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Hi, guys. Melissa from CloudMom.com answering a question today from a viewer. Have my children
been influenced by their birth order? What role has the order in which they were born
and their place in the family played in their personalities? And my answer to this question
is that the place they have in our family has 100% played a big role in who they are
and here's a little bit about why. I have found, especially with my three middle children,
that they sort of straddle the role of being both a bigger sibling and a littler sibling.
So, for example, Lachlan is in many ways, he's my second child. He's in many ways a
younger brother to Hedley. They're sort of *** buddies, and a lot of stuff Hedley does
he wants to do as well. They're really like best pals. They can also be competitive with
each other sometimes, but at the same time he's such a big brother, and he's like such
a great helper to me. And often he shares a room with Annaliese and will like take her
to the bathroom in the middle of the night and take care of her, and he's so caring when
it comes to his younger sisters, so that's amazing. I think that part of his personality
has really come out due to the fact that he's had these younger sisters. Same thing with
Beckett. He's very protective of his younger sisters, and Annaliese is very much like the
little sister because her brothers take care of her and look out for her and kind of baby
her and love to play with her. They're always saying, "Oh, she's so cute," but at the same
time she's very much the big sister to Marielle. Meanwhile, Marielle who's my baby. I think
is very much the baby, and I know the whole baby thing can go different ways, but here's
how it's played out with her. She 100% wants to do every single thing her older sister
and brothers are doing, so it's actually made her quite independent because she sees them
putting on her shoes, she wants to put on her shoes. She sees Annaliese putting on her
tights, she wants to put on her tights. So it's all, "Myself. Myself. Myself." And for
a long time, she doesn't want to sit in a high chair. She wants to sit at the table
with the big kids. She wants to put her backpack on. She wants to go to school. So, she's always
like pushing the envelope and trying to even be an older kid than what she is, and I think
that very much comes from being the youngest child in a big family and seeing all this
activity that's happening among the children who are older than she is. Meanwhile, my little
Hedley, my big man, the first kid, I think sometimes feels the weight of the responsibility
of having all these children after him and will say things to me like, "Mommy, can we
just go to the movies, you and me?" and "Can we go off and do something special, you and
me?" And I know he feels strongly the fact that he's not an only child, he doesn't get
his parents to himself, and I know he loves his siblings, but sometimes he wants that
time and I think that's very normal and natural. We don't get it everyday certainly like in
a big way going to the movies, but I just do my best to try to give each kid however
much amount of sort of special one-on-one time that I can. It might be picking them
up from school, I try to put them to bed every night, of course. Reading for a few minutes
and spending time at least checking in with them, talking to them about their day, and
taking them to activities and stuff like that. So that's kind of how this plays out in my
house in terms of birth order. I actually have some text blogs I've written about this,
especially the one I remember about Lachlan when he had his birthday last summer. So check
that out if you're interested and thank you so much for your interest in my family. It
means a lot to me. Thank you so much for watching my videos. I am so just delighted to have
my site and also to be on YouTube and to be able to share all of these experiences about
being a mom. It's been an amazing journey. I so much appreciate every single one of you
that actually watches my videos and God bless you. Thank you so much and I will see you
guys next time on CloudMom.