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Let's do it again.
Oppa, when you first met me
Were you worried?
"Ah how do I tell me mom that I'm meeting a foreign/ black girl?"
You didn't think about that?
When I first started dating you, I didn't really~
But at some point I had to tell my mom and sisters
At that point, I was a little troubled about having to tell them ~ (It was difficult)
I didn't say that was dating a foreigner (at first)
But I told them that I had a girlfriend
Really?!
When?!
Then, as time passed, I told them that I was dating a foreigner
You told them that you had a girlfriend?
Yea
When?
How many were we dating (at the point)?
About a month~
About a month!
Wow. I really didn't know.
When you first told your mom that you were dating a foreigner..how did you....
I mean, how did your mom respond?
When I first told her, it was a little hard for me~
But it was something that I had to do
So, I did it.
I did it but...
The reaction was...
wans't really as bad as I thought it would be. So...
I was a little thrown off by it (It was unexpected)
I was REALLY worried about it
When we first started dating, I told you right~
"Let's not tell any parents until at least 6 months in"
I thought it was gonna turn out like the dramas!
We'd go to your mom's house
We'd do this (I forgot the word 절 for a second haha)
And then your mom would (throw) money at me
and be all like, "Go!"
I thought it was gonna be like that
I really thought about it like that
If you watch dramas, moms are always like...
"I'm gonna kill myself if you stay with my son!"
That sort of overreaction is so common
Yea, that stuff in the dramas is just an overdramatization
But in Korea, I don't know, maybe...
If someone said they were gonna marry a foreigner
They are gonna be against it (the parents)
I think probably something like 80% would be totally against it
I think that we're a really special case
Why do you think it was so different for us?
Maybe, my mom also, if I'm honest
When I first told her that I was meeting you
I don't think she felt too great about it
But from the time I was young
If I said that I was gonna do something
I'm the type of person that doesn't really back down
So, I think when I said it once
My family were just like..
I don't think I can change his mind
I've just gotta give up
Right, yea I think that thought came up a lot
Then as time passed
I introduced you to my family
Then they got to meet you
If she really hated you...
she wouldn't have smiled ya know....my mom
How could she just have continued to smile in front of someone she didn't like
When I first met your mom, she was just so good to me
I was so thankful to her
I was really worried but
And even though she probably wasn't feeling to great about it
She was just so good to me
She prepared a lot of food
She prepared a lot of DELICIOUS food
She kept tell me to..like... "Jenny, eat this!" "Jenny eat this!"
"Eat more. Eat more."
She kept doing stuff like that so she felt kind of like my own mother
I wanna say this. The first time that you go to meet someone's parents...
You're free to do what you want but...
Your makeup and
stuff like piercings
Right, when I was first gonna meet his mom had a piercing
I really like it
But Jae said that I had to take it out before meeting his mom
So I took it out and never put it back in again
Because of Jae's mom
My piercing!! :(
That kind of thing is okay after you know the person really well
But when you first go to meet them..
They're probably gonna be a little concerned about having to meet a foreigner
And then when the person arrives they've got a piercing
They've got really strong makeup on
They're wearing their normal style....like really revealing (freestyle??) clothes
If you go like that
The parents are just gonna feel even worse about the situation
They're gonna think like that, ya know.
Just looking at you (they are gonna judge you)
So it's important to present yourself in a more feminine (reserved) way
I can't really remember what I wore
All I could think about was presenting myself with good manners
I'm not that good at Korean so
I was the most worried about that
Even still, when I talk with your mom
I've always gotta speak to her with good manners
But because I always only speak Korean with you
So I'm not that good at speaking with manners (존댓말 is the word I forgot haha..obviously not good at it haha)
Well I don't know if I'm not good at it but it's just hard
So when I'm talking I'm always like "Is that right?"
So I was just a whole lite quiter than I usually am
I didn't really say a lot
At first, maybe it's kind of important
But now you're really close with my family
So now even when you speak in 반말 (lowered speach)
They can understand it
That situation happens all the tie
I speak banmal so often
They can understand it
"Ah, she just said it like that becuase she didn't know"
The way Iook at it...I mean I guess this can be a bad thing too...
The way that the guy behaves makes all the difference
Even if my parents are against it
Even if the people around me are against it too
If it's something that I want, I have to push through
But like if your parents are all like "You can't meet a foreigner"
You can't marry that person
When they said that~
The guys just goes "Okay"
If the guy is like "Okay, I'll think about it some more"
If they end up responding like that, it's gonna be difficult to get married
Read:Mama's boy hahaha
(And it happened a lot TO ME!)