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Welcome to Fearless Friday. Today's topic is something that everyone can relate to,
and at some point in their life have asked...what is my purpose? And you know, how do I find
what my purpose is. And you know for years I thought the same thing. For years I always
wondered, is my purpose being a mom? Is my purpose having a job? Is my purpose doing
charity work? What is my purpose? And this question was always in the back of
my mind and I was constantly looking for it. And it really resonated with me one day as
I was thinking about it; I go you know what why is it always that we have to think that
our purpose is something out there again. How about if our purpose is being in this
present moment, doing whatever I'm doing, without trying to change a single thing about
it. And so every time that question started coming up in my mind I did that...I go "uh
oh, I'm missing something, I've got to get back into the moment and what am I resisting
in this moment?" So to help you find out what your purpose
is I broke it down into a simple format for you to understand. And its our 5-step method
to finding out what your purpose is. And the first step is...of course, recognition. And
that again goes back to awareness. And it is really being honest with yourself and saying
you know what, I am not being fulfilled right now, and I am questioning what my purpose
is. And the second step is, what are the "shoulds"
and what are the stories that you are telling yourself in that moment that's keeping you
not present. And I should be married right now and because I'm not, I'm not happy. I
should be a mom and have kids. I should have a better job. It's all the should that we
carry with ourselves that is a certain expectation we're bringing to the table, and we say because
of this im not connected to my purpose. And the third step is where do our shoulds
really come from? This is another really big one. You know really sit back and think about
where are these? Are these really my shoulds or are these someone else's that's been passed
down to me and I've adopted it thinking that it is mine.
And the fourth step is surrender. Surrender to the moment. And this is huge because I
feel like when we are living a life full of shoulds we are constantly fighting with life.
Life presents us with an experience and we say "no, no, no..I know what's better for
me." And we fight it, and you know what you resist persists. It's only surrendering in
the moment do you really go with the flow of life. Do you really open yourself up to
what life has to offer you, which leads me to our fifth step...
Be present. And in the moment you are going to be open to whatever life presents to you.
Now whenever you are expecting something you are stopping the flow of life. And to be present
that means there's no expectations, there's no judgments, you're just there fully as your
own not trying to change that experience. Ok, so just to recap...
Step number 1: Recognition Step number 2: having the awareness of your
"should" Step number 3: Where do my should come from
Step number 4- Surrender And step number 5-Be present fully
And I just want you to know that whenever we let go, the more that we let go, the more
we surrender, the more connected you're gonna be at your core of your being. And that's
where your joy, your happiness, all lie in. That is our purpose at every moment. And so
I hope that these tools give you an opportunity to go out there and recognize the beauty of
life and the life that you're living. I look forward to seeing you next week, bye.