Self-Help Advice - Effective parenting of teenagers

Hello, I'm Doctor Bernice Bernhard, a New York State Licensed Psychologist, practicing here, in New York City. In this segment, we're going to be talking about effective parenting when raising teens. We live in a complicated world and we live in a world where many of you were not experienced with some of the things that the children are going through now, as teenagers. We did not have ipods, we did not have cell phones, we were not able to talk with several friends at the same time on the internet. They need to know though, that the rules are the same as when we were young and that they have to be respectful, that they have to do their school work, that they have to be home on time, if they're driving, they need to be home, they need to keep their curfew. And, if possible, the consequence for them needs to fit whatever it is that they didn't do. So, if they come home past midnight and their curfew was midnight, then they don't get the car for a week. If they don't do their homework, then they can't go out for the next weekend and see their friends. The other thing I would do because the relationship you have with them is very important, is share the truth. You don't want to share certain things that are personal between you and your partner, but there are certain things you should share. Like if you were upset with a boss that spoke to you, because then, they'll talk to you if they were upset with a teacher. Conversation is the most important thing that's going to keep them away from the things you would like them to be kept away from. Write a contract and keep to it, and remember that some of the things they do, teach them is a privilege, it's not a given. Thank you! Doctor Bernhard.