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ON THE RHODE SHOW.
THIS MORNING, FAMILY TIME
WITH THE HORRIBLE NEWS OF THE
SCHOOL SHOOTING IN CONNECTICUT,
MANY PARENTS HAVE QUESTIONS
ABOUT HOW TO TALK TO THEIR
CHILDREN ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED.
WELL, SITUATIONS LIKE THESE ARE
UNCOMMON WHEN A TRAGEDY HAPPENS
ON THIS SCALE, IT IS IMPORTANT
TO REMEMBER THAT IT CAN AFFECT
KIDS.
AND JOINING US THIS MORNING,
ABOUT WITH MORE TIPS HOW TO TALK
TO YOUR CHILDREN IN THE WAKE OF
THE SANDY HILLS DISTRICT SCHOOL
SHOOTING IS DR. SUSAN FROM
FAMILY SERVICES, OF RHODE
GOOD MORNING.
TONIGHT.
GLAD TO BE HERE.
FIRST THING, THIS IS A,
OBVIOUSLY A HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE
CONNECTICUT.
SOMETHING THAT WE PLAY WILL
NEVER HAPPEN EVER AGAIN.
HAVE KIDS?
I HAVE TWO KIDS AT HOME.
A LOT OF QUESTIONS.
I KNOW.
QUESTION.
THERE IS ACTUALLY SOME MEDIA
COMING OUT, TALKING ABOUT IT.
FIRST THING I WANT TO SAY IS,
THAT PARENTS NEED TO HANDLE IT
IN THEIR OWN WAY.
WRONG WAY.
I DON'T WANT PARENTS TO FEEL
LIKE THEY HAVE BEEN DOING
SOMETHING WRONG.
WITH THAT SAID, I THINK IT IS
IMPORTANT THAT ALL OF OUR KIDS
HAVE HAD EXPOSURE TO THIS.
IT IS NOT LIKE THEY DON'T KNOW
WHAT HAPPENED.
WE WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT A
TERRIBLE THING HAS HAPPENED.
AND THAT THERE ARE LOTS OF
PEOPLE AROUND THEM. SCHOOLS AND
THE POLICE ARE WORKING VERY HARD
TO KEEP THEM SAFE.
RIGHT NOW, THE KIDS ARE MOSTLY
CONCERNED ABOUT SAFETY.
DOWN THE ROAD, THERE WILL BE
QUESTIONS AND FOR SOME OF THE
KIDS, I THINK, THEY WILL HAVE
MORE SERIOUS AFFECTS DEPENDING
ON THE EXPERIENCE THAT WE WANT
TO PAY ATTENTION TO.
ONE OF THE THINGS THAT YOU
SAID IN THE TIPS IS, LIMIT
EXPOSURE TO MEDIA SOURCES, SO
MANY KIDS AROUND ON FACEBOOK,
YOU KNOW, THEIR I TOUCHES.
AND FORTH.
HOW DO YOU KEEP THE KIDS AWAY
FROM IT?
NOT READ SOME OF THE GRAPHIC
STUFF THAT IS OUT THERE?
WELL, I THINK THAT WE WANT TO
TELL OUR KIDS THAT WE WILL BE
HON TORING AND OF COURSE, IT
DEPENDS ON THE AGE.
WITH TEENAGERS, IT STARTED TO
HAVE NOT LIMIT THEM BUT TO TALK
TO IT.
WITH THE LITTLE ONES, IT IS
BETTER TO MONITOR IT.
AND TO USE THEM AS A BAROMETER,
FIND OUT, BE ATTENTION AND CLOSE
TO THEM ESPECIALLY DURING THIS
WEEK THAT IS COMING OUT NOW.
ONE OF THE OTHER THINGS MAKE
TIME TO TALK TO THEM.
MAKE TIME TO TALK.
NOT ONLY TALK BUT LISTEN.
TO LISTEN.
FIND OUT WHAT THEY ARE THINKING
ABOUT.
WHAT THEIR WORRIES ARE, THEIR
FEARS ARE.
A LOT OF TIMES KIDS HAVE
THOUGHTS IN THEIR MINDS THAT WE
DON'T KNOW THAT THEY ARE
THINKING.
WE NEED TO FIND THAT OUT.
SO WE CAN CORRECT THEIR
MISCONCEPTIONS AND REASSURE
THEM.
THEY ARE ALSO GOING TO BE
AROUND THEIR FRIENDS, AT SCHOOL
YES.
HOW DO YOU MAKE SURE THAT THE
MESSAGE IS CORRECT?
HOW DO YOU MAKE SURE THAT THEY
YES.
I DON'T THINK THAT WE CAN MAKE
SURE THAT IS NOT HAPPENING.
I THINK THAT WILL HAPPEN.
SO WHEN WE COME, WHEN THEY COME
TIME.
WE MAKE SURE THAT WE ARE THERE.
AND, MAYBE CHANGE OUR SCHEDULES
AS PARENTS AND ADULTS A LITTLE
CHILDREN'S LIVES.
AT THIS TIME.
WE ALSO SAY, MAKE SURE THAT
YOU CONTINUE ON WITH YOUR
ROUTINE AS TOUGH AS THAT IS.
HERE TODAY.
TODAY.
IN JUST FEELING DOWN TODAY
BECAUSE OF ALL OF THIS NEWS THAT
IS COMING OUT.
YEAH, YEAH.
THAT IS, THOSE ARE VERY
IMPORTANT POINTS.
I JUST WANT TO SAY THAT A FAMILY
SERVICES, RHODE ISLAND, WHERE I
WORK, WE ACTUALLY HAVE SERVICES,
WE ARE LIKE MENTION THIS, FOUR
KIDS, COUNTING SERVICES AND
FAMILY, IF ISSUES CONTINUE TO
EXIST FOR FAMILIES, BECAUSE WE
ARE TRAUMA CENTER.
SO, THERE ARE RESOURCES ON LINE
AND MENTAL REHEALTH RESOURCES.
I WANT TO REMIND PEOPLE, IT
IS OKAY FOR KIDS TO CRY AND HAVE
QUESTIONS.
AND IF THEY ASK FOR HELP, MAKE
ANSWERED.
THESE AREN'T LESSONS FOR US
ALL TO LEARN FROM.
I THINK THAT WE ALSO WANT TO
RECOVER INTEREST THIS.
IT WILL BE DIFFICULT FOR THE
PEOPLE IN NEWTOWN.
FOR THOSE WHO ARE A LITTLE BIT
MORE REMOVED, HE WANT TO TEACH
OUR KIDS THAT WE HAVE WAYS TO
DEAL WITH THESE KIND OF THINGS.
FOR PARENTS THAT WE CAN DEAL
WITH THE STRESS AND MAYBE THAT
IS A LESSON IN LIFE.
THAT IS IMPORTANT FOR US ALL.
DO YOU THINK THERE IS AN AGE
FROM THIS.
LITTLE ONES, IF YOU CAN,
SURE.
ABSOLUTELY. VISUAL IMAGES.
IF YOU CAN, BUT, AT SAME TIME,
YOU WANT TO WATCH FOR ANY KIND
OF SIGNS OF SLEEPING PROBLEMS,
EATING PROBLEMS, REGRESSES
BEHAVIORS LIKE THAT.
IN CASE, THEY MIGHT PICK UP A
VIBE, EVEN THOUGH THEY DON'T
HAVE THAT ACTUAL INFORMATION.
AS WE SAY, THEY ARE WALKING
AROUND WITH A HEAVY HEART.
DIFFERENT.
IN.
THANK YOU.
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THANK YOU SO MUCH.
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