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Why does my boyfriend act distant? I can’t figure it out.
A man may drift away before he formally breaks up, to lessen the emotional impact.
To him, not me.
And there’s the possibility he’s seeing someone else. He’s colder to you because
his passion is somewhere else.
I can show him passion, because there is no fury like a woman scorned. It’s like Shakespeare,
but only he dies.
Hold on a second. Another possibility is that you’re maturing in the relationship.
Excuse me? We are both mature.
When you first meet a guy, you tend to get all into each other, wanting to know your
favorite places and things. After you’ve become a couple, you start to separate.
I don’t want to break up!
Phoebe Prosky calls it the stages of a relationship, from merging to separation to two separate
people within one relationship.
Who on Earth is that?
When you first fall in love, there is an all consuming passion and you want to do everything
together. After you’ve become close, there’s a separation so that the two of you are separate
parts of the whole.
Until they fall apart.
No, until they can happily be each other within the pair. It’s like the two circles in the
diagram within the bigger circle of the couple.
You think it is natural.
It is natural if he still loves you and is affectionate but doesn’t do absolutely everything
with you. If he’s growing emotionally distant and putting you off, then you’re at risk
of a break up.
How can I tell the difference?
Does he get engaged in conversations about your future together, from vacations to retirement
planning? He might be distant because he doesn’t want to commit to anyone now.
Don’t bring up the getting the milk for free so why put a ring on it lecture.
Try rationally discussing your long term plans as a couple. If he can’t visualize it, you
can’t achieve it.