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Social Frihet Show - Season 1
Episode 1 - Social Freedom
Every Monday on Youtube. Bloopers on Wednesdays.
(Late night at the office in Gothenburg, Sweden)
We do it just random. It´s chill. If we look at each other or not it doesn't matter. Are you ready? Yes.
Me and Nils went to high school together here in Gothenburg. We were best friends.
We used to hang out together almost every day. You're cute Nils.
After high school we were kind of fed up with each other. Because it was just too much. So our ways parted.
Then we met two years later at a party. And Nils introduced me to a book.
- When I went to high school I didn´t meet a single girl during the whole period. And that really sucked.
But a friend gave me a book after high school.
A book called The Game.
A few weeks after I read the book I was on a train on my way back home from my sister in Uppsala.
Or, I get on the train
I get on the train with my bags and stuff and I go to sit at a table. And there´s a cute girl sitting across from me.
So I want to say hi to her.
I want to talk to her and get to know her. känna henne. I put my bag on the rack,
I sit down without saying hi and.... Time goes and I look at my watch you know. I must talk to this girl before I get off.
So I sit there in silence.
I look down. For a few seconds I dare to have eye contact, then I look out the window.
Away from her eyes.
A four hour train ride and I don´t even say hi to her.
When I sat there I feelt that I am not being myself.
I'm not…
I am not doing what I want to do in my life.
I felt so terribly frustrated by everything that was holding me back.
That in combination with having read The Game, having read about his journey, made me really...
I really, really understood that you can develop yourself and you can decide just what life you want to live or what you want to learn and how you want to be as a person.
The first thing I wanted to deal with in my life was to be able to approach girls.
Never to be in such a situation again and instead just do what I want to do.
Since I didn't...
I didn´t dare to take charge of this myself but then I met Carl again. Then I told him what I told you now and he felt the same.
Then we decided to do this together. To solve this for ourselves.
När Nils berättade om denna boken för mig så var jag helt hooked.
When Nils told me about this book I got hooked. I thought we were going to be like kings after we learned this.
All our problems, or mine at least, would disappear.
So we decided to learn all the techniques in this book
and practice them.
And we did it by going to Stockholm every summer since 2010 because we didn´t dare to it in Gothenburg. We were so ashamed to practice here at home. So we went there.
We had cheat sheets in our back pockets.
And planned everything we were going to say.
We bought spy cameras that looked like MP3 players and had them here.
We had them on when we were out practising.
We would walk up to girls at daytime and at clubs and say these lines.
It's sick when you think about it.
After a while we noticed that it didn´t feel right.
We wanted to be ourselves and be able to do this.
We didn't want to have it preplanned you know.
We had a lot of success. We started by saying hi to girls.
Then we started giving compliments and then we dared to go for phone numbers. In the end we dared to... We met lot´s of girls.
It worked but we always felt so limited.
And we have several times... I say it on camera. Nils, this doesn´t feel good. I can do this without the techniques.
But Nils loves to intellectualize so he said no, let´s keep doing this.
We started talking about fears we had and we realized it wasn´t just about girls. We had them in all areas of life.
Me and Carl sat down in Stockholm 2011 and we talked about different things we were afraid of. We quickly realized it wasn´t just about approaching women.
We started to think about school and when it was scary to ask something during a lecture.
We discovered other things like none of us had told our parents that we love them.
That was also one thing we wanted to do but hadn´t done yet.
Then we were 22.
The big thing was that we were both afraid of looking stupid.
We had trouble relaxing. Had pride as we called it. Always a facade. We didn´t want to accidentally seem stupid.
Or seem insecure or nervous or make fools of ourselves. That was the worst we could think of.
That really held us back and didn´t do the things we have started to do now that are what develop us the most.
The same day in 2011 when we started to talk about these fears my dad called me in the evening
My dad is from iran and he's really strict. We didn´t always have a great relationship.
But then I decided that in this conversation I am going to tell him for the first time in my life that I love him.
So dad calls me and he says: Hi, I am going to Greece tomorrow. I just wanted to tell you.
And I start thinking, okay I'm telling him now.
I started to feel the same feeling...
The same feelings in my body as when Nils and I are approaching girls.
Being nervous, pulse rising, beginning to sweat and I prepare myself to say it. And I say: Have a good time.
And I hang up.
Nils stands beside me in the room then and he knows I was going to say it. He understood.
So I go WTF Nils, I didn´t say it. I didn´t dare.
So I say no way, I am doing this. So I call him back and said. Dad, I love you. And he starts to cry.
That was a very clear sign to me that we have these fears on so many levels in life. And that I really want to get rid of them.
When we realized how many facets in life these fears affect that was when Social Frihet became what Social Frihet is today.
We decided. We are going to do things we are afraid of, challenge ourselves. We are going to actively find what we are afraid to do and do it.
Because then we feel great and it leads to good things and we develop.
So we decided to get it on film. We film our path and document our whole development.
In this YouTube series you get to follow us and a lot of the things we have done. Doing things we are afraid of.
Social freedom is to do precisely what you feel like doing.
Never let your fears hold you back.
Not caring about making a fool of yourself.
You have to be bad to get good. And the worst that can happen is that you learn something.
(We started with saying ”Hi”)
- Hi!
- Hi.
- Here. Perfect.
- Headphones. Shall I do it anyway?
- Hi!
- Hi!
- Hi - Hi?
- Hello
- No?
(Then we gave compliments)
- Hi! I just wanted to say you are really cute.
-Thx a lot! You too.
- Have a nice day!
-She said "you too".
- That's really good.
- I believe many of them don´t even have time to think. But she did.
- I know.
- Impressive.
-I did it smooth, I think.
-Probably because she was sitting still. No stress.
-It´s good that you make them feel comfortable.
-Yeah that's the point.
-They see that you're comfortable too.
-That's what we aim to do.
- Flip-flops maybe.
- Hi! I just walked by and I just wanted to say that you are so beautiful. It´s the only thing I want to say.
-I thought you wanted to buy a pair of shoes.
-No. Have a nice day!
-I thought we were buying flipflops.
-We could have done that.
-Best I've ever done.
-First I've ever done.
-In front of everybody. Everybody heard everything.
(Stand-up on the tram's of Gothenburg)
- We have a boat here in Gothenburg that my girlfriend is named after.
- It´s called The Toad.
- We decided we don´t want to have any kids.
- If anybody does, you can pick them up tomorrow.
- I´m 23 years now. Last year I told my dad that I love him.
(Lectures)
-He started to cry. I never told my dad that I love him before that. Why didn´t I do that? What was I afraid of?
(We don't always dare)
- High, clear and slow. OK, Carl. You are going to say the following. Do you want to repeat it again?
- I could do that.
- Hi! We are going to see some friends so we are in a hurry but I really like your energy and would like your phone number.
-Ah, good.
-OK, I´ll go... Did you say hey or hello first?
-Does it matter?
-No but I think it´s interesting. You go shopping at a mall and you always go Hi! And in english ”Hey guys!”
-Here is your first!
-Your first.
-Your first!
-You're starting.
- Just go Nils. We must get going now.
-Is she listening to music?
-It doesn´t matter.
- No, I chicken out.
-Chicken out? That makes me a thousand SEK richer.
-But why do I start today? You took my spot last time.
-Doesn't matter.
-Lets play rock paper scissors to settle it.
-No, I can't!
- Yes you can, come on go go go.
-Go now Nils. Nils is scared.
-Go now.
-He’s supposed to approach that girl.
-Where is she?
-There.
-He doesn’t dare.
-Come on Nils, go.
-Go. It’s on tape.
-You have to do it.
-No, I'll do it next time.
When we have been afraid of doing something it has usually been that we are afraid to look insecure or make fools of ourselves.
But the interesting thing is that if you want to develop and reach goals you have to go through that.
Nobody is born confident, Nobody is born good at something. You have to get there.
So here are some clips with us when we are insecure, bad or generally fail.
- Excuse me.
- Hi
- Hi
- Do you know the weight of a polar bear?
- No?
- Enough to break the ice.
- hahaha...
- How are you?
- Good.
- I saw you from over there and I thought I wanted to come up and talk some to you.
- I think you´re cute.
- Where are you going?
Home.
Home?
And where is home?
-Trollhättan -Okey, Trollhättan. My name is Nils.
- Does it feel strange that I come up and talk to you like this?
- Ja.
Okej.
- OK. I didn´t mean to make you feel uncomfortable. I just wanted to talk to you.
- Okey
Okey, I'll go now. Have a nice day.
You too.
Bye!
Hello!
- Hi! I think you are very beautiful. Can I ask for your number.
No.
I can´t do that?
Okey…
- Hi. Excuse me.
- Hi, we should go out.
- No.
Why not?
- Wait a second. I think you are really cute.
Where are you going?
- I'm in a hurry, I am going to the bank.
- Have a good day!
I don´t understand, could you say that again.
Because you´re afraid to feel stupid in front of your classmates.
Oh ***, I'm shaking. Can you see that?
- I'm done!
- Oh sorry, there's more..I slept with a thai-girl..
- Hey guys I thought of someting.
- How do you get rid of this?
- No I don´t mean the hair, I mean the white spot from the tanning saloon.
- Sorry, I just had to. Thanks a lot.
- Eh, now there's a break I guess.
The best in our development has been when we reached the stage where we could be ourselves in situations where we used to feel insecure.
So here are some clips of us when we started to get better.
- Hi!
- Hi! How are you doing?
- Fine! How are you?
- I feel great.
- I just felt like talking to you a little.
- Okey.
- My name is Nils.
So we're not strangers for too long.
The sun is behind the clouds now. It´s not as good to be here anymore.
- I know, but I had to get some air anyway.
- Are you on a break from work?
- Sorry?
- Are you on a break from work?
- Yes.
- Nce.
- Do you live in Gothenburg?
- Yes. And you live here?
- It´s a drag to move away from all your friends.
- Yes.
- Or nice maybe?
- I´ve become afraid of birds since I came here.
- How long are you here for?
- I´ve been here for three weeks and I have another week or so.
- Do you know a lot of people here?
It starts to become more. I´ve been here for three years in a row now. In the summer.
- I thought we could exchange numbers and maybe go and have a cup of coffee.
- What are you doing this weekend? Are you busy?
- I text you later.
- Do it!
- It was nice to meet you...
- You too.
- Have a good time!
- You too!
- Ah, have a nice day!
- Bye! - Bye!
Okey.
Okay.
- Just kidding.
- Have a good one.
- You too.
Hi! I don´t want to order anything. I just want to say you are so beautiful. That´s why I have been staring at you all the time.
I almost thought you were going to rob the place.
- So you thought that?
- So you were afraid of that from the start?
- Whats your name?
- Hi!
- Carl is my name. - Hi Carl! - Hi
- ***, now it starts dripping from my hat.
- I would like to have your phone number actually.
- You would wouldn't you.
- Perhaps take you to a café, like Condeco (The name of the place), and buy you a cup of coffee. No I'm just kidding!
- Then I don´t think you will get my number.
- I won´t?
- Why not?
- Not if you take me to Condeco.
- No, I wouldn´t do that.
- Hmm, how old are you?
- 23.
- And you?
- Ehm, 22
- Take the customers first.
- You go first, I am only flirting with her.
- So you´re just flirting. I will not do that.
- I'm lost for words.
- Jag vill ha hennes nummer så...
- Ah, I know.
- Vad vill du ha för te?
- A small.
- 07...?
- Stop it...
- Can you take these customers because I am asking for her number?
- But I feel really...
- But you have no choice, it´s just how it is.
- I´ll help you 07...
- 04.
- 77.
- Oh my god, I just...
- Good, let´s go to Condeco next week and have an orange mocca fantasy together.
- That´s good.
- Bye
When we started this we had no idea how much we would develop or if it would help us at all.
But now it has been proven to us that Social Frihet has helped us...
To be braver and to do things we would never have dared to do otherwise. Before. Otherwise.
Picnic festival, Gothenburg
Now we are going to give it a try to have the whole Apslätten, a picnic festival here in Gothenburg, to sing our national anthem at our national day.
- We felt it was suitable and it feels like a mission for Social Freedom.
- So let´s see how it goes.
- There is somebody standing there trying to get everybody´s attention.
- What do you want buddy?
- Today is our national day so I think we ought to sing our national anthem together!
- Who's leading?!
- We don´t hear what you´re saying buddy.
- National Anthem!
- Du gamla, du fria...!
- Applauds!
- Thanks a lot!
(Venture Cup, Gothenburg Opera)
- That is why the vote takes place later in our program.
- Excuse me, but I have trouble listening to you because you are so beautiful.
- Can I... Wait! Can I buy you dinner tomorrow at 8 o´clock?
- It depends. We could talk out there before I make up my mind.
- Eh, thanks for that!
- That was not a part of the show. Seriously.
- Anyway...
We noticed that the most effective way of developing was to do things you are afraid of.
That´s why we have something we call mission of the week.
Here is this week's mission.
I love my life!
Shout, film it and send us an e-mail at: veckansuppdrag@socialfrihet.se
- You just saw the Mission of the week.
We got this clip last week.
(Submitted video, Stockholm)
- I´ll go.
- Is any question okay?
- I have trouble listening to you. I can´t hear because you are so beautiful. I would really want to take you out some night.
Social Frihet is new, but going against your fears to get more out of life is nothing new at all.
Many have done it before us.
(Next week: Episode 2 - Meet girls)
I thought I´d try to charm you by sending a video greeting to you Elin.
Hi!
Elin...
Elin, could you answer my text message?
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