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THIS MAY SOUND FAMILIAR.
YOU'RE OUT WITH FRIENDS OR A
WORK MEETING AND INSTEAD OF
TALKING, THEY'RE STARING AT
THEIR PHONES.
IT HAPPENS A LOT.
ESPECIALLY HERE.
IN TODAY'S RELATIONSHIP
REBOOT WE ARE TALKING ABOUT
WHETHER WE'RE LOSING OUR
ABILITY TO COMMUNICATE WITHOUT
USING A DEVICE.
YOU NEVER DO THAT.
NO.
EVERYONE DOES.
IT'S ALMOST TO THE POINT THAT
IT DOESN'T SEEM LIKE A PROBLEM.
IT'S DAILY LIFE BUT IS IT
SOMETHING WE SHOULD BE
CONCERNED ABOUT?
YES.
OKAY.
JASON, PAY ATTENTION.
LOOK AT ALL THE DEVICES.
THIS IS NATURAL TO HAVE OUR
DEVICES AROUND.
THERE'S SOME PRETTY SHOCKING,
SURPRISING NEW RESEARCH OUT.
THIS WAS SO SHOCKING TO ME THAT
I THOUGHT WE SHOULD TALK ABOUT
THIS.
WE ARE NOW KNOWING THAT IF
THERE ARE DEVICES PRESENT AND
YOU'RE IN A CONVERSATION, IT
ACTUALLY CHANGES WHAT PEOPLE
ARE WILLING TO TALK ABOUT.
REALLY?
YOU HOLD BACK OR SOMETHING?
EVEN IF THE PHONES ARE OFF,
FOR INSTANCE.
SAY YOU'RE WITH FRIENDS AND
FAMILY, WE ARE LESS WILLING TO
TALK ABOUT TOPICS THAT ARE A
LITTLE BIT DEEPER, THAT REQUIRE
AN EMPAT THICK RESPOONS --
RESPONSE BECAUSE WE ARE FEELING
LIKE THIS MIGHT BE INTERRUPTED.
WHO WANTS TO BE INTERRUPTED IN
A CONVERSATION THAT'S DEEP.
HAVING THE DEVICE THERE CAN
MAKE YOU HESITANT AND NOT HAVE
THE CONVERSATION.
Reporter: EXACTLY.
RESEARCH IS SHOWING EVEN IF THE
DEVICE IS IN SIGHT BUT NOT IN
BETWEEN YOU.
SAY IT'S ON A DESK NEARBY.
JUST BEING PRESENT.
JUST BEING PRESENT.
I SEE A LOT OF PEOPLE FLIP
OVER THEIR PHONE.
BUT THAT'S NOT ENOUGH?
THE IDEA THAT IT HAS THERE
SENDS A MESSAGE -- IT'S THERE
SEND AS MESSAGE THAT WE MIGHT
BE INTERRUPTED, THAT THIS IS
MORE IMPORTANT.
WE'RE LESS LIKELY TO BE
EMPATHIC WITH ONE ANOTHER.
THE RESEARCH ON THIS IS
SHOCKING.
SO YOUNG ADULTS RIGHT NOW ARE
40% LESS EMPATHIC THAN THEY
WERE 20 YEARS AGO AND WE KNOW
--
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
THAT THEY'RE LESS LIKELY TO
PICK UP THE CUES OF SOMEONE
ELSE, LESS LIKELY TO BE IN
TUNE.
I'M TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT
YOU'RE FEELING, WHAT YOU'RE
GOING THROUGH.
DO YOU FEEL YOU'RE PICKING
UP ON THAT MORE WHEN YOU'RE
TEXTING, ON THE PHONE OR LOSING
IT ALL TOGETHER?
IT'S A COMPLICATED QUESTION.
THE EARLY SUGGESTIONS ARE WE
ARE LESS IN TUNE WITH OTHERS
BECAUSE WE'RE SPEND LAPPING LOT
OF TIME LOOKING DOWN.
BEFORE THESE WE WERE LOOKING AT
ANOTHER HUMAN TAKING IN WHAT
THEY WERE SAYING.
THAT'S EMPATHY.
SO LITTLE BIT BY BIT AS WE TURN
OUR ATTENTION TO THE DEVICES --
AND READING SOCIAL CUES TAKE
PRACTICE.
IF YOU'RE ALWAYS IN YOUR
DEVICE, YOU'RE NOT NOTICING
CAROL DID THIS THING.
I WONDER IF SHE'S OKAY.
SOME OF THE RESEARCH WITH
CHILDREN IS PRETTY INTERESTING.
KIDS WHO GO FIVE DAYS
TECHNOLOGY FREE, NO DEVICES,
SHOW INCREASED ABILITIES TO
READ OTHER'S CUES.
FIVE DAYS?
FIVE DAYS.
THE SIMPLE TIP IS THE
OBVIOUS ONE.
LEAVE YOUR DEVICES OUT OF
SIGHT.
NOT JUST OFF BUT IN ANOTHER
ROOM.
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE
TALKING WITH YOUR COUSIN,
CHILD, CEO, ANOTHER CLIENT, THE
PRESS OF THAT DEVICE MR. LIKELY
CHANGE WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO
TALK ABOUT.
ALL RIGHT.
AIM GOING TO WORK ON THIS.