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>> [Background Music] I'm Jillian Michaels.
This video is different than anything else I've ever done
because this is about teens, by teens for teens.
And as teenage girls, you have specific needs, emotionally,
physically and culturally.
This video is divided into three sections.
The first part is about self-esteem.
We're going to talk about ways of improving your body image,
boosting your confidence
and dramatically improving your self-esteem.
Second part of the video is about nutrition.
How to create a diet that's a way of life,but no rules,
no good foods, no bad foods just simple facts and information
to help you make the right food choices for you.
And the third section is of course the fitness section.
And as usual I plan on kicking your ***.
So we've designed a killer hip hop workout that's fun
and intense.
And this workout is going to make you lean
and ripped long term the healthy way.
So get ready for part one.
I had a chance to speak with a group of girls.
Facing the same issues I faced when I was I was growing up.
And times have changed, but problems remain.
And I think they're dealing with a lot
of the concerns many teenagers are facing today.
And by the way when you watch this DVD again,
you can go to the Main Menu page and just skip directly
to the workout section if you'd like.
I know you guys know that-- you guys all came and I've met
with a lot of people and you guys were the most
like authentic.
In my opinion and such a fantastic cross section
of what I think teenage girls are going through.
And you represent whole different walks of life,
whole different body types, all different types of personalities
and I really wanted that.
So what I'm hoping is that people at home will listen
to you guys, hear you, hear your thoughts
and relate and understand.
And then I want to talk together as a group
about maybe the solutions for coming
up with issues you might be dealing with,
problems you might be having, body image, self-esteem,
confidence, pressures that you're facing.
Because this is a video for teenagers like, you know,
anywhere from 13 to early, early 20's.
And it's about me learning to live in your world because,
you know, obviously, I was a kid, a troubled kid,
a heavy kid, I went through all that.
But times have changed.
And even though it does seem like some
of the problems remained the same and that there's pressure,
I think today's environment is very different
and you guys-I adventure.
I dare to say that it's a little bit more sinister I think
that you guys are evolving more quickly.
I think that the options that are
out there are a lot more dangerous than things
that were available to me as a kid.
And at the same time I think you guys are a lot more
psychologically evolved than we were.
And when I was talking with you Kelly [assumed spelling]
with you Shaina [assumed spelling], you guys were
like I've always felt great.
I've got my body.
And I was like, that's what I want.
I want to hear from two girls sort of like, I feel good.
And like when I feel good,
sometimes I feel guilty for feeling good.
So I want to just start out and warm us up a little bit.
And start hearing from you guys individually.
Let's just take turns about like issues, feelings and, you know,
if you're not comfortable with something,
you don't have to mention it.
So don't feel pressured and just come straight from your heart
and like as we go on it'll get a little bit easier.
We have an hour, just relax into it.
OK. So Brenda, let me start with you.
I think I really just want to know like what stresses out,
what gets in your heart and your head,
what are you struggling with,
what are you not struggling with,
do you have body image uses?
>> For me, I-- well the first thing is I have the heighth,
I'm 5'11, I'm tall.
So the 5 pounds for me is-- it doesn't seem like a lot.
And I don't notice it, until I start losing more and more
and more unlike a smaller person.
I mean--
>> Now, why are you losing weight though?
>> Well, because I have the height, I could model.
And so I'm like-- I've been focusing on trying
to lose weight the healthy way.
Not being anorexic or bulimic.
>> I would venture to say
that your body is healthy right now, though.
>> I'm-- Well, I'm sure it is.
But I could model if I lost weight.
If I lost like 30 pounds.
>> OK. Well, now we're getting into something that is kind
of a different a issue.
Because now we're talking about getting below a healthy weight
in order to fit in to a certain stereotype.
That maybe the media suggest this ideal
which I think we've all talked about before.
And that when I asked you where these pressures are coming
like you tell me like, where is-- you want to model.
So you want to get super skinny?
>> Yeah. I mean, the big thing for me is I want to be able
to support myself out here because I'm going
to be turning 18 in about six months.
And my mom's going to be moving back home to Wisconsin.
And I've never had job before.
I just got a job as a hostess, three days a week.
>> That's exactly my first job.
Yogurt shop at 15 and hostess and then pizza delivery
and then bartender and then,
you'll make a lot of money at that job.
That's a good job.
>> Bartending?
>> OK, I'll keep that--
>> No, the hostess job.
Go back to that hostess job.
That's good for 17 years old.
That's where I'd started and I felt the same way you did.
I was like, "Oh my God, how I'm going
to be able to support myself.
I'm not going to be able to make enough money."
I was terrified.
>> And that's really my issue right now.
And I know with modeling like when I was--
I think, I started when I was 14 I was healthy
because I ate all the time.
I worked out like I was in gymnastics
because I was a teeny person.
And I never had to worry about it.
I started taking pictures, seeing agencies
and everybody loved me.
But as soon as I hit puberty like I just became a woman.
I guess you could say--
>> And then, they didn't love you anymore?
>> Well, basically they said you have a pretty face
but you need to lose 30 pounds.
>> Guys feel free to weigh in whenever you have thoughts
because I can see you Kelly.
I could see your face it was like this.
Go ahead take your shot, go ahead.
>> With modeling though, it's like lose 30 pounds,
lose another 30 it's like it's always going to be.
>> It's always busy.
So that's it.
It's never going to be enough.
When is it going to be enough?
>> Exactly.
>> That's exactly it.
And I think that that's got to come
from you're being influenced by the outside world.
And that's one of the things I want to talk about.
What are the things that are influencing you?
Because she's right, it's--
yes, our world is always going to critique.
It's always going to project issues on to you,
whether it's family, whether it's friends
that might not be the healthiest friends to have in your life,
whether it's your job.
Everybody has their own stuff
and they're always going to put it on you.
And the only way to manage that is
to be right with yourself inside.
So, the idea is, how do we accomplish that?
It's a lot harder to do than it is to say.
It's kind of like, people always used to say, "I hate this."
If you can just see the glass as half full and you're like.
The glass-- it's half a glass of water, you know what I mean?
Like it's just you can't tell somebody you just had a lifetime
of being fed a certain self-image or certain way
of thinking to just change overnight.
It isn't about that.
It's about slowly making changes,
slowly modifying your behavior, taking little steps to learn
to affirm yourself and believe in yourself, and being friends
with people that are comfortable with their bodies,
changing the kind of groups that you hang out with
or the influences that are being put upon you.
I want to hear from you, tell me.
>> It's kind of funny 'cause I always want to talk
to my friends and say like,
if I could be thinner life would be so much easier.
And it's like I don't know like I love my body but there's just
that middle section it just-- it's like constantly on my mind.
Like no matter what I'm doing like if I'm sitting in class,
I'm like I have to sit up straight
so my tummy rolls not showing.
And like, when I go shopping, it's like I have to pick
out certain clothes 'cause I know that if I wear this, can't.
I don't like going to the beach 'cause I have
to be in my bathing suit.
It's just like, like even if it's not that big of a deal,
it just nagging like on the corner of your mind like always.
>> Okay, wait.
I think-- here's my question.
How would life be easier?
>> It's just-- since I think-- I mean like not consciously think
about it like constantly.
But it's like as I go throughout my day,
if like I didn't have that worry.
>> How do you -- worry of what?
Because like I'm looking at you and in my mind--
like I've been there where I'm like dude,
like what, I feel so fat today.
And it's-- You know, I struggle with it myself
which is why I'm passionate about the issue and the topic.
And it's like, you know, by practicing what you preach,
you know if you talk about it, you kind of have
to walk the walk as well as talk the talk.
So I understand.
But as somebody who understands the difference
between being healthy and unhealthy,
physically speaking, you're healthy.
Now you're also beautiful and you're wearing skinny jeans,
you look hot in them, you got a cute little top on.
Like, so I'm looking that you going and what's wrong
with your world right now?
Like what's not perfect, like what would be
so much easier if you were what?
You know, stick thin?
I'm not getting it.
>> I don't know.
It's like when I was younger I was kind of like her.
Like I was way athletic, like always at cheer and gymnastics
and dance and everything and then it's
like I got really sick.
Like right around puberty time
and like I didn't eat anything like all day.
And I got so skinny.
And then when I start eating again,
my metabolism was just gone.
And I like ballooned out, so I'm trying to like--
>> Well, I'm really glad that you bring this up.
This is a perfect example of what I'm talking about,
is that you damage your metabolism when you don't eat.
Now, with that said, you have the ability
to get it back up to speed--
>> Yeah. Oh, yeah.
>> And you look fantastic.
But this is why you don't want to--
this is why when you look at options like not eating,
skipping meals, what have you.
You're going to do real damage in the long term.
So, that said, you look pretty great, but it sounds
like you gained some weight after that.
>> Yeah.
>> And you've been struggling with it mentally as well?
>> Yeah. And it was weird 'cause like I was starting high school
like right out the time I started getting all the weight
back and it was like just the shock of going from like my,
you know, like little junior high, it's like this huge,
you know, high school.
And just all the pressures of like--
>> Who else went through that.
>> -- older kids.
>> Anybody go through the puberty thing?
I went through it.
>> Oh, yeah.
>> I think pretty much every girl does.
>> I was the loser like in one through six, was like whatever,
we were doing school plays.
And there was the popular girl but it was all kind
of like we were all pretty cool, you know?
Junior high, tragic.
And that's when I was like the loser.
The kids would like make howl sounds at me in the hallway.
You know what I mean, like who-- the puberty is the worst.
>> It's bad.
>> I'm still waiting for puberty.
[ Laughter ]
I don't know.
>> Any day now.
>> Any day now.
>> I feel it coming.
>> Yeah.
>> This is so perfect though, why do you say that?
>> Well, you know, I mean I don't know like for you it's
like I was-- if I gets skinny, I mean, I won't have this
to worry about with me.
I'm worrying about that my ribs that stick out.
But I'm not unhealthy.
I'm just naturally skinny where I can play the xylophone in my,
you know, my whatever it is right here.
Like it-- really, it's like the cage or whatever.
But, so it's like the same thing.
It's like I'm thinking about putting a little weight
and my ribs wouldn't show so much.
And I'm not going to have that--
>> Yeah. I think it's like no matter you are 'cause I think
that you're gorgeous.
I'm like man I wish I could be that thin.
She's like man I can't believe my ribs are showing.
No matter what you are you're going to wish
that were something else--
>> Why?
>> I don't really care anymore though.
I kind of dealt with it and-- but--
>> You're good with it?
>> Yeah.
>> You get into place where--
>> It is what it is.
>> But you're still deprecating about it.
>> In a way.
I mean, you know--
>> Little bit.
>> -- light-hearted.
>> Light-hearted.
>> Yeah.
>> But it is true.
I think that it's like-- OK.
You know, somebody has a-- I'm going to say ***.
Somebody has, you know, an *** like the J.Lo ***,
on the girl that doesn't wants it and vice versa.
>> It's always going to be that way with work, with looks.
>> No matter what.
>> Why?
>> Her boyfriend is nicer to her
than my boyfriend is-- you know--
>> What we can't have.
>> Why is this though?
Why is it not like should you-- how--
again, back to my question, I'm the going
to nail this question and get the answer.
How would your life be perfect?
What would change?
>> It won't be as perfect but--
>> In what way?
>> I honestly like when I try and think
about it, I don't know.
>> Dude. So, you're sitting here telling me
like if I can just get rid of this.
I know my life would be so much easier.
How? I'm not sure.
I just feel in my heart --
>> Pretty much.
>> Things will be good.
In what way would it be better?
>> Well, I'd have that like that nagging at the back
of my mind would be gone.
>> No, because you'll find something else.
>> -- switch to something else.
Yeah.
>> To beat the crap out of yourself about.
>> But it's like.
>> So why?
So why? That's what I want
to know is why are you beating yourself up to begin with?
>> Expectation.
It's--
>> From?
>> From everyone and everything and every magazine,
and we didn't feel like set the bar
like this is as far as it goes.
You know and--
>> Tell me how far?
Where is it coming from?
>> Well, just-- the Rags, you know.
>> Tabloids.
>> Fashion magazines.
Fashion magazines, where else?
>> You know, even-- I don't know, just everything around us
like in the day that we live in--
>> Two years.
>> Oh, definitely.
>> You know what I love?
High school day.
You can see like the difference
from if you did lose those 10 pounds like, wow, you know,
this guy is interested now.
This one is interested now.
And then, about a week ago when I had 10 pounds
like I was 10 pounds heavier, he weren't interested, you know.
It just changes.
It's from the people the people that you go to school with.
It's from the guys you date.
It's from the people who you're best friends.
But, you know, in the back
of mind they're saying things about you.
And then, you know, they're saying things.
>> OK. Well, let's talk about what are kind of people
that are going to talk trash about you?
>> Personally, I think--
>> Every friend in high school 'cause no one's really,
you know--
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>> It's hard to find like real friend.
So like pretty much everyone you know in high school could--
>> Is that true?
>> Yeah.
>> I would say I actually have a core group of friends
that like I know, I'm sure some of them because it's
like human nature would be like, oh, you know, talk about people.
But like, I think that even if I were like 400 pounds,
they'd still be supportive and like never--
>> It's hard but it takes a lot--
>> Yeah.
>> -- those people to find those,
the ones that actually care about you.
>> Those are like five girls in my entire high school--
>> But I think that it's like even--
I think in every school there's like the popular girls
and there's the-- which the popular girls?
Great. There are popular girls in my school that were lovely.
That were so sweet and that would come up to me and like,
you know-- 'cause ultimately I got--
I changed from junior high into high school.
But like there would be the ones that were really nasty and mean.
And then there will be the ones that were like, "How are you?"
They'll go out of their way,
because they felt good about themselves.
And they were comfortable with themselves.
And so, they didn't care if they were associating
with the girl that was a loser.
Because I'm like I'm cool like "How are you?
Are you good?
You look good."
And I would be like, "Really?
Thanks." You know what I mean?
So, I think it's a question of--
there are people out there that are going to be quality friends
that are going to be supportive.
There might be fewer and far between because a lot
of times I think with teenagers,
you're dealing with so much stuff.
And this is what I try to convey to young girls that I talk
to who are being picked on or being bullied is that the girls
that are bullying you are putting their issues on to you.
>> They hate their thoughts.
>> They hate their thoughts.
Thank you.
They hate something about themselves.
They feel insecure.
They feel inadequate.
>> They pretty much hate their whole life.
>> They hate-- Exactly, Dude.
And so-- thank you.
That's exactly it.
And so, they're looking at you
and they're projecting on to you.
What they don't like-- I know that--
you know, I get on people when I feel like they're being lazy.
Or, you know, I have issues with being needy.
We all have our issues.
And so when someone is needy, I'm like, uh, needy.
And the thing-- 'cause I don't make it in myself,
because I'm not comfortable with what's inside of me.
And I look at that, I'm like this is your stuff,
these are your issues, stop projecting it.
You know, and I'm 32 now so I can try to know
when something is not about somebody else and it's about me.
But as kids, you're not evolved enough.
You want to fit in.
>> Yeah.
>> You know.
And so, I think-- but here's the solution to this is
that there are people out there.
Like you said, there are people out there
that are going to be supportive.
There are people out there that are going to be on your side.
And it is about like working on developing relationships
and friendships with people that are healthy and comfortable
and supportive of you.
And being able to identify who's picking on you in school.
Who's the ones that are talking about you and the boys
that aren't dating you?
Who are these people?
>> Like-- I don't know.
People that I thought were my friends.
And the guys-- I mean, I'm just saying I went from--
'cause I used to be big, I used to be really chubby.
And then I lost weight through puberty, I lost a lot of weight.
And then, going from then no one was interested.
I was like friend, yeah.
It's even that.
And then, when I lost weight people were like, "Oh,
hey, you know, look good."
And then they were actually interested actually like want
to hang out, you know, stuff like that.
And it's like it's-- that's what shows you,
like that's why my biggest fear is gaining weight.
Because if I gain weight and I get heavy again, no one--
you know, no one is going to be interested again.
I'm going to go back to that and not having as many friends as I,
you know, did once I lost weight.
>> All right, look, I'm not going to lie to you.
I think that-- yeah, OK.
Somebody is overweight.
Somebody is overweight like some people are overweight.
None of you guys are overweight.
OK. Now, yeah, when you're overweight somebody might not be
as attracted to you.
You can't control other people.
All you can control is yourself.
But I'll tell you something.
By doing that, by controlling yourself, and the way you react
to things, you have the ability to create any life
for yourself that you want.
Don't be fooled.
And don't believe otherwise, because that's not the case.
Surround yourself with people that are going to be supportive.
When I was in school, the kids were mean.
My mom got me into martial arts and the people
that I was training with in my martial arts studio
were fantastic.
And they built me up and they told me how great I was,
how strong I was, and how talented I was.
And by being around with people like that,
I started to believe it.
People that thought I was great and I was like "I am great."
You're an idiot.
>> The thing is you're never going to be on a fully--
exclude all those people, all the negative thoughts.
And it's always going to be there.
Whether as friends, people you don't know, magazines.
>> It's true.
>> It is.
>> The thing with family though is it's not
like sometimes there are situations
where the parent are like that.
But like sometimes they just-- you know, like my parents,
for instance, wanted to like protect me.
And now like, that's what they said.
You know, when I-- because I wasn't allowed
to wear bikinis when I was small.
Remember I told you-
>> No, tell me again.
>> Yeah. When I was-- I wasn't allowed to wear bikinis--
>> I do remember but I want you to tell me again.
>> -- because they-- you know,
because they didn't want me get made fun off
and stuff like that.
And then now, I can't wear bikini still just
because I couldn't then.
So now, it doesn't feel right.
And I'm uncomfortable in them.
And I buy one pieces and look like I try
and get cute ones, you know what I mean.
But I can't-- Yeah, yeah.
Well now, there's cute one pieces.
So, it works for me.
>> Tell me-- How do you feel about your body now
because right now I know that you're living in fear
of gaining weight that you won't wear a two-piece?
Like how do you feel about your body now?
Where are you at with it?
>> I really don't like my body.
I mean--
>> You still don't like your body.
>> I'm still on a diet right now and I'm exercising right now,
and I have a trainer, so.
>> You're like-- you're so cute.
And you're so funky and have like this original style it's--
>> Yeah, I just--
>> And you come across really confident like--
>> Well, 'cause I'm confident in the person that I am.
But I-- there's things about myself that I don't like.
I'm like, you know, I just don't like my body.
I just don't like it at all.
>> OK.
>> I like your body.
>> But, I know that--
>> Right, exactly.
So, you know, everybody here is sitting here telling you
that your body is beautiful.
But you don't see it that way.
>> But I just don't see it.
When I look in the mirror like--
I mean, like my parents tell me all the time
like you're insane, you know.
But I look in the mirror and I just think I look really big.
I don't know.
And I think I have cottage cheese and everyone else
like I don't see it and I'm like, it's right there,
how can you not see it?
It's in plain sight, like why don't you see it.
>> But wouldn't be easier like instead of saying
like your whole-- your body as a whole instead
like picking little things and saying, "I like this about me."
I like that about me and building yourself up.
Because that's what's helped me, when I was younger I was skinny.
I was a teeny, little person.
I loved myself and that's what I keep going back to.
But I have to remember that I'm developed.
I'm a woman now.
>> Woman now.
>> And so, I mean, I look in the mirror
and I have my little shorts on, and I was like, I love my legs.
I love them.
I mean, they're long and they're muscular 'cause I walk all the
time and their toned.
And, I mean, that's what I start with.
>> That's exactly it.
Start to accentuate the positives.
Start to tell yourself, "I love this about myself.
I love that about myself."
>> And it starts to show on you.
>> And it starts to show and you start
to believe it and you project it.
And when you respect yourself, people sense
that you respect yourself and then they in turn
like show you the same respect that you show yourself.
>> And guaranteed everything you worry about,
no one else even sees that.
>> Yeah.
>> Shaina, will you talk for me for a minute?
Because I-- you know, you and I had a moment in your life.
I feel good.
I like myself.
>> Like, yeah, well, I mean, I guess going back to family,
I mean, I'm half Chinese.
So I come from small people
and then even though my dad is white, I mean, he--
I don't know how he can eat so much and even just have--
not have a stomachache?
But he just puts it away.
But, you know, just-- my dad is like, "Oh, you get it from me
because I was a football player and a runner and, you know,
and you're so athletic."
And, you know, when I was young it's-- instead of do this,
do that, it's like what do you want to do?
Oh, good. You know, let's go dance class.
Let's go to skiing.
Let's go to track.
Let's do this.
Like I-- I mean in high school it was like--
I mean, I've been dancing since I was, you know, this big,
and then in high school, I mean I was captain of track,
I was varsity, freshman year.
I was captain of cross country, ski team.
So I come from being really athletic and then, you know,
everything came tumbling down when I tore my ACL in half.
>> Yes.
>> Yes. And so, I mean my body has done shifts
but I've always been athletic.
I have. You know, it doesn't matter how skinny I am,
my legs are-- you know, they're muscular.
And even when this one went down to like nothing, it was still--
it bounced right back.
>> Right.
>> And, I mean, I think this leg is still little skinnier
than other legs.
But then again, that's the leg.
You see stuff that no one else sees.
You know, I know that my jeans don't fit as tight
because while I was rehabilitating, everything else,
it's like your other one just can't help
but be a little more -- and that's like the weird things
like my leg is longer than the other leg.
And, you know, one eye is smaller than the other.
No one can tell, you know.
>> And no one--
>> And just searching for it.
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>> Because they're so busy focusing on themselves.
So I think that's exactly it.
And I think that like what I want to do--
here's the idea behind the whole video is to say like, "OK,
look, you're not alone.
Everybody has got body issues, parents, friends, magazines,
society, culture, and it's never going to stop."
So now that we've established that fact, how do we change it?
I think first, it starts from within.
It starts from like learning to say positive things to yourself.
Learning to surround yourself with people
that are more supportive,
understanding other people's shortcomings, and learning
to either communicate your needs to them.
If in fact, they can't hear you, taking a step back
and protecting yourself in ways that you need to.
When you have a reaction to something, being evolved enough
to look at your behavior.
If you're somebody that maybe picks on somebody, look at it.
Look at that and ask yourself what's going on with you.
And deal with those issues and you guys,
the thing is you're all gorgeous.
You are. You're all gorgeous, so beautiful.
And you said something to me when I had talked
to you previously I asked you what you thought about yourself
and how you felt about yourself.
And you still feel how?
>> I just-- I'm not going to say that my life would be better
if I was a little thinner.
But in the back of my mind I feel
like I could still lose 10 pounds and be OK.
>> From where, honey?
Where is going to come from?
Where would it come from?
Where would it come from?
>> I know and I know that I'm being crazy.
>> You're being insane.
You're being insane.
You've lost too much.
>> I just wish somebody would like shake me and just say--
>> Shake her.
[ Laughter ]
But the reason why I wanted Shaina and Kelly to be here
because they were both like when I talked to them,
they were both like, "I don't feel bad about myself."
And when I say that I don't feel bad about myself,
other people think I'm stuck up.
>> I think it's hard to be sitting here and be like
"Oh yeah I'm a size zero.
I'm, you know, don't like this."
You know obviously, obviously everyone can change.
Like I haven't worked out in a month,
usually I take dance class every day.
But I've been moving and I have a puppy.
You know I just can't do it.
Obviously I'm like, "Yeah, I should've exercised."
What am I going to do about it?
Nothing, I'll exercise next week, you know.
>> You don't beat yourself up about it.
>> Yeah, don't beat yourself up about it.
>> You exercise to feel good about yourself.
Not to lose that pound you need to lose by the weekend.
It's just like I do it 'cause it feels healthy, it feels nice.
I'm not thinking that when I'm doing it.
>> I don't want to hear the fact that like--
so then, now you got two beautiful girls
that feel beautiful.
And yet you must be anorexic or you must be stuck up.
Because now I think we're not supporting each other.
Why are we not supporting each other like as women?
Guys, I hate to say this, like we're kind of all we have.
You might have boyfriends and, look, believe me.
Had my fair share of boyfriends and that's all great.
But at the end of the day like,
have you ever noticed how men support each other?
Now, we're saying as a culture
that if you don't have something you don't like about yourself,
you won't fit into the group.
>> Or just fix it.
Go on. They'll fix it.
>> It can't-- It's just-- It's not that easy.
>> It shouldn't just be that easy.
Things are too accessible.
And you've got to like-- there's a limit on how far to go.
>> There's a limit on--
>> And it's not just about weight too like.
And that the thing is when people don't like you
and people don't it-- and first of all, if someone doesn't
like you or someone says mean things,
you shouldn't talk to them anyway.
But, I think it goes further beyond weight.
[ Multiple Speaker ]
>> The flaws that you notice like I wasn't obsessed
with my teeth being messed up and tell--
if weren't for me being fat, then everyone call me anorexic.
And then once, you know, I was kind of in the middle
and they were done with calling me anorexic, then it is was
that I had gapped teeth.
So now like my biggest thing is wanting braces.
And like it's just-- it comes
from these people find new things and make fun of you for.
And then you want to fix them and it's just
like it's never going to stop.
[ Multiple Speakers ]
>> And it's not always going to be about your body.
So, you can't stand in front of the mirror and go.
It's not about your body like, you know, I walk into a room
and someone already has a predetermined thought about me.
And then all my-- any of my friends would be like no,
if you get to know her.
No, you know, she's a nice girl.
But they think, "Oh, she drives a nice car.
Oh, she looks like this,"
because they can't say she's fat.
So, they say something else.
>> Right.
[ Multiple Speakers ]
>> So it's not even just about body issues either.
And I don't think there's perfection.
I don't think you-- I don't think you can be like, "Oh,
I'd be perfect if I was this."
>> Like that's-- not silly, but if you look at Audrey Hepburn,
I mean she's like my idol.
She wasn't perfect looking.
You know, I mean--
>> J.Lo. Look at J.Lo's ***.
Yeah, it's this big and she's a millionaire because of it.
>> It's about--
>> I mean like-- but yet.
>> -- having that confidence within yourself.
>> Exactly.
>> She embraced those things.
>> Exactly.
>> Instead of being like, "Oh, I need to change this,"
like it makes you unique.
Can you imagine if we all change everything?
We would look like clones, it would be boring.
It'd be like--
>> Julia Robert's mouth is this big.
She's famous for it.
>> And she owned that mouth, you know.
>> Totally.
>> She loved her mouth though.
>> Exactly.
It's like it makes you individual.
It makes you who you are.
And people that don't like it, that's their problem, OK.
And the magazines, the girls that you're seeing
in these magazines, I know, these girls.
I know a lot of them.
I've trained a lot of them.
They're not healthy.
Mentally, they are under so much pressure
that they're destroying their bodies.
And they're doing things that are dangerous which leads us
to the next part of this conversation which is
who maybe has done something drastic or dramatic
or what methods have we tried to get skinny or be perfect?
This perfect body that you talk about,
that you talk about, and you talk about.
You're in the middle, you two on the other side.
Anybody?
Pills?
Accidents?
>> Not eating.
>> Yeah.
>> Instead of eating unhealthy stuff,
just don't eat, skip that meal.
>> I can't do any of it.
>> Good.
>> I've thought about it a lot.
Believe me, a lot of it has looked attractive
but I just can't follow through.
Like I've-- I tried not eating
and it's lasted for about a morning.
>> Quite honestly, like I think I said this
to some of you before.
This is my favorite quote, Madeleine Albright,
she's like there's a special place in hell for women
that do not support other women.
And there is.
Because it is-- you guys, the future is yours, seriously.
So yeah, it starts from within.
It absolutely does.
You guys have the ability to change the face of our culture,
to not buy those magazines to talk to each other differently,
to create different friendships, to say to your kids,
you know what, you will stop the pattern with your daughter
when you look at her and you say, "You're gorgeous.
You don't like music?
You want to get into acting?
How about creative writing?
Does that interest you?"
Because you will learn and you will grow from what you've been
through and you can pass it on.
It's your world, for real.
And you have the ability to change the face of it.
>> And if you would start with something little
like that whole like, "Hey, gorgeous," instead of like,
"Hey, you," just that little thing.
Just start small and then it just grows until--
>> Pays to change.
>> Start here.
And for those of you that already are here and the people
that try to get on you about it.
Show them love.
Show them love because darkness can not exist
where there is light.
And they'll come around.
These are people that are insecure
that aren't where you're at.
You know it, you identify it.
Show them love.
Listen, I think-- you know what?
You need to eat something.
Oh, well, things for your advice.
I'm actually not hungry right now.
You know, you look great.
Show them love.
>> Love your hair.
>> Love your hair.
>> Yup.
>> You know what?
It's like own your own stuff, know that it's there,
show them love and the more we do, the more things will change.
Show yourself love.
You treat other people the way you treat yourself.
You pick on somebody, you're beating yourself up.
What you just saw was a bunch of teenagers much
like yourself talking about issues that they're facing,
problems they're dealing
with that I'm assuming you can probably relate to.
I know that I relate to it even at 32.
We talked about some solutions to these problems.
But at the end of the day, the key is to believe
in yourself and love yourself.
Because if you don't nobody else is going to.
The pressure from the outside world is never going
to stop coming.
You have to be right from within, treat yourself well.
And everything changes from there.
>> Hi everyone.
I'm Susan Schulz, editor-in-chief of CosmoGIRL!
magazine and welcome to our Fit and Fab program.
The fact is I get emails from you guys thousands
of them a month asking me all sorts of questions.
Everything from how do I get flat abs,
to how do I eat more healthful,
to how do I feel more confident about myself.
And I've always wanted to be able
to answer all those questions in one place.
And that's why we made this video.
We teamed up with Jillian Michaels,
an amazing trainer who you all know.
And the two of us came up with this great program that's really
all about teaching you how to have a healthy lifestyle.
So, this is about changing your habits today
for your whole life, because the fact is you've got big dreams
for that life of yours.
You want to be everything from a rock star
to owning your own jewelry company, to being a CEO
of a fortune 500 company,
to being President of the United States.
And to do that, you've got to be healthy.
So, have fun with this video and keep those emails coming
to me 'cause I'm here for you 24/7 at susan@cosmogirl.com.
And just remember, girls you were born to lead.
So hey Jillian, how are you doing?
>> Good. How are you?
>> Good. Well, I just want to say how much fun it's been
to work on this Fit and Fab program with you.
>> Thank you so much.
It's been an incredible opportunity for me.
>> It's been so great.
I wanted to ask you 'cause I want the girls
to know a little bit more about you and just wanted to ask you,
you know, how did you first get into fitness?
>> Well, it's such a perfect question to ask me
because I was actually a teenager.
I was 13 years old and overweight and going
through a ton of stuff at home.
And my mom actually got me into martial arts.
And that really turned my whole life around because instead
of being that kid in the hallway that was made fun off
or you know picked on.
I began to see myself as the kid that could, you know,
break two boards with my right food.
And you gear yourself a little bit differently.
And it changed my self-image and my self-esteem
and really I just sort of took off from there.
>> Cool. Now, you know, obviously, you know,
we had spoken with the girls on the video.
>> Yes.
>> And there's-- you can't just do-- you can't just exercise.
It does have to be joined with healthy eating.
And the girls have all those issues talking about, you know,
losing weight, not feeling
like they can have a milkshake if they want it.
You know, all those issues.
So, you know, talk about a little bit about the importance
of the fitness and eating.
It goes together.
It's not one or the other.
>> Oh, it has to function synergistically so to speak.
>> Right.
>> You know, truth be told, like, as kids we're exposed
to all different kinds of radical forms of weight loss,
be it various eating disorders and pills
that the latest teen idol is taking.
And at the end of the day, I've done all of them.
Tried them all, done them all, been there, done that.
And the effects, the aftereffects
of these things are terrible on your body
and really take a toll.
And so, I think it's so important to explain to kids
that like there's a healthy way to go about staying fit.
>> Yeah.
>> Not necessarily being skinny.
That's going to last you the course of your entire life.
>> Right.
>> And it's about moderation.
It's about balance.
You know it's about having like a couple sips of a milkshake,
having, you know, a hand full of French fries.
>> Sure.
>> You're just understanding, you know,
the math of weight loss.
So I'm going to do it in moderation.
>> Right.
>> That's all.
That is the--
>> Treat yourself sometimes.
>> Exactly.
Balance.
>> Yeah, it's true.
You know another thing that I see girls struggling
with all the time through the emails they send me
and through-- you know, when I'm talking to them.
It's just not feeling like they can speak up.
They feel like no one listens to them.
And they feel uncomfortable speaking of in group situations
or letting their opinion be heard.
>> Sure.
>> How can-- how do you think a girl can get
over that initial feeling of I really want
to say something, but I can't?
>> I think it's a couple of different things.
First of all, you know, that's a behavior that is developed.
It doesn't-- I don't believe that people are actually born
with it, I think that, you know, it's something that you have
to consciously work on and take baby steps, you know.
Start by maybe speaking up in a smaller environment or talking
to a teacher and like the more you begin to voice your opinion,
the easier it will become.
>> Right.
>> And additionally I think this is where fitness comes into play
because fitness literally makes you strong.
>> Yeah.
>> You're physically strong.
And when you're physically strong, it transcends
into every other facet of your life because you feel empowered.
So, it gives you that courage to say,
"I'm going to put myself out there.
And if I take a hit or someone knocks me down, so what?
I'll put myself up, dust myself off and move
on to the next thing, right, who cares what they think."
>> Exactly.
>> So, I think, you know, that's why it all functions, you know,
together in order to help us live a happier, healthier life.
>> Definitely.
It so funny just to listen to you because I feel like I want
to like go change into my workout clothes
and get started, you know.
And just, you know, have my second workout of the day.
>> That's insane.
Don't even.
I remember when we first sat down, you're talking
about running a marathon.
So I'm like your third workout of the day.
>> Exactly.
No. I don't exercise too much, I swear.
It's totally healthy, totally in moderation.
But it's just really great to hear all the things
that you say 'cause I think
that it really makes girls know that it's doable.
That's really the thing.
It's not a mountain to climb that they start first steps
up the hill and, you know, they do, they'll reach the top.
>> Absolutely, it's about having fun and it's
about finding balance in your life and incorporate it
into your lifestyle and I think that, you know,
when we first sat down together and you said, you know,
"Our readers are the leaders of tomorrow."
And it really changed the way I thought, "God,
I wish someone had said to me when I was,
you know, a young girl."
>> Yeah.
>> I wish somebody-- and I would have said, "Really?"
>> Yeah.
>> "I can?"
>> Yeah. It's amazing what you can do when someone you feel
like somebody has your back and somebody sees something for you.
>> Yes.
>> Yeah, it's true.
I mean, and these girls I know, I mean I just get so much
from them and just them talking about what they want
to do with their lives.
So, for us to be helping them get there feels really good.
>> I completely agree.
>> Yeah. So, what we hope that we have inspired you guys
to use this video often, daily, as much as possible.
Because really you have the power to live the life
that you want to live.
So, go out there and do it.