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Madame Noire recently posed an interesting question.
Is breaking up with friends harder than breaking up with your man?
>> [LAUGH]
>> Writer Brande Victorian says,
one thing that makes it difficult breaking up with friends is is that sometimes it
doesn't feel quite right to tell a friend, I don't want to mess with you anymore.
Unlike romantic relationships where you can often pinpoint some concrete violation
of trust, that renders the person no longer dateable.
So do you guys think it's harder to break up with someone you're dating or
someone who's your friend.
What has been your experience? >> It's way harder to break up with
someone you're dating, cuz when you break up with a friend, you don't need to tell
them, you just stop calling back. >> [LAUGH]
>> [APPLAUSE]
>> For real, come on now.
>> [APPLAUSE]
>> Okay, I'm at my later thirties now, and
I'm getting to a place where my squad is getting real minimal now.
I have quality over quantity.
And I don't think you owe somebody a reason to just start kind of distancing
yourself.
I don't know if it's something I'm just going through, but I don't think I need to
tell you officially that I think- >> I don't have to tell that to a man if
I'm dating him. >> [CROSSTALK]
>> I'm no ghost.
>> Okay, there probably are partners you
can do that with, but with a girlfriend, I think girls get up to in their feelings.
>> So what do you do if the person
keeps calling you, or texting you? >> Have you heard of the Irish
goodbye? >> No, what's that?
>> Where you leave a party and
you don't tell anybody?
You do it in real life, goodbye. >> I don't cut it off, like that.
I kinda slowly ease them out. >> That's
an Irish goodbye. >> They start missing the birthday
parties, they don't get an invite. >> Yes, or if they keep calling or
texting, sometimes they ask, well, are we gonna hang out?
I feel like I'm stalking you or whatever, and
I nicely say, I'm just busy. >> But do you feel at some point in time,
sometimes you have to eventually say, hey, guys-
>> It's not working out.
>> Is not working out, like,
I am just moving on. >> If they honestly, for
me, because I think I'm naturally a very considerate human being.
If I feel like it is hurting them that I'm not their friend anymore,
then I will say listen, look, we've just grown apart, I have my family.
I'm so sorry, I'm not able to spend that time with you.
If, if they really need that answer,
because there are some people out there that don't like unfinished business.
And I would've to be honest- >> And you're one of them.
>> I'm one of them.
>> Okay.