Tip:
Highlight text to annotate it
X
My name is Dr. Randy Hyde. Amy and I are going to be talking about the difficulty that enuresis
causes for parents. So, Randy, as difficult as bed wetting, or daytime wetting is for
a child, it can also be very difficult for a parent. Very! Very difficult, because you
think about a parent, and they're so excited, you know, they have this little child and
they're growing, and you know, they're looking at developmental milestones, when they crawl,
when they talk, when they potty train. Sixteen! Come on! You know? I mean it's hard! It's
hard because we try so hard, I mean it's the most important thing in our lives. And you
feel like you're failing. You really do. As a parent. Yeah; it is, it's also shameful
for a parent and they feel guilty. Like, what am I not getting, what am I doing wrong? Especially
if it's a first child. Yes, they've got nothing to compare it against, apart from other people's
children, who of course, are potty trained almost immediately. Think about the expense,
having to wash the sheets every day. Destroyed mattresses. Oh man! I will get a parent into
my office and they'll, if they have a child who is four years old and they're not potty
trained, oh, they're going crazy. It's like, "oh, you know, I really don't mind, but ugh!"
They really do. And you also, you also fluctuate between feeling sorry for the child one minute,
and feeling angry that you just can't get this, get them to understand that they need
to go when they need to go, and... you know. So you're having these conflicting emotions
as a parent. And women are funny, because women talk about anything and everything.
And they'll often say, "oh, how old was your child when they were potty trained?" Right.
And, you know, they'll say, "oh, mine was easy; in fact, he potty trained himself!"
Well, thank you very much! Yeah. You know, it just makes you feel more inadequate. It
just made me feel better. I know. "Oh, you're child isn't potty trained yet? Hmm. What have
you tried?" You know, it's like, they blame the parent. Yeah, and you feel guilty enough
already. I know, it, it's heaped on. Oh, how about in-laws? Yes. You know, I mean, bless
their hearts, they're trying to help, but, but the problem is, it's not what the parent's
doing, it's not what the child's doing, there's a physiological genetic base. I'll tell you
one of the best experiences I had, is there was a little eleven year old boy, who was
struggling with enuresis, and they were talking about it over Thanksgiving dinner. Nice. And
the uncle, his favorite uncle, said, "you're eleven? Hey, I didn't work through that until
I was fourteen." That was the best thing that ever happened, for that eleven year old boy.
The uncle lied. He was seven, he just put in fourteen to help him feel better. It was
the best thing that ever happened for that little eleven year old boy. To know that his
favorite uncle also struggled with it. And it is, it's family based, genetic. Right.