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We're working on our long term relationship skills today, and we're talking about how
to build a successful marriage. My name is Joe Cuenco, I'm with Family Resources, and
today we're going to be talking about the details about how to create a successful marriage.
We really need to understand that people change over time. So are we willing to grow and adapt
with the person that we are with? Of course there are key fundamentals. You have to have
fundamental love, you have to have fundamental trust, respect, friendship and communication.
If these things don't exist, then chances are you're going to have a real tough time
building something long term. And I would suggest that if you need work in those dimensions,
that you attend a marriage education workshop or visit with some professional to help you
understand how to build those relationship fundamentals. The other thing is the way that
you really approach relationship partnership. Successfully married couples have indicated
that there's three legs of a stool. There is you, there is me, and a third leg is the
marriage. In order to treat the marriage as the most important leg, they really have a
self sacrificing position in that we are both important, but the relationship and the marriage
is the most important thing and that should be the primary consideration. So if you think
about the marriage as being the primary consideration, or the most important thing in a relationship,
people have a tendency to look less selfishly about things and think longer term. You need
to be aligned on your goals, your day to day management of the household. Are you still
doing special things for one another? You really need to take time to treat one another
almost like you did when you were dating. Married people need that. They need special
time for one another and they also need balance and agreement. There's common interests, there
are shared interest and there's time that each individual needs to themselves and with
the family. So and that is if you give more of yourself, you're going to receive more
at the end of the day and that is what you want to build to. A relationship that lasts
a lifetime. I'm Joe Cuenco for Family Resources, relationships for life.