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Woman: Before we talk about gift-giving, let's talk about overindulgence. It's more than
spoiling, it's giving children too much of what they need too soon and for too long.
Children of all ages need adult time and support more than they need material goods. They need
quality relationships, and to learn that giving to others can be a gift by itself.
Here are five creative gift ideas when money is tight, or when you're looking for new ways
to give gifts that will last.
One, create an experience, like going on a bicycle ride and having a picnic. Doing a
pedicure/manicure night at home. Making a special book together for photos or family
stories.
Two, as a gift, give a gift. Instead of buying a DVD, spend the money on a good cause like
a donation to an animal shelter or a gift of a tree that can planted in your yard or
in your neighborhood.
Three, give your child part of the gift, like half of the money or a gift certificate toward
half of the gift. They can pitch in for the other half, or they can think of a creative
way that they'd like to earn the other half.
Four, make coupons for services, like babysitting or room-cleaning or bicycle tune-up.
Five, recycle, and make something new out of something old.
And don't feel bad about saying no. Saying no won't harm your child's emotional development.
Saying no can actually strengthen the relationship. The adult models limit-setting, clear expectations,
and wants versus needs.
It also teaches the child that they can have some control over their saving and purchasing
experiences by teaching them to save allowances or bottle returns or paychecks so that they
add up to earn enough money to guy the item they want.
Research shows that overindulgence, however hurtful to our children, often comes from
our good hearts and good intentions. It's all around us and can be identified and changed.