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TERRI: I heard someone say that a believer with no confidence is
like a jumbo jet sitting on the runway with no gas, you're not
going anywhere. Well let's talk about how to boost
your confidence and improve your self-image.
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TERRI: Hi, I'm Terri Savelle Foy and you're
watching Live Your Dreams. I pray that as
you invest in yourself today, you're captivated
and you're catapulted to live your dreams. Have you
ever noticed that some people just seem to attract success,
they attract opportunities and wealth and connections, they
seem to just have this certain level of confidence about them
and it seems like they've never struggled with insecurity, they
just attract blessings? Well you may have heard of the law of
attraction. The law of attraction basically states that
your mind is like a magnet, that whatever gets in your mind and
stays there, you will attract it in your life, that like attracts
like, in other words, whatever you are, you draw to you, so
your mind is like a magnet. Now the thing is, this works
negatively and it also works positively so if you're
constantly thinking nobody likes you, you're going to attract
nobody liking you. If you're constantly thinking you will
never have any money, you will attract poverty and lack. If
you're constantly thinking that you're worthless, you will
attract people in your life who treat you like you're worthless.
However, it also works positively. If you're constantly
thinking this is my time to go to the next level, God's
bringing divine opportunities in my life, you're going to attract
divine opportunities. In fact, my dad is known all over the
world for teaching on the favor of God. Well I've heard my dad
preach hundreds of messages on the favor of God, he has it
ingrained in me to declare favor, to expect favor, and to
experience favor. Well because of that, I really do, I declare
it consistently, favor's going before me, opening doors no man
can shut. Well as a result, I experience favor just like that
magnet. In fact, I remember years ago I was getting ready to
minister in London, England, and my daughter and I got to Dallas
Fort Worth Airport, we're checking in, getting ready to
fly to London, and the flight attendant or the lady at the
counter, she weighs my luggage and she says, your luggage is
overweight. I said, imagine that, and then the lady said to
me, you know what, I'm not gonna charge you the overweight price,
I'm just gonna let it go. I turned to my daughter and I
said, that's the favor of God. Well then we got on the plane,
we flew to London, we're checking in our hotel, we're
exhausted, we get to the counter and the guy says to me, today is
your lucky day, I said, what's going on? He said, I just took
hundreds of pounds off of your hotel bill. I said, What? That's
not luck, that's the favor of God. Well, then at the end of
that trip, we preached almost every night all over London,
last day of the trip, I said, Cassidy, let's go sight see
London. So we went outside, we found this guy selling tickets,
and I told him, I said, I need two tickets for the
double-decker bus. Well all of a sudden this sweet man says to
me, you know what, I'm just gonna charge you two child price
tickets, I said I don't know if it's my voice or what but that's
the favor of God. Well it just goes hand in hand with that law
of attraction, that whatever gets in your mind and stays
there, you will attract it in your life, if you expect favor,
you're gonna attract favor. Well Proverbs 23:7 says, "Whatever a
man thinks in his heart, so is he, what you think about, you
bring about. So you can attract success, you can attract the
blessings of God and the favor of God, and it starts with
changing your own self-image. In fact, I just read a quote
recently that said a strong positive self-image is the best
possible preparation for success in life. So your self-image, let
me just define what that is. Your self-image is simply a
portrait that you have of yourself, now I don't carry this
around everywhere but it's a mental portrait that you have of
yourself. In other words, it's the way you see yourself and the
way you think everyone else sees you. And here's the thing, how
you see yourself has everything to do with what you experience
in life. Now I said before, you know that if you see yourself as
worthless, you'll allow people, you'll attract people to treat
you like you're worthless, you'll carry yourself as
worthless, you'll dress worthless, you'll talk
worthless, and Satan knows that so he tries to keep you
suppressed, insecure, feeling inadequate, with your head down,
like you're not worthy of respect, you're not worthy of
the favor of God. In fact, when I went to college, I graduated
from Texas Tech University and I got a degree in French but a
minor in Communication Studies, that's the study of
communication. Well in these classes, we discovered that 93%
of the way you communicate is non-verbally. In other words,
you're communicating constantly without ever opening your mouth.
You communicate more through body language than through
words, isn't that amazing? In fact, your eyes, we discovered
that your eyes communicate more messages than any other part of
the human anatomy. Well when you really think about that, you may
have heard that phrase, if looks could kill. Well you know you
see people you know, you can size somebody up and down,
people sometimes will just raise their eyebrows, that says a lot,
doesn't it? Just the raised eyebrows. Or you know you can
stare at somebody, or we even discovered there's a difference
in a slow wink and a fast wink, the fast wink just says, hey how
are you? The slow wink says something completely different.
So we're communicating all the time, just with our eyes. In
fact, I remember when I was little, sometimes my sister and
I, we would be talking too much in church you know and my mom,
all she had to do was just glance over at us, squint her
eyes at us, and I never was like, mama what's wrong with
your eyes? No I knew that squinting eyes means we are in
trouble and it's not good. Well you communicate all the time
through your eyes, through your gestures, you can communicate,
wavin' real big at somebody, you can point at somebody or you can
point at somebody. You can do thumbs up or peace or okay,
we're communicating all the time with our hands and some of 'em,
you know, we can't talk about but we use our hands to
communicate. In fact, oh my goodness, I remember years ago,
my husband and I, we used to work together at the same office
and we'd ride together to work and things like that. Well one
day, work was over, I jumped in the car, headed home, I walked
in the house and the phone rang. I answered the phone, I said,
hello? And it was my husband, it was Rodney, he said, did you
forget something? I said, I don't think so, he said, like
me? I was like, oh my gosh, my spouse! So I jumped in the car,
drove back to the office, I get there, the parking lot's
completely empty, and there's Rodney, the only person there,
and he's going like this over and over and I wasn't confused,
I wasn't like, Rodney why are dancing? No, I knew this means
it's not good, I'm in trouble. Well we learned so much in those
body language classes, those non-verbal courses, even things
like a tilted head. If somebody's standing in front of
you that I don't know, looks like Matthew McConaughey or
something and your head just starts to tilt, that's a clear
sign of interest, so just keep your head straight. But here's
the deal, a prolonged tilted head is a sign of boredom, so
you learn these things, right? Well one of the things we
discovered were the signs of insecurity. Well poor posture is
a clear sign of insecurity. Covering your face with your
hands, a lot of people, they'll have their face covered, they
just hide behind their hands, avoiding eye contact with
people, maybe your hair covering your face, your body posture
reveals more than you even realize. In fact, I thought it'd
be interesting to share this with you because this was an
amazing study on body language, observing Richard Nixon back
when he was the Vice President and he came up against John F.
Kennedy, both of them running for president. Now listen to
this study. This was September 26 of 1960 and it was the first
presidential debate ever televised. Now what happened was
Nixon, he seriously injured himself, he injured his knee
when he was getting out of the car on the way to the debate,
and although he was in serious pain, he refused to put stage
makeup on to disguise how uncomfortable he was and to
disguise the profuse sweating. Well Nixon apparently, it says
he stood behind the podium with his body leaning awkwardly to
one side, he had his hands behind his back, he appeared,
they said, crooked and off-balance and he stood behind
the podium like this. Well that doesn't inspire confidence in a
future president. Well he squared off with this very
confident John F. Kennedy. Well they said as 70 million viewers
watched this debate, the first one ever on TV, the contrast
between the two was so noticeable, they said Nixon
appeared with his hands hidden behind the podium, perspiring
and clearly uncomfortable like this, Kennedy appeared calm,
cool, and collected, and listen to what they discovered. They
said according to the poll, the radio listeners who only heard
the debate said Nixon won by a landslide. The TV viewers who
could see the debate said Nixon lost by a landslide. Well JFK
went on and won the presidency. And even today, many experts
agree, they say that if Nixon really understood the importance
of body language, he might have paid closer attention to that
image he was projecting onscreen. Well all I'm saying is
your body language is every bit as important as the words you
say. Now the reason I'm bringing this up is because years ago,
the Lord told me three words that I personally had to grab
hold of before I could ever do what I'm doing today. I was out
walking one early morning and I just heard these three words, he
said, lift your head, lift your head. I thought, why, why would
the Lord tell me to lift my head? Then I began to think back
on my college courses on body language and how the body
language of a poor self-image and insecurity was poor posture,
the hair covering the face, the slumped shoulders, the arms
crossed, but the number one sign of defeat is a lowered head, the
number one sign of defeat is a lowered head. Now why would I
have a lowered head? Why would the Lord tell me that? Why would
you perhaps have a lowered head? Well I don't know what you've
been through in your life, I know what I've been through in
my life which caused me to feel ugly, insecure, rejected, not as
good as other people, insignificant, worthless,
exactly what Satan wanted me to feel. Why? So I would never have
the confidence or the courage to do what I'm doing today. As long
as my head was down in shame and guilt and insecurity, I would
never minister on a TV show or a podcast, you kidding me? Well,
what have you been through that's causing you perhaps to
miss out on God's best for your life, his dream for your life?
You know, it could be abuse, physical abuse, *** abuse, it
could be being verbally attacked, you've been put down
so many times, made fun of, maybe you were abandoned as a
child or cheated on by a spouse, betrayed, rejected, violated by
someone you trusted, you thought you were supposed to trust,
there's so many reasons that we develop that poor self-image,
that lowered head, that poor posture, and I believe God's
trying to get your attention today the way he got mine when
he said, lift your head. Why would the Lord tell me to lift
my head? Again, the number one sign of defeat is a lowered
head. Well then I discovered in Psalm 3:3, it actually says,
"Thou, oh Lord, are a shield for me, you're the glory and the
lifter of my head," God even covered body language in the
Bible, you know what that means? That you should never go a day
of your life with your head held down in shame when Jesus hung on
that cross with his head down just so yours could be
lifted up. I believe God's speaking to you today, it's
time to lift your head, pull your shoulders back
and walk out your destiny, I'll be right back.
ANNOUNCER: You were fearfully and wonderfully made.
You are God's masterpiece and the apple of his eye
and when you see yourself the way God sees you, the limits
on your life are removed and your future comes alive. As a
thank you for your gift of $25 or more, Terri would like to
send you the Build Your Self-Image Package to help you
grow your confidence and enjoy your life. As you listen to your
self-image affects your destiny and 10 Tips to Build Your Body
Image and Self-Image, you'll discover the truth about how
your purpose can be limited by your self-image. How to repair a
damaged view of yourself. How to live every day with a healthy
self-image and much more. Plus, for a limited time, you'll also
receive a special declarations mirror cling to help you speak
God's Word over yourself every day. So don't wait, call toll
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TERRI: So we're talking about boosting your
confidence and improving your self-image. One
of the ways that Satan can absolutely destroy
your life and stop the plan of God for your life is by
convincing you to have a poor self-image. You know, you may
have heard this phrase before that you behave in a manner
consistent with how you see yourself. In fact, I heard this
story about this guy named Victor years ago who at 15 years
old, his teacher told him he wouldn't amount to much, that he
should just drop out of school and learn a trade. Well because
he was told he was an idiot, he said he acted like an idiot for
the next 17 years. Then when he was 32 years old, he found out
he had an IQ of 161. Since finding out how smart he is,
he's written books, secured several patents, and become a
very successful businessman and he's chairman of the Mensa
Society, where you have to have an IQ of 140 or higher. Well
like I said, you behave in a manner consistent with how you
see yourself. There are certain reasons that we develop a poor
self-image, it doesn't just show up overnight. There's reasons
that we've developed that lowered head and that negative
self-image. It could be, you know, being talked down to and
made fun of, words that were spoken over you by parents,
teachers, coaches, peers, it could be you were abandoned by
parents or by a spouse, maybe you went through a painful
divorce and that's what's caused you to lower your head and not
feel as good as other people, or abusive situations, physically,
verbally, sexually, emotionally, or experiencing great
devastating rejection. I remember years ago I took this
deep psychological quiz and it said you have a compulsive fear
of rejection. Well that was because of things I'd been
through. Maybe it was unfaithfulness or you were ***
or violated. See, Satan will use whatever situation he can to
instill that poor sense of self worth. Why? Because you will
never have the confidence to live your dreams, to live the
God-given dreams that are on the inside of you. Well you know,
recently I heard a story, Joel Osteen shared this story,
proving how vital it is that you don't allow someone else's words
to dictate your future. Now this was one of Joel's friends, Coach
Dale Brown, who actually coaches the LSU basketball team. And he
said that he was speaking to a group of soldiers at a military
base in California. Well when he finished, he said this young man
came up to him, who stood nearly seven feet tall, 250 pounds, and
he said, Coach Brown, he said, I wanna try out for our basketball
team but I can't dunk the basketball. He said, I can
barely jump, when I run up and down the court, he said, my legs
get so tired, I can only play a few minutes. Well Coach Brown
began to ask him, he said, how long have you been in the
military? He said, oh I'm not in the military, my father is, he
said, I'm 13 years old. He wore a size 17 shoe, by the way. Well
Coach Brown began to take him under his wing and he just said,
when I get back to LSU, he said, I'm gonna send you some of my
training program to help you just strengthen your legs,
increase your endurance, things like that. Well he said three
months later, he got a letter from the young man saying, I've
done everything you told me to do, I've spent hours in the gym,
in the weight room, working out, he said, but my coach just cut
me from the team. He said I'm too big, too slow, too clumsy,
and I'll never be able to play basketball. Well Coach Brown
wrote him back saying, keep working out, keep being your
best, keep asking God to help you. Well he had to make a
decision. Am I going to allow someone else's words spoken over
me determine my destiny, or am I gonna change the internal
dialogue and start believing in myself and my dreams no matter
what other people have said? Well, he decided to believe in
himself and go for his dreams and today that man, Shaquille
O'Neal, ended up becoming one of the greatest basketball players
that's ever played. Well what would have happened if he had
believed the negative words spoken over him? Well for one
thing, we wouldn't be telling his story today. Well I just
wanna share with you real quick three keys to help you get
started on the path of lifting your head and these are things
the Lord dealt with me about. Number one is know your enemy.
And you might say, Terri, I know who the enemy is, it's that
ex-husband or that ex-wife who cheated on me. Or it was that
teacher who embarrassed me, that parent who rejected me. Well you
know, General Douglas MacArthur, he made this statement, he said
the number one rule of warfare is know your enemy. You better
know who you're fighting. Well the Bible actually says we
wrestle not against flesh and blood or it says we wrestle not
against flesh and blood but against principalities and
powers and rulers of darkness. In other words, that person is
not your enemy, the devil is. He's the thief, the Bible tells
us, he's the one who's out to kill, steal, and absolutely
destroy your life. In fact, I remember somebody illustrating
one time a bull fight, like a matador, when a bull fight is
going on, that matador has that red cloth, they dangle it in
front of that bull, and that angry bull charges after the
cloth and the matador raises it to the other side and the crowd
cheers and laughs and he does it all over again, the bull
charges, he throws it to the other side. Well do you know, if
that bull would just wake up and realize, the cloth is not the
enemy, it's the guy holding the cloth, he could annihilate that
matador in one charge, couldn't he? Well I want you to realize
Satan is the one dangling this experience, this person, this
devastating moment in your life, he helps you spend the rest of
your life mad at them instead of targeting your anger towards
him. So you have to, number one, know that Satan is the one out
to destroy your self-image, stop the plan of God for your life,
so he's the enemy. Number two is change your mind, nothing will
change in your life until you begin thinking differently. In
fact, the Bible says in Proverbs, "As a man thinks in
his heart, so is he." So if you see yourself as a loser, you're
gonna act like a loser, if you see yourself as insignificant,
you're gonna act insignificant, if you see yourself as
worthless, crazy, psycho, messed up, all these negative words
that have been spoken over you, then you'll start acting like
that. Well how do you change the way you've thought for 10, 20,
30 years? Well you know the Bible actually says in Romans
Romans 12:2, "It says be transformed by the renewing of
your mind." Well you might even say, well what do you renew your
mind to? The Word of God, that must be settled. See, a poor
self-image, insecurity, low self-esteem, those are all
rooted in fear, it's a fear that you're not good enough, not
smart enough, not pretty enough. Well the opposite of fear is
faith. Well how does faith comes? Faith comes by hearing
the Word of God. Every time you hear the Word, faith comes and
fear goes. So when your mind has come under attack and it happens
to all of us, what you desperately need more than
anything is to hear the truth, the main weapon in mental
warfare is to deliberately feed your mind on God's truth, so
number one, know your enemy, number two is change your mind
and then number three is change your words, you've gotta change
your words. Well how do you change the way you speak? Number
one, stop putting yourself down. Stop letting negative words come
out of your mouth about yourself, why? Because you're
listening and what you repeatedly hear, you will
eventually believe. Number two, start building yourself up and
let me just encourage you with this, it doesn't happen by
accident, it happens intentionally with a strategic
plan and I'm only sharing with you what God began to teach me.
I had to start making declarations to speak over
myself consistently and you might say, well, I don't know
what declarations to speak, well I did the work for you. In fact,
with our offer this week, I put together a special cling for you
to put on your mirror so every single day before you even head
out the door, you make these declarations. Now imagine saying
things like I declare in Jesus' name, I'm valuable to God, I'm
chosen by God, I'm confident, I'm fearless, I'm courageous,
I'm beautiful inside and out, I'm healthy, I respect myself
and I'm respected by others. I'm full of energy, I'm disciplined,
spirit, soul, and body. I'm secure in who I am and how I
look. Imagine saying those things every day as just part of
your routine before you run out the door. Just like brushing
teeth where you say I am determined, I am doing this
every day. And I put five scriptures on here for you to
speak out of your mouth consistently because there's
nothing more powerful than speaking God's Word out of your
mouth. You know, low self-esteem, it isn't something
that just shows up overnight, well neither is renewing the
mind. It's developed over time and I remember at the lowest
point in my life, I heard this statement, God will change your
circumstances, but he'll change you first. And that's when I
began the journey of investing in myself to see change, that's
why I'm excited about our offer this week, your self-image
affects your destiny, these are the very things, the seven
pillars the Lord began to teach me to improve my self-image so I
could be doing what I'm doing today. See, if you don't want
the next five years to be like the last five years, then just
embrace the change that needs to be made, just say, you know
what, I can do this, I'm worth the investment. And then, I
don't know what you've been through, if you've been abused
and never told anyone, maybe you were wounded, rejected,
abandoned, violated, maybe you're just so consumed over the
guilt from your past but God is telling you today, in fact one
of my favorite scriptures is he says I have chosen you and have
not cast you away, that means no matter what you've done or
what's been done to you, God's still telling you, I've chosen
you and I have not cast you away. But he needs you to be
confident to fulfill his plan for your life, so I want you to
get this, your self-image affects your destiny with this
special bonus teaching on 10 tips to build your body image
and your self-image and then this cling to put on your mirror
and just set a goal, when these arrive, say I'm gonna make
myself listen to these messages every day for 21 days and for 21
days make these declarations out of your mouth. I believe you are
gonna see transformation take place from the inside out.
Remember, God will change your circumstances but he'll change
you first and like I said, I only know how to speak from
experience and I believe God's speaking to you those same three
words that he said to me, lift your head, don't go another day
of your life with your head held down in shame when Jesus hung on
that cross with his head down so yours could be lifted up. It's
time to get moving. Why? Because you have an assignment, God
needs you. So pull your shoulders back, hold your head
up, lift your head and start living your dreams, don't
look at the years you've lost, let's look at all
the years you've got left and start living
your dreams, thank you so much for watching.
ANNOUNCER: You were fearfully and wonderfully made.
You are God's masterpiece and the apple of his eye and when
you see yourself the way God sees you, the limits on your
life are removed and your future comes alive. As a thank you for
your gift of $25 or more, Terri would like to send you the Build
Your Self-Image Package to help you grow your confidence and
enjoy your life. As you listen to your self-image affects your
destiny and 10 Tips to Build Your Body-Image and Self-Image,
you'll discover the truth about how your purpose can be limited
by your self-image. How to repair a damaged view of
yourself. How to live every day with a healthy self-image and
much more. Plus for a limited time, you'll also receive a
special declarations mirror cling to help you speak God's
Word over yourself every day. So don't wait, call toll free,
800-795-5597. Or visit us online at terri.com.
TERRI: The Next Conference is right around the corner. It's
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Brown, and former New York Mayor Rudy Giuliani. He'll teach you
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