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Alright, the next thing that we want to take a look at that happens if a relationship is
deteriorating is your take on behavior, the way that somebody does something. When the
relationship was good and everything was great, that was so cute, the way they laugh or the
way they smacked their food, or whatever it was, whatever behavior, it was really cute.
And now all of a sudden it is so annoying. Now the behavior has not changed, what has
changed is how you feel about it. You no longer are attracted to this person or no longer
have a positive relationship with this person so all of a sudden your attitude about them
has changed. Maybe there's something about them that before was very different, "Oh,
isn't that unique, they're so different the way they put their cigarettes out", or whatever
it is. All of a sudden that behavior becomes very inconsiderate. "I thought it was cool
before when you didn't open the door for me because that was who you are and that's what
you stood for, now it's just kind of inconsiderate and rude". Well that person always did that.
It's how you feel about that behavior that changes.