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Narrator: Do not attempt the techniques you are
about to see without consulting a professional.
On this episode of the Dog Whisperer.
Desi Lydic: She started just getting really
possessive over things, over toys,
over objects that she wasn't supposed to have.
Monica Allgeier: As soon as she knows I'm about to
take it from her, she'll like lunge after me and
try to attack me.
Caryn Lebduska: Any time, anyone tries to use the
pen with one of the horses,
she runs around the pen, barking, just going crazy.
Chelsea Rae Carlson: Buffy will run around licking at
the fence until her tongue bleeds.
Olivia Hamra: The day he went blind he kind of went
into shock.
Jennifer Dixon: He'll go into his cage and bark,
for the entire time.
Olivia Hamra: You try to coax him out and he goes
into one of these rage fits.
Stop!
Narrator: When good dogs go bad,
there's one man who's their best friend,
Cesar Millan.
Cesar Millan: No dog is too much for me to handle.
I rehabilitate dogs.
I train people.
I am the Dog Whisperer.
Olivia Hamra: Cody Shake.
Good Boy, yeah.
High Five.
I started noticing something was a little bit
off if I'd throw a toy, he'd,
it'd take him a minute to find it.
Also noticed in pictures, when you take a picture of
him, it's a flash in the eyes,
which just started getting bigger and bigger;
didn't really pay much attention to it.
Narrator: When Olivia noticed Cody's vision
problems getting worse, she sought help.
Olivia Hamra: So I took him to the ophthalmologist
and the second she walked in the room,
she didn't even look at him yet,
she just walked in the room and she said,
"Oh, we have a blind dog today!"
And I said, "No, no, no, he's not blind, he,
you know, he's having trouble seeing,
but he's not blind."
And she goes, "Sorry to tell you, his left eye,
he doesn't have any vision in it, and his right eye,
you know, it's deteriorating."
Narrator: Cody suffered from congenital retinal
atrophy, a degenerative disease that almost always
results in complete blindness.
Two weeks after the veterinarian's diagnosis,
Cody lost his sight completely.
Olivia Hamra: And I remember the very day he
lost the other eye, he kinda went into shock.
It, he was just kind of walking and then suddenly
he had a seizure, and then that night he was running
into things badly.
I had to, you know, get rid of my furniture,
I had to pick up after myself more, you know,
just anything little.
I baby-proofed the house almost.
Step, step.
Good boy.
He is a sacrifice, but he's brought me more joy,
he's been my roommate since I was 17,
I'm 25 now.
He's my responsibility and in a way I'm his
responsibility, he watches out for me too.
He's just, you know, he's the love of my life.
Cody there's a step there be careful.
I should be alpha to him, but it's,
it turns out he's alpha with me.
And even my guests that come over,
he starts barking.
Jennifer Dixon: He'll go into his cage,
stay there and bark for the entire time,
the entire time.
Olivia Hamra: Come on, gotta get you out.
And when you try to get him out of the carrier,
you know, that's what happened this morning,
I had to put the oven mitt on.
Come on out, no, no.
Stop, stop, stop, stop!
Um, and he chewed through the oven mitt.
Stop, stop, oh my gosh!
And now he's devised a new plan to pull the oven mitt
off of me and then get my hand.
It's reminiscent of a nervous breakdown when he
goes into one of these rage fits.
He could have torn my finger off.
It's throbbing right now.
I've reached kind of the last straw here;
I don't know what else to do.
Stay, stay, shht.
So I need a miracle and basically Cesar's that, so.
Narrator: Cesar met Olivia at a television newsroom
where he was making an appearance.
He is intrigued by Cody's story and decides to help.
Olivia Hamra: Hi!
Cesar Millan: How are you?
Olivia Hamra: Good, how are you?
Cesar Millan: Good!
Olivia Hamra: Oh, Cody!
He does not like having people over.
Stop, stop; I learned that from you.
Cesar Millan: You almost, you almost there.
Olivia Hamra: Yeah, I know, it's taking time,
but he's just.
Cesar Millan: You don't see total surrendering.
When I came into the household,
Cody was sharing this frantic energy, like this,
this is the energy that I experienced when
I came in.
Olivia Hamra: Watch out, no, no, no.
Walk this way.
Cesar Millan: But instead of Olivia sharing a calm
conversation, she shared, "Oh, Cody, so,
I'm over here, I'm over here, mommy's right here."
Olivia Hamra: Come here!
Cesar Millan: Olivia was very nervous,
very overprotective, not a healthy leadership.
You know, and so the dog can only
get fed instability.
The way you are trying to help him, you know,
overprotecting, when you're telling,
"Come here, baby," your energy that you're sharing
at that time is, is not very healthy, nervous.
Olivia Hamra: It's nervous energy,
I'm nervous for him, so he becomes nervous.
Cesar Millan: You're nervous and you feel sorry
for him, you know what I mean?
So that's not gonna help.
Olivia Hamra: Let's go, we're gonna go for a ride
in the car.
Cesar Millan: He was already unstable,
then human, by feeling guilty or sorry or nervous
about it, is feeding that energy,
it's not what you're saying,
it's the energy you feed him, you know,
can we feel sorry for a blind dog?
You can.
Are you gonna help him?
No.
Olivia Hamra: I'm a mess, I'm pretty sure it's me.
Cesar Millan: You're a good looking mess.
Olivia Hamra: So I think he's,
I think he feeds off of me.
Cesar Millan: So what's going on right there?
Olivia Hamra: This is what he does.
Cesar Millan: What does that mean right there?
Olivia Hamra: This is where he wants attention.
Cesar Millan: I want to see you in action;
I want to see you in action.
Olivia Hamra: Ooh, is this a bottle?
When we're playing with something,
I can get it from him because he knows it's a toy.
If it's something he knows isn't a toy and that he
shouldn't have, that's when he goes after,
you know, and he.
Cesar Millan: How do you think he knows that?
Is it him reading looks?
Olivia Hamra: It's probably my voice.
I think he can detect when I really mean it
and when I'm faking it.
Cesar Millan: See you're focusing on the sound and
not on the energy you give him before the sound.
Olivia Hamra: Since he can't rely on my body
language any more, my voice means everything.
Cesar Millan: What about scent?
Olivia Hamra: Scent?
Well, how do you give off anger?
Cesar Millan: Close your eyes, close your eyes.
Where is it?
Is it in front of you, right, left?
That's as far as you went with your nose, but.
Olivia Hamra: Yeah, I have a really bad
sense of smell.
Cesar Millan: But everybody does,
that's what, you know, we don't find drugs
with our nose.
So you're trying to help him through using human
psychology, which, in your case,
you're constantly trying to save him from
hurting himself.
But it's not really helping him because he's
not relying on his own instincts.
Olivia Hamra: Right.
Narrator: Cesar decides to try and lure Cody out of
his lair with the scent of treats.
Olivia Hamra: Also by doing this,
aren't I encouraging this behavior so
he'll get a treat?
Cesar Millan: Yeah, but you're not gonna give it
to him when he's in that state,
you just using the scent to get him out.
Olivia Hamra: All right, let's see.
No!
He never does that; I've done that before,
he never does that.
Cesar Millan: What we making the brain do is to
move forward, we're not giving him anything,
we're just presenting the scent.
Olivia Hamra: What do we accomplish if he actually
comes out?
Cesar Millan: That he came out without a struggle.
Olivia Hamra: But then he goes right back in again.
Cesar Millan: Then you block.
Olivia Hamra: What if it's under the couch?
I can't block the couch.
Cesar Millan: I think like anything in life,
you do one step at a time, right,
so you're already moving towards;
what about the building, what about the helicopter?
We haven't even accomplished this and
you're already way over there.
I was experiencing a human who was in the past and
the future and really obsessive energy that I
don't really know how to call it.
But I think the roots of it is guilt and feeling sorry.
So that can dis-empower any human,
even though it's a loving human.
Olivia Hamra: You need to tap it.
Cesar Millan: No, he have to find it with his nose,
otherwise I'm doing the whole work for him.
Olivia Hamra: Yeah, that makes sense.
Cesar Millan: I'm here to challenge him.
If I tell him where everything is,
I'm not helping.
So I'm really making psychologically blind.
Olivia Hamra: He knows it's there,
he's being stubborn.
Okay, he found it.
Cesar Millan: He didn't know it was there.
If it was there, he would eat it.
I'm not gonna put my hands in there and get
him outta there physically.
I'm going to psychologically get him out of there.
Shht!
I corrected that.
I'm not going to let him tell me,
"I'm going to manipulate you, I'm growling,
you should give me the food."
No, no, I'm not her; I'm a whole different scent.
Olivia Hamra: So now he's out.
This is what he wanted.
In essence he's drawn me back to his carrier where
he is barking incessantly,
and then I've lured him out.
Cesar Millan: You just have to give it up.
Olivia Hamra: Give what up?
Cesar Millan: That he's a human first.
And I'm not saying give it up forever,
I'm just saying, put it in a different order,
he's animal, dog, breed, human.
That's how you can see him.
You know what I mean?
Every single time he goes into that state,
the physical, psychological touch,
concept to his brain to snap him out of it.
Right now I'm blocking him from going back in there.
So I'm suggesting a different choice.
A lot of animals will go into their den or where
they feel most comfortable of.
This is just obsession, you know?
Olivia Hamra: He' is, he's a little Howard Hughes.
But to, you know, in the same essence,
him being a sort of anxious sort.
Cesar Millan: Hey, there we go!
That's alright, that's alright; we claiming,
we claiming the box.
If you want him to go back in then you gotta
claim the box.
So he's doing his, his normal behavior.
He's touching me, but he's not switching my energy.
Olivia Hamra: Okay, if you were to try to put him on
his back right now, all hell would break loose.
Cesar Millan: That's good, right there,
don't share that energy.
Olivia Hamra: I hate this.
Cesar Millan: What?
Olivia Hamra: Oh no he's; all right he's
not biting you, great.
Cesar Millan: But look at the energy that is
touching the body; that is very telling.
We've seen this many times.
That's all right, that's all right.
Olivia Hamra: Okay, okay.
That's, that's, he makes that sound.
Cesar Millan: He's not a tame animal.
Olivia Hamra: No, I know, it's not fixed.
He can launch right back into that again.
Cesar Millan: Well yeah, he lives with you
but look at the energy.
Olivia Hamra: You're so calm.
I'm a nervous wreck because I know what he's
capable of, and I.
Cesar Millan: I'm not thinking about how many
times he bit you;
I'm thinking about how can I make him calm.
That's living in the now.
Now you live in the past, you get what the past
gives you; bad experiences.
At least for today, at least for today,
force yourself, if you can,
just to live in the now.
And then you give affection when he's in
that state.
Olivia Hamra: He's hot and bothered.
Cesar Millan: And he's also what?
Olivia Hamra: Calm.
Cesar Millan: Surrendering.
The reason why he calmed down is because I didn't
feel sorry for him; I treated as he was
a normal dog.
See how he got up?
So I honored his dog way of being, his identity.
I let him be a dog around me, so can he trust me?
Of course.
Can he respect me?
Of course.
Olivia Hamra: Well.
Cesar Millan: Come on, do it; don't think about it,
just do it.
Olivia Hamra: He's being good now.
Cesar Millan: Take advantage of it.
Olivia Hamra: So like that?
No his side?
Cesar Millan: Yeah, on his side.
Olivia Hamra: He wouldn't do this for me typically.
Cesar Millan: All right, just focus on what we're
doing right now.
Olivia Hamra: What we're doing right now, okay.
I'll stop.
Cesar Millan: You're focusing on what happened
in the past, there we go, nice.
Did you did that one, or no?
Olivia Hamra: Yeah.
Cesar Millan: You did it.
Olivia Hamra: And I let him get up?
Cesar Millan: Yeah, cause he surrender.
Olivia Hamra: Okay.
I think Cesar helped me see something that I
wasn't doing before.
I didn't think I was looking at him as Cody,
my blind dog.
Obviously I need, I need to work on my energy and I
need to work on how I see him.
I'm gonna work on this, like you wouldn't believe.
Cesar Millan: I think you can do it,
I totally believe you can do it.
Olivia Hamra: I will do it, no, I will do it.
I'm really taking this seriously and I've done it
for his blindness, I know it can do it
for his behavior.
And I think that he and I are both gonna be
a lot happier.
And maybe it'll change, you know,
other things in my life.
I hope so.
Narrator: Next, a wound up Rottweiler threatens her
owner's horses.
Cesar Millan: I am Cesar Millan and you are watching
Dog Whisperer on Nat-Geo Wild.
Caryn Lebduska: I love Rottweiler's.
They're loyal, they're protective,
they're a lot of fun.
They have a sense of humor, ah;
they're almost like a little person personality.
Buffy is wonderful,
great with people once she knows them,
very protective and very active.
She's, just, a great friend.
I board and I breed horses with my stallion.
I also, um, show and sell horses; so,
it's a lot of work.
Narrator: Although Buffy is not an official member
of the staff, she works hard to try and control
Caryn's entire operation.
Chelsea Rae Carlson: Buffy tries to help out,
and it's just not in a good way.
Caryn Lebduska: Any time, anyone tries to use the
pen with one of the horses,
she runs around the pen, barking, just going crazy,
just, around and around.
She won't stop, she wants the attention and she
wants to take control of the situation.
Nothing seems to work.
If I'm alone and working horses,
I put her on a sit stay.
As soon as I go into the corral,
she's up and running around.
Chelsea Rae Carlson: Buffy will run around licking
at the fence until her tongue bleeds.
Caryn Lebduska: She's, basically, just obsessed.
Chelsea Rae Carlson: It's strange;
I know it just can't be good for her.
Caryn Lebduska: There's a huge responsibility and
liability if she were ever to hurt anybody's horse or
hurt anybody that boards their horse here.
It would be a disaster.
Narrator: Cesar originally encountered Buffy and
Caryn at one of his book signing appearances.
Buffy seemed determined to make sure Cesar
noticed her.
Cesar Millan: So, I guess we've met before.
Caryn Lebduska: We did.
Cesar Millan: Ah, at the event and your dog decided
to jump on the table.
Caryn Lebduska: Yeah, Buffy decided she'd just,
um, I think she thought she was in an agility course.
She loves jumping up on picnic tables,
obviously book signings.
Cesar Millan: So, how can I help you?
Caryn Lebduska: I have a real problem with Buffy
with my horses.
Um, as you can see, we have an exercise pen,
basically, in our backyard.
Cesar Millan: It's amazing.
Caryn Lebduska: Um, she is obsessed with the horses.
She is obsessed with the babies, um,
if I try locking her in the house,
we have gates up against all our picture windows,
'cause she will just jump at the windows and bark.
I, basically, can't spend any time with my own dog.
I work during the week nine hours.
I get up an hour or two before that to feed the
horses before I go and then I feed them at night
when I get home, um, so it's dark and it's late
and I'm tired and, you know,
I have all the normal excuses.
Cesar Millan: Well, that's very nice of you.
Caryn Lebduska: I have them down.
Cesar Millan: Yeah, very kind of you; that's good.
Caryn Lebduska: But, I really,
I don't walk her as much as, as I should.
It seems like every spare moment I have is working
around the ranch and I, just,
want her to enjoy that with me and just enjoy
being out in the yard.
Cesar Millan: So, you can't even give her a
command, like, "Stay."
You know the typical stuff that people learn
in dog training.
Caryn Lebduska: You know, I try.
It's, just, the whole time I sit here I'm fighting
with her and I know there has to be a better way.
Cesar Millan: So, you don't have any kind of
help, a son, husband, anybody can walk her
before you start doing that.
Caryn Lebduska: No, I'm single, just me.
Cesar Millan: You can't, you can't make time to
walk her before the day, before that.
Caryn Lebduska: During the week, there is no way.
Cesar Millan: No way?
Caryn Lebduska: No, not during the week.
I'm up at 4:30 and I know your days are probably
longer than that, but, um, to me it's, just,
by the time I get home at five and get everybody fed
it's, you know, like, seven.
I get up to the house and I eat and I'm in
bed by nine.
Cesar Millan: Well, you get to work, huh.
She doesn't.
Caryn Lebduska: Yeah, I know.
Cesar Millan: 'Cause you have the environment to
have, like, the perfect dog.
Caryn Lebduska: I know.
Cesar Millan: You know, but, it's like,
you're not utilizing the environment,
so the environment is controlling you and,
of course, she's part of the environment,
so she's controlling you, too.
Caryn Lebduska: Right.
Cesar Millan: So, you know, this is unusual,
because people normally don't have this
in their backyard.
Caryn Lebduska: Yes, I'm very blessed.
Cesar Millan: Yeah, so, let's see how she does
with, ah, I can, I can put my rollerblades and drain
her energy, but, like you said, that's not reality.
So, let's see how we can do, ah, without exercise.
We're, just, going to go straight to
discipline then.
Caryn Lebduska: Okay.
Cesar Millan: Balanced discipline,
not a harsh discipline.
Caryn Lebduska: Right, okay.
Narrator: Coming up, is Cesar's usually calm
assistant Daddy helping, or hurting,
Buffy's rehabilitation?
And later, a puny Peek-a-Poo with a ten foot
tall temper.
Narrator: Caryn Lebduska's Rottie, Buffy,
is a great companion to humans.
But when she's around the horses that Caryn boards
and breeds, her herding instincts go haywire.
Caryn's day on the ranch begins at 4:30 am and
doesn't end until nine at night,
so she admits she has little time to devote to
Buffy's needs for exercise.
Cesar Millan: Caryn was straightforward with me
and said, "You know, I have no time to exercise."
So, I have to, pretty much honor her reality.
So, you know, I said,
"Well, let's just skip exercise and let's go straight
to discipline, straight to rules, boundaries,
limitations, and see how much we can get out of it."
We know Rottweiler's were called butcher dogs,
and horses are prey animal and,
and dogs are predators, so predator mixed with
Rottweiler makes it very powerful,
versus predator mixed with Chihuahua,
not too powerful.
So, you have to stop predator.
Don't stop the Rottweiler, stop the predator.
Caryn Lebduska: Come here, Barbie, come here,
little girl.
Come on move over so I can catch the baby.
Cesar Millan: Hey, down, shht, down!
Caryn Lebduska: Easy, it's okay, come on.
Cesar Millan: She's very intense, very intense.
Caryn Lebduska: Easy.
Cesar Millan: Alright, so, I'm going to exercise her
over here while she's doing that.
Caryn Lebduska: Good girl, good girl, good girl.
Cesar Millan: Stay, stay, stay, stay, come here!
Caryn Lebduska: Let's walk, come on, let's walk.
Cesar Millan: Stay, down, stay.
Buffy lives on a ranch, but doesn't have a job.
You can't live on a ranch and not have a job.
You feel out of place.
What are you doing?
You just do whatever you want.
We know that animals enjoy animals.
There's no doubt about it, but in a predator world,
if you don't stop them from being predator,
they can just go after any other animals.
It's very difficult to control an animal when
they're excited, especially if they go into
a herding mode, like herding or predator mode
or territorial mode.
So, if you get that excitement first and then
the other comes in, it's going to be hard to,
to control it.
Because right now, she's being animal predator.
That's prey, that is predator.
So, in order for you to create the balance,
both of them, the prey and the predator have
to be neutral.
Caryn Lebduska: Okay.
Cesar Millan: Because the predator move forward and
the prey runs away and that's how they're going
to keep her in a predator mode.
The more they fly, the more she stays in that.
Caryn Lebduska: Right.
Cesar Millan: Right?
Caryn Lebduska: Yeah.
Cesar Millan: So, it's easier to control a
predator than to control a prey drive.
Caryn Lebduska: Yeah, it is.
Cesar Millan: 'Cause they run, I mean, they're,
you understand.
Caryn Lebduska: Yeah.
Cesar Millan: And that, too, there's this.
Why are you afraid?
Why are you always afraid?
So, there's really no balanced energy.
So, right now, what, we are becoming the
balanced energy.
We're becoming like the, ah, mediator.
You guys stay calm, submissive;
she's going to stay calm, submissive.
Caryn Lebduska: Okay.
Cesar Millan: That's how they're going to become a
pack, even though they're not the same species,
they can have the same state of mind.
Caryn Lebduska: His whole concept of being balanced
it, just, came together today for me.
I mean, I've always watched the show and I've
heard him say that, and it's so true.
When he actually comes out and you see it,
he explained things so easily that it,
just, clicks.
Sit down, stay.
Cesar Millan: A little more assertive in the,
"Stay."
Caryn Lebduska: Stay.
Cesar Millan: She's doing it on her own.
Very good, look at the response of the horse now
to the dog.
It's not all over them.
Much easier.
It flow, it flows, you can feel it, it flows.
I think you can do it on your own.
Caryn Lebduska: Incredible.
Cesar Millan: I think you can definitely do
it on your own.
So, now, eventually that will be the place.
Go to your place.
That's the place.
You choose the place you want, but in your mind,
um, at the moment you wake up,
you have to see how it looks like and then you go
after her; otherwise they see that you don't
have a vision.
So, they're going to fulfill something.
Narrator: Cesar brings Daddy into the picture to
help teach Buffy the proper way to behave
around horses.
Cesar Millan: Alright, so, now we're going to
practice this, this exercise.
So, I brought Daddy just for you to see, okay,
I'm going to, I was going to have Daddy laying down,
you know, there, so she has a role model,
at least, you know, to copy.
Just having Daddy around gives us some leverage.
Caryn Lebduska: Okay.
Cesar Millan: You know, just like a horse learn
from another horse.
Caryn Lebduska: Right.
Cesar Millan: The dog learns from another dog.
Caryn Lebduska: Okay.
Stay.
Cesar Millan: Very good, that was a good signal.
Hey, come on!
See, that, that was a very typical thing, you know,
that, that whole, that, "Click, click"
gets her excited, so now she has to learn
that means relaxation.
This is good, she's doing really good.
Caryn embraces more being a horse person
than a dog person.
When Caryn works with the horse,
she is this assertive woman, but with the dog,
she allowed the brain to escalate, and as we know,
animals escalate in a matter of one second.
You can't miss one second.
Caryn Lebduska: Woops.
Cesar Millan: Hey!
I asked for more this time.
There was not physical touch,
it was just the approach and, so, she got it.
She, she lowered the head and, so, she's giving,
she's giving it up.
That's the beauty of dogs.
She, just, gave up.
I'm going to go try that.
So far, I have ride horses, Rancheria horses.
Hey, no!
Can you show me?
Caryn Lebduska: Sure, I'm sure you're a quick study.
Cesar Millan: Yeah.
Caryn Lebduska: He's kind of like Daddy;
he's an old retired boy.
Cesar Millan: That's right, that's right.
Caryn Lebduska: Try to stay more towards
their rear end.
Yeah, body language is big with them.
Cesar Millan: Yeah, show me.
Caryn Lebduska: When you get too far forward,
they're actually stop.
Cesar Millan: So, I was too straight, huh, see,
that's a, that's a dog person.
Dog person do this and horse person do this.
Caryn Lebduska: See, now we know where we
get the sideways.
Cesar Millan: Well, see, that's why we have to
learn to work with both.
Buffy was sharp, she got it really fast.
Once I saw that she didn't move from the
place that I left her, that was it.
That was pretty much it and then it's, okay,
let's do another horse.
For a dog, one horse doesn't mean all of them.
You have to do all of them for her to see that it's
with everybody she has to behave the same way.
This time, you know, when we brought this excited
horse, there was somebody else controlling the horse,
so this time Caryn can give 100%
observation to Buffy.
Caryn Lebduska: Stay.
Cesar Millan: Hey, that's, just, the whip,
like I say, the whip definitely,
in breeds like them, gets them into a very
protecting way of being.
Hey, see, see my touch.
Hey, see my touch right there.
Right there, touch, that's excitement, there we go.
One thing that a lot of people don't know, ah,
that Daddy knows, is that he is really good as a
personal protection dog.
So, I feel very safe.
I feel very safe when I leave Daddy with my
family, when I leave Daddy with my kids,
'cause he has been trained to protect and so,
the whip, to him represented,
get ready for combat.
Daddy was reacting to a sound.
We never practiced whip among animals, which,
that's what he learned today.
Right?
Whip around animals doesn't mean you gotta get
ready for combat.
Caryn Lebduska: It was really interesting to me
to see Cesar have a time when he had to correct
Daddy, because it shows that it's an ongoing
process, all the time, and it makes me feel a little
better about the fact that I am going to have to
continue working to keep her at the place that I
want her to be.
Cesar Millan: See I expose Daddy to new situations.
We don't skip one day of practicing new things.
That's how I maintain him balance,
because I do exercise, discipline, affection,
it's about that.
It's about never stopping providing balance to them.
They just need guidance, and it's our job
to give the guidance.
Caryn Lebduska: I've never had her just lay
here like this.
Cesar Millan: We haven't seen a dog chewing the
grass as you described.
We haven't seen a dog licking at anything,
because we have not allowed the brain to escalate.
Caryn Lebduska: Okay.
Cesar Millan: So, you're never going to see
obsession if you don't allow the brain to escalate.
Caryn Lebduska: So, one of the main things I think
that I was having a problem with is just
letting her out to come out with me, letting her,
just, run down and think that it's playtime and
then I go in with a horse and she just continues,
basically, doing whatever she wants.
Cesar Millan: Right.
Caryn Lebduska: Rather than knowing that we're
coming down, there's going to be some rules and this
is how it's going to be.
Cesar Millan: Now you're thinking,
you are now thinking.
What were you thinking?
You were not thinking, that's pretty much it.
You, you broke it down to the much,
to the more simplest way of being.
So, again, we, we skip the exercise.
This is all psychological; so,
it only becomes easier if you exercise.
Caryn Lebduska: This is so great, I'm so happy.
Cesar Millan: That's right, you look relaxed.
Caryn Lebduska: I am, this is so wonderful.
It's going to be a lot easier for me,
because I can get things done faster out here,
because she'll be behaving and that will give me the
energy and the time to maybe take her for a walk
or, you know, go to dog park more often or, just,
do more fun things for her and I.
This is, like, the beginning of,
of a new stage in our lives.
So, we fixed me, so that she will be fixed.
Cesar Millan: Thank God.
Narrator: Next, Cesar meets Chloe,
the prickly Peek-a-Poo.
Monica Allgeier: One of my friends walked into a
little pet store, and she said, "Hey, come down,
just look at this little dog, it's so cute."
And I absolutely fell in love with Chloe.
So yeah, I wasn't planning on going home with her,
but I went home with a peek-a-poo that day.
Desi Lydic: Monica just fell in love with her,
she was this tiny, sweet, little, innocent fur ball.
Sweet as can be, and really, really good.
She learned everything really quickly.
She does paw, the other paw,
she can balance up on her hind legs,
she does everything.
She got along with Lily, I already had Lily.
Monica Allgeier: Oh my baby.
She's just so loveable and so affectionate.
I don't know where things went wrong.
Desi Lydic: She started just getting really
possessive over things, of her toys,
over objects that she wasn't supposed to have.
And she slowly stopped listening to Monica.
Monica Allgeier: Chloe stop, no, no, no!
The first time, when I saw the aggressive growling
when I was brushing her, she bit me that day.
And she happened to come across the nail file
in my purse.
That's mommy's!
As soon as she knows I'm about to take it from her,
she'll go, "Grr."
She'll latch onto it and will not drop it.
Drop it!
She lunges up on her hind legs like a bear,
and she'll like lunge after me and try to attack me.
No!
Frankly, I'm scared of her.
No!
Desi Lydic: Monica's completely lost
control of her.
Monica Allgeier: Whatever I'm doing or not doing,
I'm making her worse.
Chloe, you just bit mommy.
Cesar, please help me; I'm at my wit's end.
She, she controls my life.
Narrator: When dog behavior expert Cesar Millan
tackles a case, he comes in looking for clues from
both dog and human about what made a once promising
relationship suddenly turn sour.
Cesar Millan: With the Mohawk and everything.
Thanks for having me.
Monica Allgeier: Thanks for your help.
Cesar Millan: This is it?
This is what I'm here for?
Monica Allgeier: She's not what she seems
but you'll see.
Cesar Millan: Okay, well I like this part.
Monica Allgeier: Yeah.
I think she's just extremely dominant;
I'm in tears all the time.
Because her mood dictates my day, I mean,
if I have a bad day with Chloe, I have a bad day.
I mean.
Desi Lydic: I mean, I notice a big difference
when I come home and, and I can tell when
Monica's upset.
I'm like, Chloe acted up again, didn't she?
Cesar Millan: That's a big deal.
Forget about the aggression.
Is that you be influenced by the mood of a dog.
You know, and your whole entire life.
So the ripple that she has is,
is a power that she has is, is incredible.
So, the only way we can stop this power is by you
prioritizing in a different way.
Then it makes her a follower, not a leader.
And then of her state of mind doesn't mean
anything, and your state of mind.
Monica Allgeier: And when I go up to her and I go,
"Oh my God, Chloe, what do you have in your mouth?"
Then she's cool.
But as soon as I go, "Chloe!
What's in your mouth, drop that right now!"
She'll start going, "Grr" because I don't think she
feels challenged when I come at her with that voice.
Then she, she's not feeling challenged and she's fine.
As soon as it's a challenge, it's like.
Cesar Millan: Yeah, obviously she doesn't
believe that the other self is more natural to you.
The high pitch is more natural to you.
And because that way of being makes you, in a way,
control the situation and snap the brain out of it,
it works.
So you stick to where it works.
Monica Allgeier: I had a Pekingese growing up,
and she lived to be about 17, and her entire life,
all I remember is, she was the unpredictable, mean,
snappy dog.
That was the one thing, if I got a dog,
I didn't want her to end up like "Teeny,"
'cause everyone's like "Ooh," became this joke,
like Teeny's so mean.
And, you know, it hurts.
And I was, I'm gonna cry.
Cesar Millan: So sweet.
Monica Allgeier: It was the one thing;
I didn't want Chloe to end up like that.
When I started seeing that aggression, I'm like,
I don't know, you know, looking back,
I don't know where things went wrong,
I just notice she was like this now.
Cesar Millan: But before you seen the aggression,
did you said, "I don't want Chloe to
be like my other dog?"
Monica Allgeier: Maybe.
I think I felt like, once I started seeing that,
I was like oh no, oh no, it's another Teeny;
don't be another Teeny.
Cesar Millan: So the funny part is,
that when we said, that's not what we want,
that's when it becomes reality.
Cause it's a past experience that you got
going on, from a dog named Tiny.
Monica Allgeier: Teeny.
Cesar Millan: Teeny.
So you don't want this to come back, you know,
to the life that you live now.
So even though that happens in the past,
by you giving power to, to the past,
you can bring it in the now.
It just becomes a reality.
Monica Allgeier: I think what I get from her is
like, is fulfillment, you know,
I think that's probably the,
the area of my life that she satisfies.
Cesar Millan: A good pack leader is there
for the pack.
A bad pack leader is there for themself.
Monica Allgeier: Am I a bad pack leader?
Cesar Millan: Yes!
I'm sorry.
Desi Lydic: I'm sorry, honey.
Cesar Millan: Yeah, you see what I mean,
because it's a selfish way of loving somebody,
you know, you're fulfilling your needs
through her first, instead of fulfilling her needs.
You also thinking, "I don't want what happened
to me in the past to happen again."
But guess what, that's exactly what you create.
Cesar Millan: Shht, there we go!
A ha, you see, you all right?
I'm holding like the mom.
Monica Allgeier: Oh no, I'm feeling bad that she's
doing this to you.
Cesar Millan: Oh no, she's not doing to me;
she was doing it to him, you know?
So I went and grabbed the neck, grab haaaa!
Relax, then we let her go.
Yes the dog is biting, but at the same time,
the human is creating a very,
very negative energy, very,
very weak energy that is making the dog get into
that state of mind.
Somebody have to play the leadership role.
So a fearful person and a weak person can't be the
pack leader.
Because when a dog start attacking you,
you are going to start losing trust.
So you get to a point where there's no trust,
no respect.
There's no relationship there; none, zero.
Narrator: Coming up, can Monica muster the strength
to manage Chloe?
Cesar Millan: Stay tuned for more Dog Whisperer,
on Nat-Geo Wild!
Narrator: When Monica Allegeier's Peek-a-Poo
Chloe latches on something she wants,
this innocent looking face becomes the mask of a
growling monster.
Cesar discovers that Monica has been eroding
the trust between her and Chloe by unsuccessfully
affecting a tough, threatening persona.
While Cesar often coaches clients to become firmer
and more assertive with their dogs,
he notices that Chloe doesn't believe Monica
when she tries to be tough, but instead,
responds to Monica's gentler side.
Cesar Millan: So then you already practicing the now
way of being, versus the past way of being.
Narrator: Cesar instructs Monica to try and retrieve
a bully stick from Chloe.
But this time, using her calm, soothing,
honest self.
Monica Allgeier: Sit down, drop it, drop it!
You wanna be a good girl for me and drop it?
Sank you, baby.
Now can I reward her?
Yeah, honey, good drop, thank you so much.
Cesar Millan: That's beautiful,
I'm about to cry.
Monica Allgeier: Thank you.
Desi Lydic: Just like that.
Cesar Millan: That's beautiful,
once you went into that state,
you get that response.
Ok, let's do it again.
She's quick.
Monica Allgeier: Chloe, sit, sit, come on, sit.
Drop it, come on baby, drop it.
Come on, baby, drop it.
Be a good girl and drop it, drop it.
Cesar Millan: Don't pull.
When you pull, she pulls back,
and then it becomes competition.
Monica Allgeier: Drop it.
You know how to drop it.
Show me how.
Drop, drop it.
Cesar Millan: Nice.
Monica Allgeier: Thank you baby, thank you.
Cesar Millan: One thing about, you know,
creating behavior in, in anybody and anything,
in any animal, is you can't put time, you know,
you just have to learn to stay there until
they do it.
So eventually, it, it just happens faster.
So the first one was quicker than the second
one but what really happened is you got the stick.
And because you were consistent and patient
about it, she felt no resistance to it.
Just don't change the style,
don't change the style; it works,
and then she learns that this is who
you really are.
This is the person that she knows.
The other person you're not comfortable with,
so you're faking.
Right now you were not faking,
this is who you are.
Monica realized what her true strength is.
Her strength is that sweet side of her.
She thought in order to get what she wants,
she needed to be, in a way that she didn't feel
comfortable with.
Some people can control situations with a calm
energy and still have a sense of assertiveness,
but it's a light touch.
Another way of presenting this is as an iron fist
with a velvet glove, you know?
There's a strong inside, but a soft outside.
Chloe is a dog that you can easily control with
that type of energy.
Monica Allgeier: Is that mommy's nail file?
Cesar Millan: Good girl.
You know, even if it's an accident,
you can reward the accident.
This is a, it's a positive thing to reward.
Is it making sense?
Monica Allgeier: My light bulb moment was when you
said that when I'm not being my true self,
she knows that and she's like,
she doesn't trust me.
Like, that's like wow.
Cesar Millan: So if she can't trust you,
she can't respect you.
Monica Allgeier: Right.
Desi Lydic: Yeah.
Monica Allgeier: So amazing.
Desi Lydic: It's really, yeah, it's really true.
Monica Allgeier: Do you want to try some grooming?
Cesar Millan: Yes!
No, don't try it, do it.
Narrator: Cesar engages Monica in a relaxing
discussion to help create a calming energy that she
will pass on to Chloe as she brushes her.
Cesar Millan: So tell me about home.
Monica Allgeier: Kentucky?
Cesar Millan: Yeah.
Monica Allgeier: Well my family's still there and I
was born and raised there.
And it I think it's an amazing place to grow up.
And it's always refreshing when I go home 'cause it's
so much slower paced, and everyone's relaxed and,
you know.
Cesar Millan: That's the energy you have to
share with her.
Monica Allgeier: This is like.
Cesar Millan: Don't become LA energetic.
Monica Allgeier: Like the green fields of Kentucky.
Happy clouds of Kentucky.
This is usually where she gets.
Cesar Millan: No, no, don't think about that.
Shht!
That's good, okay, keep going.
See that, the bite right there.
Shht, hey, shht!
So as you see her,
her growling is not escalating.
Monica Allgeier: Let's roll over and
get the other side.
Good girl.
That's not so bad.
Cesar Millan: Of course, you know,
repetitions makes you do what you do.
Shht, shht, hey!
You're getting the, shht!
Don' make it mean anything.
This is when you get to work.
Shht!
Now, the more she protests,
the more we get to the rehabilitation.
This is when you really get to work,
when she gives you this state of mind,
and you try the same way you were when
she was calm.
Shht, hey!
Shht, hey!
Now relax.
So she's gonna try, hey, I have enough.
No, no, no, a little longer.
That's all we're saying, you know,
but we're not being mean about it.
We're being firm about it, and disciplined about it,
but not mean about it.
So there's no, no one second of meanness.
Monica Allgeier: Do I tap her?
Cesar Millan: That's right, you grab her here.
Hey, hey!
A dog, shht, there we go.
Nice, shht!
Monica Allgeier: I think the most surprising is how
simple it really is.
I believed in Cesar from the beginning,
but I really thought that it was gonna be
a lot harder.
I just need to start with myself.
I need to start with my own energy,
and she trusts the real me.
And so, I just have to believe it,
and I need to pass it on to her and if that works,
that works.
Cesar Millan: It's never too late to
bring trust back.
So today we experience a soft level of
assertiveness, and it works.
So this is who you are, keep it.
If it's not broken, don't fix it.
You got it?
Monica Allgeier: Yeah.
Cesar Millan: All right, then.
Feel better?
Monica Allgeier: Yes.
Desi Lydic: It's amazing how just changing your
energy and changing your attitude and your way of
thinking can affect dogs, and really life,
anything in life.
Things are gonna change, I can really tell a
difference just through the time that we
had with Cesar.
Monica Allgeier: Chloe, mommy is so proud of you.
You're so good.
Cesar Millan: Bye ladies!
Monica Allgeier: Say bye-bye, bye-bye!
You gonna stay like that all day?
Cesar Millan: If you really want to change your
dog's unwanted behavior, then you have to be
prepared to change your behavior first.
Olivia Hamra: Cody hasn't become a completely
different dog.
He's definitely mellowed out;
he's definitely a lot calmer.
I definitely have more control over him
as an owner.
He's a lot happier and I'm a lot happier,
so we're in good shape.
Monica Allgeier: Hi Cesar, it's Monica and Chloe here
again, and this time we are much happier than when
we saw you last.
After working with you, I know how to handle her in
those situations.
And therefore, Chloe trusts me and stays in the
state of mind that she needs be in.
There is no more fighting, oh, no more scars,
no more bites.
Cesar Millan: Keep up the good work, Monica,
and your relationship with Chloe will just get
better and better.
Caryn reports that she can now successfully handle
Buffy's misbehavior most of the time.
Caryn Lebduska: All I can say Cesar,
is thank you very much, she is a lot better.
I never could have brought my horse out like this and
have her lay here, thanks.
Cesar Millan: Until next time,
remember that the most effective tool for
creating a balanced dog is your own
calm, assertive energy.