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Life is often described as a rollercoaster; it has its ups and downs.
Relationships go through smooth times; but there are also times when things can become,
well less comfortable.
Things often get rough at times of change. A common example is
the birth of a baby, but redundancy, or even being promoted to a better job can
be a challenge. for both individuals and couples.
Your old way of life might seem threatened, you feel unsure of how the future will be
and how you might cope with change. It can feel like you are on the brink of losing
control At this point you might need
Somewhere to turn for help -even if it's just having someone to share
the fear with. Your partner may be that person, but when
both partners are anxious, it can be hard to give tht support to one another.
So help my come from family and friends. Sometimes you may need to turn to someone
like your GP, health visitor or a counsellor for help.
If you don't get support and leave things to get worse
you may find yourself and your relationship in crisis.
It's then harder- though not impossible- to get back on track.
It's harder because getting into crisis can mean that
you're more likely to behave in damaging ways for you and your relationships with partners
and children. With support this couple worked out how to
get through the crisis. They're beginning to cope and get a new sense
of stability. But it may take a long time to get back to
where they were before. This couple never got to crisis point because
they were able to stop things getting worse. They've done this by supporting each other,
by calling on family and friends for help. By sorting things out
sooner rather than later. they've prevented their relationship from being damaged.
They've got back on track more easily, and from this experience they've learnt ways to
cope for the next time things get bumpy. This couple was able to recognise that the
road might get bumpy; they get on well and have lots of protective factors.
So they support each other but when they can't, they know where and who to turn to for help.
Thecoupleconnection.net may have been one of those sources of support.
For them though the ride was bumpy and scary at times, it has brought them together as
a couple. Showing them how to cope, and made them more
confident about how they would manage next time.
The key is to look ahead, when there might be tricky times on the horizon, to know where
to turn for help. It might be that you turn to your partner,
your family and friends, or someone like your health visitor or GP.
Exploring the other areas on this site, will help you develop ways to cope when things
get bumpy.