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a lack of support and supervision from your manager
it could be a bit frustrating you perhaps don't know if you're
new in the job it might mean that you don't know whether you're
going in useful direction
some people would really value the lack of supervision they want a
little bit more autonomy
but it sounds like you would like a little bit more reassurance that what
you're doing
is useful, productive and going in the direction of the organization
which is great and my question
to you or my advice would be ask for it
ask for what you need and where you can be really specific
in asking for it, so rather than saying
I want some general help with, if you've got a specific
question how are my accounts with this client
or something specific, it's much easier for a busy manager to be able to answer
your question clearly and directly
for a specific request, it might be that your manager doesn't have time
to give you the support, supervision that you want or need
in your role
and then the question might be who else
around you or maybe not
physically located but who else can maybe give you some of
that guidance that you need and again if people don't know
that you want some mentoring then
often they might be a little bit reluctant to offer it
so again go out ask for what you want and
is also useful to perhaps do a little bit of your own supervision so
take a note
what's worked well today and maybe what are the areas that you think actually
I could have done with a little bit more help or guidance around that because
that again will
make it so that you can ask
more clearly for the areas that you want help in
and your manager, even if they're not the person to help you
they can perhaps point you in the appropriate direction
I think is pretty rotten not to be appreciated at
work at the same time I think
there's so much going on people do seem to forget to say thank you
and give us the reward and recognition that
perhaps we think we might warrant and
I guess there's a couple of things, one how do you appreciate yourself?
how do you do things that you're
acknowledging your own achievements on a daily basis and it can be really simple
have little notebook and
just write what were my three things that I want to appreciate
myself for today, what
what were three good things, they also say if you are
not getting something, actually
to give it out so if you're not being appreciated
how do you make sure that your appreciating your colleagues your
coworker
and even your boss, thanks for making that decision, thanks for being prompt
so there's no reason why you can't give out appreciation to others
perhaps without the expectation it's going to come back
but just to to give out
aggressive colleagues, I think we've all experienced them to some level
or another and I think the short answer is to stay
focused on the task and
not to get pulled in to
their drama, so they may want to shout, they may want to
say things that are actually irrelevant
and the question is do we feel pulled in to
by the tone of what they're saying, the style of what they're saying
the words that they use
and I think the risk is as soon as we start to get pulled in
we loose our professionalism and our composure
so my top tip is to stay out of it and to stay focused on the job
I think there is a common perception that conflict
isn't good and actually
sometimes conflict or maybe a differing of views
can be a really useful way just to
air differences, in business there's often
not one right way of doing things, there are
flavours and nuances and it's
only sometimes by sharing some of these differences
that everybody can get bought in to
the particular direction that that an organization or
or a leader has suggested so
the first thing is that conflict isn't
always bad, I think it then can
morph off into aggressiveness
so what starts as just a differing of ideas
has the potential to become personal, people put a
barb into their comment and it's not just about
this is the business direction but it's like this is the business
direction
you idiot, can't you see that and
then it becomes unpleasant for the individuals concerned
as well as everybody looking on and that's perhaps the time to
to deal with it and I've answered a
question on aggressive behavior which may be
relevant