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HI THERE, HELLO
FRIEND, WELCOME
TO HOMEKEEPERS, I'M SO
GLAD TO BE WITH
YOU, AND I AM
SO GLAD YOU
ARE HERE, AND IF YOU
NEVER SEEN THIS
BEFORE AND WELCOME
AND COME ON IN I
WISH I COULD MEET YOU
PERSONALLY, AND I
WISH I COULD HAVE
SOME TEA AND THAT'S
NOT POSSIBLE, AND I
WANT YOU TO BE
WELCOME, IN FOR THE
REGULAR ONES AND WE
LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND
WELCOME AND WELCOME
TO THE PROGRAM AND WE
TRY TO DEAL WITH THE
ISSUES, THAT OUR
HOMES ARE FACING,
AND THAT IS SO MUCH
TODAY, RIGHT? I'VE
GOT A SPECIAL GUEST
TODAY, AND SHE HAS,
SHE HAS TACKLED A
SUBJECT, AND I WOULD
BELIEVE, SHE IS SO
BRAVE, AND THE BOOK
IS CALLED, "RELATED
BY CHANCE AND FAMILY
BY CHOICE." AND THIS
DEALS WITH THE MOTHER
AND THE
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW
RELATIONSHIP, AND
THERE WAS SO MUCH
DONE ON THE RESEARCH,
AND I THINK THE
OVERALL SUBSTANCE OF
THE BOOK WAS, AND WE
COULD DO SO MUCH
BETTER IN THIS
DEPARTMENT, AND SHE
HAS WRITTEN A VERY,
VERY IMPORTANT BOOK,
AND SHE HAS DONE THIS
FROM EXPERIENCE AND
SHE HAS THREE
DAUGHTERS, AND SHE
HAS THREE SONS AND
THREE DAUGHTERS IN
LAW, AND THAT COULD
BE A REAL MINEFIELD,
AND MOST WOULD AGREE
WITH THAT AND THEY DO
IT VERY WELL AND SHE
WILL TELL YOU ALL
ABOUT THAT, AND
MAYBE HAVE GOT A
RELATIONSHIP LIKE
THAT AND THAT COULD
USE SOME WORK, AND
MOST OF THE SITUATION
COMEDIES THAT WE
HAVE, AND THEY HAVE
SUCH A BEARING ON THE
CULTURE, AND USUALLY
THE MOTHER-IN-LAW IS
A DEVIL. AND WE
HOPE, AND WE WANT TO
HELP YOU WITH THIS
AREA AND OF COURSE,
THE LORD JESUS CAN
HELP YOU WHEN YOU GET
THROUGH TO HIM, YOU
WILL ENJOY HER
MESSAGE. AND BEFORE
I JOINED MARTHA, FROM
THE CHRISTIAN
BOOKSTORE,
AND SHE ALWAYS
BRINGS ALL OF THIS
STUFF AND WHEN SHE
COMES IN THE DOOR, IT
IS LIKE SANTA CLAUS
COMING IN, AND WE
WANT TO GIVE YOU A
NEW START AND A NEW
YEAR, AND WE ARE
INTO A FEW DAYS, THE
NEW YEAR. I'M SO
GLAD THE LORD MAKES
ALL THINGS NEW AND
HIS MERCIES ARE NEW
EVERY MORNING, AND
THERE'S SOMETHING
ABOUT A BRAND-NEW
YEAR THAT WILL CLEAN
THE SLATE, AND WE
WANT TO HELP YOU AND
BEFORE I DO THAT,
AND THIS IS CALLED
FREEDOM FROM
FINANCIAL FEAR, FROM
D JAMES KENNEDY, AND
HE WAS ONE OF MY
FAVORITE MINISTERS ON
THE TELEVISION FOR
MANY YEARS AND HE IS
IN HEAVEN TODAY. I
THANK GOD WE HAVE
SOME OF HIS TREASURES
AND HIS WRITINGS.
YOU CAN HAVE THE BOOK
AND THIS IS CALLED,
FREEDOM FROM
FINANCIAL FEAR AND
THIS IS BASED UPON
THE WORD OF GOD AND
YOU CAN WRITE TO ME
AT MY PO BOX YOU SEE
ON THE SCREEN, I
HOPE YOU WILL SEND
THE BEST GIFT YOU
CAN. IF YOU CANNOT
SEND ANYTHING I WILL
SEND IT TO YOU, BUT I
BELIEVE THIS WOULD BE
A BOOK THAT WOULD BE
A REAL LIFE CHANGER,
AND THE INFORMATION
IS COMING UP ON YOUR
SCREEN AND WE WOULD
BE GLAD TO GET THAT
OUT TO YOU AND WE SAY
WELCOME TO MARTHA.
>> HAPPY NEW YEAR TO
YOU.
>> I WAS THINKING,
AND THE NEW YEAR'S
RESOLUTION, AND
MAYBE WE SHOULD DO
THREE AND ONE OUR
WALK WITH THE LORD,
AND THE OTHERS, AND
THE BIBLE SAYS WE
WOULD PROSPER AND BE
IN GOOD HEALTH, AND
IT IS HEALTH AND
BEING FIT AND ALSO
YOUR FINANCES, AND
THOSE WOULD BE NUMBER
ONE AND NUMBER TWO.
>> AND YES, THAT
WOULD BE UP THERE,
AND YES THAT WOULD BE
RIGHT.
>> AND WE ARE
DEALING, AND WE HAVE
GOT SO MUCH STUFF.
>> AND YOU KNOW, THIS
GOES ALONG WITH WHAT
YOU SAID AND MANY
PEOPLE WANT TO BE
ORGANIZED, AND I
BELIEVE THIS IS A NO
OTHER AREA.
>> AND THIS MIGHT BE
NUMBER THREE?
>> AND YES AND OUR
GOD OF ORDER. AND
SOME OF THE THINGS I
HAVE, AND OVER YEAR
I'VE GOT SOME
CALENDARS, AND ONE
OF THESE THINGS,
THERE IS ALWAYS A
SCRIPTURE, AND THEN
YOU TURN OVER THE
MONTHS AND THE DAYS,
YOU HAVE A NEW
SCRIPTURE. AND YOU
CAN PLAN YOUR TIME.
AND ON THE
REFRIGERATOR, AND WE
HAVE THE FAMILY
CALENDAR, AND THIS
IS MAGNETIC. AND
THIS IS SNOOPY.
>> AND YOU KNOW YOU
COULD PUT ALL OF THE
SOCCER GAMES ON
THERE, AND ALL YOU DO.
>> AND YES AND WE
HAVE THE STICKERS,
AND MAYBE FOR THE
DOCTORS APPOINTMENTS,
AND THIS IS SO MUCH
FUN. AND ALL OF THE
THINGS ARE ON HERE.
AND YOU COULD BE
ORGANIZED.
>> AND I WONDER WHAT
PERCENTAGES OF THE
HOMES HAVE A LARGE
CALENDAR, AND MY
DAUGHTER DOES.
>> I'M SURE MANY, AND
SOME OF THESE THINGS,
AND SPEAKING OF THE
SCRIPTURES, AND I
LOVE THIS NEW
PRODUCT, THESE ARE
REMOVABLE SCRIPTURES,
AND THESE ARE
SOMETHING THAT YOU
COULD DO AND WHATEVER
YOU WANT TO PUT IT
ON, AND THESE ARE THE
SCRIPTURES, AND WE
HAVE THE THEMES FOR
THE KIDS AND THE BOYS
AND THE GIRLS AND
WOMEN, AND EVERYTHING
YOU COULD IMAGINE.
>> AND WE NEED THEM
AND WE SHOULD CAST
OUR BURDEN UPON THE
LORD.
>> AND YES, AND THE
BOOKS ON HEALTH, AND
EVERYBODY TALKS ABOUT
AND HOW WE WANT TO
START OUT THE NEW
YEAR.
>> AND THIS WOULD BE
SUCH A GOOD THING.
>> AND YES, THESE
ARE, AND THIS IS NOT
JUST THIS IS NOT
JUST BLANK
INFORMATION BUT THIS
IS GOOD INFORMATION.
AND THIS IS SO
IMPORTANT. AND WE
HAVE RICK WARREN
HERE, AND HE HAS GOT
A BIBLE STUDY, AND
THE DVD, AND THIS IS
A SMALL GROUP STUDY,
AND YOU COULD HAVE
THE ACCOUNTABILITY.
>> AND THIS IS A GOOD
STORY, AND PASTOR
WARNED WAS BAPTIZING
PEOPLE, AND EVERYBODY
WAS OVERWEIGHT. AND
HE DISCOVERED
EVERYBODY WAS
OVERWEIGHT. AND THE
CHURCH HAS LOST
250,000 POUNDS.
>> THAT IS AMAZING.
>> AND THIS IS SO
HEALTHY, AND THIS IS
FROM THE BOOK OF
DANIEL AND THAT DIET
FROM DANIEL.
>> IN THIS ONE WE
MUST TALK ABOUT. AND
DUCK DYNASTY, IS
BECOMING SO POPULAR,
AND PEOPLE WANT TO
COOK DIFFERENTLY, AND
GET THE COOKBOOKS,
AND MAYBE GET A PLAN
AND WE JUST WANT TO
SUPPORT THEM, AND
THE STAND THEY TAKE
FOR CHRISTIANITY,
AND THROUGH TV. AND
ALSO, AND WE TALKED
ABOUT THE DANIEL
PLAN, AND THIS I
LOVE, AND THIS IS THE
KIDS BIBLE MEMORY.
AND YOU CAN BE
ENCOURAGED TO GET
INTO THE WORD AND WE
HAVE GOT THE
DEVOTIONALS HERE, AND
WITH THE KIDS GROWING
UP, AND WE DID THIS
AROUND THE DINNER
TABLE FOR THE
DEVOTIONALS.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
MOST OF MY SCRIPTURES
NOW, I LEARNED THEM
WHEN I WAS VERY
YOUNG. I KNOW A
LADY, IN THE
SUMMERTIME, WHEN THEY
ARE OUT OF SCHOOL AND
THEY WOULD MEMORIZE A
SCRIPTURE EVERY DAY,
AND AT THE END OF THE
SUMMER THEY COULD
HAVE MANY SCRIPTURES.
>> AND THEY ARE USING
THEIR BRAINS, ALSO,
AND THIS IS ALSO FOR
THE DINNER TABLE.
AND THIS IS SOMETHING
THAT I THOUGHT AND
PEOPLE WANT TO SAVE
MONEY. AND THIS
WOULD ALSO BE GOOD TO
ENCOURAGE THE PEOPLE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND WE
CAN TALK ABOUT THIS?
AND THIS IS YOUR
FAVORITE?
>> YES, THIS IS THE
ONE YEAR BIBLE, AND
THIS IS IN
CHRONOLOGICAL ORDER,
AND THIS IS
HISTORICALLY IN
ORDER, AND YOU'RE
READING ABOUT THE
BATTLES, AND THEN YOU
MIGHT READ A PSALM
ABOUT THE BATTLE, AND
THIS JUST SEEMS LIKE
IT MAKES SO MUCH
SENSE.
>>ARTHELENE: I WANT
TO GET INTO THIS.
>> AND YES, AND WE
WANT TO READ THE WORD
IN 2014 AND THAT IS
OUR THEME, AND THIS
IS A GREAT WAY TO DO
THAT.
>>ARTHELENE:
AND WE HAVE GOT SOME
CANDLES, AND
HONESTLY, I HAVE
NEVER HAD THEM SMELLS
SO GOOD AND THIS IS
SUCH A WONDERFUL
AROMA. AND THERE IS
A MISSIONS PROJECT
HERE?
>> AND YES, THE MONEY
GOES TO THE PROJECTS,
AND THIS IS THE
"CANDLE FOR THE CAUSE"
AND MAYBE GIVING
WATER FOR CHILDREN,
IN EAST AFRICA, AND
MAYBE IT COULD BE SOMETHING
SAVING WOMEN FROM TRAFFICKING
AND YOU COULD HELP
WITH PREVENTING TRAFFICKING,
AND YOU ARE PUTTING
IT FORWARD AND
HELPING PEOPLE AT THE
SAME TIME.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
MARTHA IS FROM A
LOCAL CHRISTIAN
BOOKSTORE, AND THIS
IS IN THE INDIAN
ROCKS AREA HERE IN
FLORIDA, AND THIS IS
IN THE FIRST BAPTIST
CHURCH AREA, AND IF
YOU ARE AROUND HERE
IN FLORIDA, AND I
HOPE YOU COULD VISIT
HER, AND IF NOT, AND
SUPPORT YOUR
CHRISTIAN BOOKSTORES,
AND THEY HAVE GOT SO
MUCH MORE THAN YOU
COULD IMAGINE. AND
ONE MORE THING AND WE
COULD TALK ABOUT THE
CUPS.
>> AND THIS WAS SO
GREAT AND YOU WERE
TALKING ABOUT THIS,
AND I SEE NEW MERCIES
EVERY MORNING, AND
HIS MERCY IS NEW
EVERY MORNING, AND
IT IS NEW EVERY DAY,
AND THIS IS A BIG ONE
HERE, AND WE HAD A
GLASS WATER BOTTLE,
AND THIS IS SO
POPULAR NOW.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
WHEN DEBORAH RAY HAD
THIS, SHE WILL ENJOY
THIS.
>> AND THIS IS SUCH A
TREAT.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
YES, I HOPE THAT YOU
WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE
OF THIS AND WHEN YOU
PURCHASE THE GIFTS,
AND DO NOT FORGET THE
WONDERFUL CHRISTIAN
BOOKSTORES AND STAY
WITH ME I WANT YOU TO
MEET MY NEW BEST
FRIEND.
>> ♪
>>♪
>> ARTHELENE WOULD
LIKE YOU TO KEEP THE
FOLLOWING INFORMATION
HANDY, YOU COULD
CONTACT HOMEKEEPERS
BY WRITING TO THE PO
BOX YOU SEE ON YOUR
SCREEN. AND YOU CAN
ALSO GO TO THE
WEBSITE YOU NOW SEE
ON YOUR SCREEN, AND
REMEMBER WE ALWAYS
ENJOY HEARING FROM
OUR VIEWERS AND WE
THANK YOU FOR YOUR
SUPPORT.
>> ♪
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>>
>>ARTHELENE:I AM SO
HAPPY TO WELCOME MY
GUEST, AND SHE IS AN
AUTHOR, AND YOU HAD
BEEN WORKING AND
HELPING WITH CHILDREN
FOR 25 YEARS, AND YOU
ARE AN EXECUTIVE
COACH, AND YOU HAVE
SO MUCH EXPERIENCE IN
THE KINGDOM OF GOD.
>> THIS IS ALL IN MY
BOOK, YES.
>>ARTHELENE: AND YOU
HAVE THREE DAUGHTERS
IN LAW, AND YOU SAY
THAT WE ARE NOT
SMARTER OR LUCKIER
THAN OTHERS, BUT WE
ARE DETERMINED TO
LIVE BEYOND THE
STEREOTYPES, AND WE
CAN KNOW THAT WE
CANNOT DO THIS
WITHOUT THE LORD.
AND WHEN I SAW THIS,
I THOUGHT YOU ARE
SUCH A BRAVE WOMAN.
AND, AND YOU HAVE
GOT THREE DAUGHTERS
IN LAW, AND YOU DID
THE RESEARCH?
>> WE DID, AND THIS
WOULD NOT LET US
ALONE, THE TRUTH IS,
AND PEOPLE SAVE FOR
MY FRIENDS AND
COWORKERS AND THEY
SAY HOW CAN YOU HAVE
SUCH A GOOD
RELATIONSHIP THREE
DIFFERENT TIMES? AND
THE GIRLS HAVE THE
SAME QUESTIONS. AT A
RETREAT ONE
AFTERNOON, AND
SOMEBODY CAME OVER
THE TABLE AND THEY
SAID, I WANT TO KNOW
THE SECRET. AND I
WAS STARTLED AND I
DID NOT KNOW HER, I
SAID I WAS SORRY?
SHE WANTED TO KNOW MY
SECRET. I DID NOT
KNOW HER. AND I DID
NOT KNOW WHAT I COULD
SAY. AND SHE SAID, I
WAS SHARING A CONVERSATION
WITH SOME FRIENDS, YOUR
DAUGHTERS THEY SAID, THEY DON'T
LIKE YOU, BUT THEY LOVE
YOU. AND I SAT DOWN,
AND WE BEGAN TO TALK,
AND WHAT DID WE DO?
AND THERE WERE SOME
VERY IMPORTANT THINGS
WE WERE DOING, AND
IT MAKES THE
RELATIONSHIP WORK AND
WORK WELL.
>>ARTHELENE: AND YOU
HAD TO STUDY YOURSELF
A LITTLE BIT?
>> YES, AND WE SAID
THAT, AND WE HAD
BEEN WORKING IN
EXECUTIVE COACHING,
AND LEADERSHIP
DEVELOPMENT, AND WE
HAD BEEN DOING THIS
OVER THE YEARS, I
WILL TELL YOU, AND
THEY TAUGHT ME HOW TO
BE A MOTHER-IN-LAW
AND I HAVE A LOT TO
LEARN.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
THIS IS A CULTURAL
PHENOMENON, AND THIS
IS ALMOST EXPECTED
THAT YOU DO NOT GET
ALONG. AND SO MUCH
FEEDS INTO IT.
>> AND YOU LOOK AT
THE MOVIES, MONSTER-IN LAW
WITH JENNIFER LOPEZ, AND
ALL OF THE MOVIES, PEOPLE
LIKE YOU KNOW AND
"EVERYONE LOVES RAYMOND"
AND I
THINK, AND EVEN FOR
THE WOMEN OF FAITH,
AND WHEN THE
RELATIONSHIP IS NOT
GOOD, AND WE ARE NOT
SURPRISED AND WE
DON'T DO ANYTHING.
>>ARTHELENE: BUT DID
YOU FIND MUCH
DIFFERENCE
PERCENTAGEWISE WITH A
CHRISTIAN FAMILIES?
>> NO, AND THERE WAS
A SURVEY THAT HAD
BEEN DONE, AND THERE
WAS A SECOND WEBSITE,
AND WE HAD RUN THE
SURVEY, AND THE
NUMBERS WERE
IDENTICAL AND ABOUT
ONE THIRD OF ALL OF
THE WOMEN SAID, AND
WITH THE
MOTHER-IN-LAW OR THE
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW IT
WAS BAD. AND THEY
WOULD SAY IT WAS
DIFFICULT AND
CRITICAL, AND MAYBE
EVEN FEELING
OFF-BALANCE, NOT
BEING SURE. AND WE
SHOULD BE DOING
BETTER.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
WHAT, AND WHAT ARE
THE MAJOR PROBLEMS
AND WHAT CAN YOU DO
ABOUT IT? AND DO YOU
HAVE ANY KIND OF
PECKING ORDER?
>> AT THE TOP OF THE
LIST, AND THE MOTHER
DO NOT KNOW HOW TO
MAKE THE SHIFT FROM
THE MOTHERING, AND
MAYBE A YOUNG SON,
TO HAVING A MARRIED
MAN. AND THERE IS
SUCH, THAT IS SO
MUCH DIFFERENT NOW IN
HIS LIFE. AND THERE
IS SUCH A SHIFT. IN
MANY MOTHERS HAVE
DEDICATED THEIR LIVES
TO RAISING A YOUNG
MAN. AND THEN THAT
SOMEBODY COULD, AND
TAKE HIM AWAY, IT IS
VERY TOUGH.
>>ARTHELENE:
BECAUSE, AND IF YOU
GO THROUGH, AND YOU
KNOW, AND THE WIFE
MUST BE NUMBER ONE.
>> AND HEATHER WAS
EXPECTING GRANDSON
NUMBER THREE, AT THE
BABY SHOWER I SAID,
AND YOU KNOW, THE
BABY WILL BE CRAZY
ABOUT YOU, AND THIS
IS GOING TO BE EASIER
FOR YOU WITH ONE
TRUTH, AND GOD DID
NOT WANT YOU TO BE
THE MOST IMPORTANT
WOMAN, AND LIKE YOU
CAME ALONG, AND
SOMEBODY WILL COME
FOR YOURS. AND SHE
SAID THAT WAS VERY
SOBERING. AND WE
DON'T CONSIDER THIS
WHEN THEY ARE SMALL,
AND YOU KNOW AND THEN
THEY BEGIN TO GROW,
AND WE HAVE GOT TO
THAT THEM GO.
>>ARTHELENE: AND YOU
THINK, AND MAYBE THE
GREATER
RESPONSIBILITY WOULD
BE ON THE
MOTHER-IN-LAW? AND
SHE HAS TO WORK
HARDER?
>> AND LET'S FACE IT,
AND SHE HAS THE
SENIORITY
>>ARTHELENE: AND SHE
MIGHT HAVE SOME
WISDOM?
>> AND YES THE
WISDOM, ALSO, AND
THE DAUGHTER-IN-LAW
CANNOT COMPETE WITH
THE SON, AND THE
RELATIONSHIP THERE.
AND WE WANT TO PLEASE
GOD FIRST, AND THAT
WILL BE THE ONE THAT
WILL MAKE THE MOVE
FIRST. AND THIS CAN
COME FROM MY
DIRECTION, AND YOU
WANT ONE HE WAS
SPIRITUAL, AND THEY
WOULD BE THE ONE TO
SAY, WE CAN MOVE
FIRST.
>>ARTHELENE: AND IF
YOU ARE JUST TUNING
IN, AND WE ARE
TALKING ABOUT THIS
BOOK, AND WE CAN
LEAVE THIS UP ON THE
SCREEN, AND YOU
COULD GET THIS FROM
THE REGULAR PLACES
LIKE AMAZON.
>> BARNES & NOBLE.
>>ARTHELENE: YOUR OWN
WEBSITE? AND THE
SHOULD BE IN THE
CHURCH LIBRARY AND
ALSO FOR THE PASTOR'S
LIBRARY.
>> AND YES, I WOULD
LOVE TO SEE THIS AS A
PREMARITAL
CONVERSATION AND WHEN
YOU SIT DOWN, AND
THIS IS NOW VERY
INTRUSIVE, AND MANY
FAMILIES ARE NOT
WORKING WELL. AND IT
IS SUCH A HEART ACHE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND I
HAVE NOT DONE THE
RESEARCH, BUT I HAVE
LIVED A LONG TIME,
AND THE WOMEN ARE
DIFFERENT THAN THE
MEN, AND THE
FATHER-IN-LAW AND THE
SON-IN-LAW, THAT IS
NOT THE SAME DYNAMIC?
>> IT IS NOT.
>>ARTHELENE: WHAT DO
YOU THINK IT IS?
>> MY DADDY'S GIRL,
AND MAMA'S BOY, AND
TO BE A MOTHER'S BOY
IS FUN UNTIL THEY ARE
12, AND THEY DON'T
LIKE IT, AND THEN
THEY DON'T WANT IT
WHEN THEY ARE 25.
AND THEY HAVE THE
CONNECTION WITH THE
MOTHER AND THE SON
AND IT IS DIFFERENT,
AND YOU COULD BE
DADDY'S GIRL ALL OF
YOUR LIFE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
YES, AND A SON IS A
SON UNTIL HE TAKES A
WIFE, AND THEN THE
DAUGHTER IS A
DAUGHTER ALL OF HER
LIFE. AND THERE IS
SO MUCH TRUTH IN
THAT.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
WHEN THE WOMEN MARRY,
AND THEY WILL STAY
CONNECTED TO THE
MOTHER, AND ALSO
WITH THEIR FAMILIES.
AND THIS WAS TRUE FOR
ME AND MY FAMILY AND
MY HUSBAND, AND WE
WERE ALL IN THE SAME
COMMUNITY. AND WE
STAY MORE CONNECTED
WITH MY FATHER, AND
MY MOTHER. WE DID
NOT PREFERRED THEM
BUT WE DID TRAVELED
WITH THEM AND THIS
WAS SUCH A NATURAL
PULL. AND THE SON IS
A SON UNTIL HE HAS A
WIFE, AND SO, AND
WE DETERMINED EARLY,
IN OUR LIVES, AND
WITH THREE SONS, AND
THE FAMILY COULD GROW
AND EXPAND THROUGH
MARRIAGE AND NOT
CONTRACT.
>>ARTHELENE:
AND WHAT YOU ARE SO
MENTIONING NOW,
APPROPRIATELY, AND
YOU DO NEED THE LORD
AND YOU NEED THE WORD
TO LEARN HOW YOU
SHOULD BEHAVE.
>> YOU ABSOLUTELY DO,
AND I DON'T KNOW
ABOUT YOUR BIBLE, BUT
IT SAYS IN MIND, AND
IT DOES NOT SAY LOVE
ONE ANOTHER, EXCEPT
FOR YOUR
MOTHER-IN-LAW. AND
THIS IS NOT A
SUGGESTION AND THIS
IS A COMMANDMENT,
AND THIS IS ONE OF
THE THINGS THAT WE
ARE LOOKING AT
CAREFULLY. AND WE
USED TO TERM IN-LAWS
SO FREQUENTLY, AND
COMFORTABLY,
>>ARTHELENE: AND
SOMETIMES NEGATIVELY?
>> AND YES AND WE SAY
WERE GOING TO MY
IN-LAWS, AND THAT
DOES NOT NECESSARILY
MEAN A LOT. I HAD A
CONVERSATION WITH MY
HUSBAND, AND WE WERE
TALKING ABOUT THE
IN-LAWS, AND WHAT
WERE WE RESCUED FROM?
THE CURSE OF THE LAW.
AND WE WANTED TO SEE
ABOUT THE
CHARACTERISTICS OF
THE LAW, AND ALSO
LOVE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND THIS
WAS YOUR LEARNING
EXPERIENCE?
>> AND YES, AND THE
VERY FIRST TIME, AND
I WAS INTRODUCED AS
THE MOTHER-IN-LAW AND
I MELTED, AND I SAID
LATER, THAT WAS SO
SWEET. AND THIS IS
HOW SHE SAW ME AND I
WAS SO GRATEFUL FOR
HER OPENNESS AND HER
UNDERSTANDING IN THE
RELATIONSHIP.
>>ARTHELENE: AND DID
YOU STUDY RUTH AND
NAOMI?
>> AND YES, THEY
WERE THE CENTRAL
PARTS OF THE BOOK,
AND I DO NOT THINK
THIS IS AN ACCIDENT.
>>ARTHELENE: THIS IS
FROM THE BOOK OF
RUTH.
>>
AND I DON'T BELIEVE
THESE FOUR CHAPTERS,
AND THIS TALKS ABOUT
THAT RELATIONSHIP OF
THE MOTHER-IN-LAW AND
THE DAUGHTER-IN-LAW.
AND THEY WERE SO MUCH
ALIKE AND YET THEY
WERE SO MUCH
DIFFERENT, IN
DIFFERENT CULTURES,
IN A DIFFERENT GOD.
AND YET, YOU SEE AND
IN THESE CHAPTERS,
SUCH A BEAUTIFUL
RELATIONSHIP. AND I
WOULD READ THE BOOK
MANY TIMES, AND WHEN
I WAS LOOKING OVER
THE BOOK, AND DOING
MY RESEARCH, AND HE
BEGAN TO JUMP OUT AT
ME. AND WE KNOW HOW
RUTH, AND YOU KNOW
NAOMI TRIES TO SEND
THE FAMILY BACK, AND
THEY GO BACK TO THE
HOMELAND. AND RUTH
SAYS I WANT TO GO
BACK AND I WANT TO BE
WITH YOU, IN YOUR
LAND WILL BE MY LAND
IN YOUR GOD WILL BE
MY GOD. AND THERE IS
A TRANSLATION OF
THIS, AND WHEN THE
NAOMI HAD BEEN WITH
HER, AND SHE HAS SET
HER HEART ON HER,
>>ARTHELENE: DO YOU
THINK SHE SAW GOD IN
NAOMI?
>> I BELIEVE WHAT SHE
SAW WAS A SPIRITUAL
LIFE, THAT SHE HAD
NEVER EXPERIENCED.
>>ARTHELENE: IN NAOMI
WAS NOT A PEACE OF
CAKE, AND SHE COULD
BE SAD AND BITTER.
>> SHE HAD A TOUGH
LIFE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND THE
TWO SONS AND THE
HUSBAND DIED, AND
THAT WOULD BE A LOT.
>> SHE HAD LOST
EVERYONE, AND THERE
WERE NO
GRANDCHILDREN.
>>ARTHELENE: AND SHE
MIGHT NOT BEEN A LOT
OF FUN TO BE AROUND.
>> AND YOU KNOW, SHE
SAID YOU COULD CALL
ME MARA, AND MY NAME
IS BITTER AND I WILL
BE BITTER IN YOUR
LIFE. AND YOU KNOW,
AND NOT MUCH TO
ENCOURAGE THE WOMEN,
AND THE PHRASE, AND
WHEN SHE SET HER
HEART UPON THE LORD,
AND THIS WAS SUCH A
DIFFICULTY IN THE
RELATIONSHIP, AND
YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR
HEART ON THE
RELATIONSHIP AND THE
MOTHER-IN-LAW AND THE
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW. AND
WE SHOULD SERVE EACH
OTHER WITH ALL OF OUR
HEARTS.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
RUTH GOT A WONDERFUL
RICH HUSBAND.
>> AND YES, AND SHE
ENDS UP IN THE LINE
OF CHRIST AND THAT IS
UNBELIEVABLE. AND
GOD WAS SO PURPOSEFUL
IN THIS.
>>ARTHELENE: AND THIS
COULD BE A MINEFIELD,
AND THE
MOTHER-IN-LAW AND THE
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW
RELATIONSHIP, AND IT
MIGHT VERY WELL BE
THE MOST DIFFICULT IN
THE FAMILY, AND IT
HAS THE MOST
DIFFICULTY.
>> AND YES, THEY DO
GET A LOT OF BAD
PRESS, AND THEY ARE
NOT GOOD AT PUBLIC
RELATIONS. AND I
THINK SOMETIMES, AND
THE YOUNG WOMEN AND
THEY HAVE THE MAYBE
THE OTHER STORIES
THEY HEAR. AND
SOMETIMES THEY ARE
INSECURE. AND SHE
COMES IN HERE, SHE IS
LOADED FOR BEAR, AND
SOMETIMES, THEY CAN
UNLOAD ON EACH OTHER.
AND THEY MIGHT SAY
MY DAUGHTER-IN-LAW
SAID, WHEN THEY GET
MARRIED, HE IS MINE
AND NOT YOURS A
LONGER, AND YOU ARE
NOT WELCOME HERE
ANYMORE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND I
WOULD SAY THAT WOULD
BE FROM DOCTOR PHIL.
AND THAT IS HORRIBLE.
AND YOU DOCUMENT IN
THE BOOK, AND THIS IS
CALLED RELATED BY
CHANCE AND FAMILY BY
CHOICE, AND YOU HAVE
THE STRESS AREAS, AND
DO YOU HAVE ANY
ORDER?
>> AND YES IT IS
DIFFERENT WITH EVERY
FAMILY TO BE HONEST.
AND ONE OF THE MOST
IMPORTANT THINGS, AND
IF THE WOMEN ARE
FOLLOWING CHRIST,
AND THIS WOULD BE
SUCH A CENTRAL
MEETING PLACE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND YES
THAT WOULD GIVE YOU A
JUMPSTART.
>> AND YES, AND YOU
HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY
TO SAY, I AM NOT
SURE, THAT I DON'T
KNOW IF I LIKE YOU,
BUT I AM REALLY
COMMITTED TO HONOR
GOD AND HIS WORD,
AND AS SUCH, I WILL
ACCEPT HIS WORD AND
HOW CAN WE DO THIS
TOGETHER? AND THERE
IS NO CLASS ON HOW WE
DO THIS.
>>ARTHELENE: AND I
THINK IT GOES WITHOUT
SAYING, AND THE
MOTHER-IN-LAW SHOULD
BE THE ADULT AND THE
GROWN-UP.
>> SOMETIMES THEY ARE
NOT, AND SOME WOMEN,
AND WHEN THE NEST IS
EMPTY THEY ARE LOST
AND THEY DON'T KNOW
WHAT TO DO, AND THEY
DO WHAT THEY HAVE
ALWAYS DONE.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
WOULD THAT BE THE
REASON, TO PREPARE
FOR THE EMPTY NEST?
AND WHEN THE KIDS ARE
ADULTS? AND MAYBE
YOU HAVE SOME KIND OF
INTEREST AND PASSION
AND ACTIVITY THAT YOU
COULD DO?
>> YES, I THINK SO.
AND THE BIBLE SAYS WE
SHOULD RAISE OUR
CHILDREN THE WAY THEY
SHOULD GO. AND YOU
KNOW, AND THEY KNOW
HOW THEY SHOULD GO,
AND YOU KNOW YOU HAVE
DONE A GOOD JOB AND
THIS IS HOW IT WORKS.
IN THIS SHOULD NOT
BE A SURPRISE. AND
SO MANY WOMEN ARE
CAUGHT OFF GUARD,
AND MAYBE, YOU ARE
BILLY'S MOTHER, AND
YOU HAVE BEEN A
MOTHER FOR A LONG
TIME, AND YOU ARE
THE CARPOOL DRIVER,
AND ALL OF A SUDDEN
IT IS GONE, AND YOU
ARE INTO IT, AND YOU
PUT IN SO MUCH. AND
I THINK IT IS WISE TO
RECOGNIZE FROM THE
DAYS THE BABIES ARE
BORN, WE WANT TO HELP
THEM TO GO IN THE
LORD. AND I STILL
HAVE A WONDERFUL
OPPORTUNITY, AND I
CAN SERVE, NO MATTER
WHAT.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
EVEN IF YOU ARE A
WIDOW OR WHATEVER,
AND IT IS STILL SO
MUCH THAT YOU COULD
FIND FULFILLING, AND
WHAT WOULD BE THE
ROLE OF THE SON? AND
HE MUST STICK WITH
THE WIFE, BASICALLY
AND SHE COULD BE DEAD
WRONG ON SOME THINGS.
>> AND YOU KNOW, THE
MAN IN THE MIDDLE IS
TOUGH. AND SOMETIMES
YOU WANT TO STAY OFF
OF THE RADAR.
ACCIDENTALLY, THEY
COULD MAKE IT WORSE.
AND IF THEY
COMPLAIN, AND YOU
KNOW, THEY MIGHT
SAY, SHE HAS A LOT
OF GROWING TO DO AND
WE ARE SORRY, AND
THEY SAY BABY LISTEN,
AND EVERYBODY KNOWS
MY MOTHER IS SO
DIFFICULT, AND THEY
PLAY THE ENDS AGAINST
THE MIDDLE, AND WHAT
WE SHOULD DO, AND WE
SHOULD BE CLEAR AND
SAY, AND I HAVE GOT
A MOTHER, AND I CAN
HAVE ROOM FOR BOTH OF
YOU, AND AS
BELIEVERS IN CHRIST,
AND WE COULD BE A
FAMILY TOGETHER. AND
DON'T BE THE CARRIER
PIGEON, AND YOU CAN
YOU CAN JUST A OUT OF
THESE THINGS, AND
YOU CAN SAY, AND YOU
CAN LET PEOPLE KNOW
HOW MUCH PEOPLE HURT
YOU AND GIVE EACH
OTHER A CALL. AND
TALK ABOUT CHRISTMAS
AND TALK ABOUT WHAT
YOU WANT TO DO AND
TALK IT OVER.
>>ARTHELENE: AND THAT
WOULD BE ANOTHER
MINEFIELD, THE
HOLIDAYS.
>> ABSOLUTELY, AND I
HAVE THREE SONS.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU
HAVE THE CHILDREN.
AND YOU GO TO THIS
ONE AND YOU GROW UP
WITH THAT.
>> AND YOU KNOW, AND
WE DID CHRISTMAS EVE
WITH MY FAMILY, AND
THEN MY HUSBAND'S
FAMILY WE WOULD BE
ON CHRISTMAS MORNING
AND YOU WOULD THINK I
HAD STARTED WORLD WAR
III SOMETIMES, AND IT
DID NOT GO OVER WELL
THE FIRST TIME. AND
EVENTUALLY, AND IT
WAS A REAL
RECOGNITION, AND WE
NEED TO BE FLEXIBLE.
AND WE HAD TO BE
FLEXIBLE. AND WE
HAVE DONE CHRISTMAS,
A WEEK EARLY, AND
MAYBE EVERYBODY WOULD
BE TRAVELING FOR
CHRISTMAS, AND IT
WOULD BE THE MORNING
OF THE 18TH, AND WE
WOULD HAVE A
PRESENCE, AND I SAID
TO SOMEBODY,
AND WHEN DO THEY
PICK UP ON CHRISTMAS?
BECAUSE IT WAS
CHRISTMAS DAY AND I
THOUGHT IT REALLY WAS CHRISTMAS
HOWEVER, WE WERE PRETENDING IT
WAS CHRISTMAS FOR SCHEDULING
TO BE TOGETHER.
>>ARTHELENE: AND
SOMETIMES IT IS
IMPOSSIBLE, AND HE
COULD BE THE
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TO
THE MOTHER-IN-LAW,
AND THE ONE WHO IS
MORE EMOTIONALLY
MATURE, AND WHAT DO
WE DO WITH SOMEONE
WHO IS IMPOSSIBLE?
>> I TELL THE MOTHERS
IN LAW, AND THIS IS
THE GATEKEEPER FOR
THE GRANDCHILDREN,
AND YOU CANNOT SIMPLY
IGNORE THE
RELATIONSHIP, AND
YOU MUST PRAY. AND
YOU MUST PRAY
EARNESTLY. AND YOU
DON'T PRAY THAT THEY
ARE WRONG, BUT YOU
DO PRAY THAT IT WILL
WORK. IN YOU SAY YOU
MEAN NO HARM, AND YOU
ARE OPEN, AND YOU
WANT TO HAVE THE
RELATIONSHIP.
>>ARTHELENE: AND THE
TIME IS ON YOUR SIDE,
AND IF YOU LIVE THE
CHRISTIAN LIFE, THEY
WILL PICK IT UP AND
WE ARE OUT OF TIME.
AND WE ARE JUST ABOUT
OUT OF TIME AND THIS
IS SUCH A GREAT BOOK
AND IF YOU ARE TUNING
IN, I AM SPEAKING TO
THE AUTHOR, AND THE
BOOK IS SO
WONDERFUL, THE LORD
HAS PREPARED HER TO
WRITE A BOOK. AND
THE WEBSITE HAS BEEN
UP THERE FOR A LONG
TIME, QUITE A WHILE.
YOU CAN LEARN SO MUCH
MORE ABOUT HER
MINISTRY THROUGH THE
WEBSITE. AND I
REALLY BELIEVE, THE
LORD WANTED YOU TO
WRITE SOMETHING THAT
IS IMPORTANT, AND
YOU KNOW, THERE ARE
SO MANY WONDERFUL
BIBLE CLASSES, AND
THEY COULD MAKE A
REALLY GOOD USE OF
THIS.
>> AND WE HAVE GOT A
DISCUSSION GUIDE ON
THE WEBSITE AND THEY
CAN HAVE THE SMALL
GROUPS.
>>ARTHELENE:
AND THEN BY
FOLLOWING THIS, AND I
DON'T KNOW HOW THIS
MIGHT HELP YOU, BUT
YOU COULD MAKE IT
BETTER, AND I KNOW,
AND I KNOW THAT WE
ARE SPEAKING TO
PEOPLE, AND YOU
WOULD UNDERSTAND AND
YOU CAN RELATE TO
WHAT WE ARE SAYING,
AND THE LORD WANTS TO
MAKE IT BETTER FOR
YOU, AND HE HAS
CHOSEN ONE OF HIS
DAUGHTERS TO WRITE A
BOOK ABOUT IT. AND
THESE ARE SOME GREAT
PRACTICAL WAYS TO
MAKE THINGS BETTER,
AND MORE IMPORTANTLY,
AND WHEN YOU DO IT
RIGHT, YOUR BUILDING
HIS KINGDOM AND WE
ARE OUT OF TIME, AND
JOIN ME NEXT TIME AND
REMEMBER THERE IS NO
HIGHER CALLING THAN
THAT OF A HOME KEEPER
AND GOD BLESS YOU,
AND GOD BLESS THE
MOTHERS IN LAW.
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