Me section and see what they've written about themselves.
You could well find that you've actually got something in common with this person or
you've been to a similar place before and that is normally enough if you do write a
decent message to actually get a reply from someone.
Now you may be watching this video thinking, "Well, that's obvious. I know all this
already." But I see an awful lot of messages on certain forums as to why men cannot get
any contact from women on Plenty of Fish and a lot of them say they do send out generic
messages, but that clearly doesn't work.
What you should be doing is doing something that I mentioned in this video. It's not
difficult. It may take you a little bit more time than just copy and pasting messages,
but you are going to get a much higher chance of getting the message back which is ultimately
what we're after doing, isn't it?
Anyway, just a short video. I hope you enjoyed it. Why not click on the link on this video?
It will take you to another page on my website where you can download a 15-page report that
will tell you how I got about getting a lot of attraction on Plenty of Fish. OK? Thanks
very much indeed. I'm Kevin Hallow.