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COACH: Caroline wants what she wants when she wants it.
JILL: Right. COACH: and does NOT like to be told "no."
JILL: Right. COACH: Well I think if you can start with
games that they, where she CAN take turns, even starting with something like tossing
a ball back and forth, and when you have the ball, counting, you know, one-two-three and
then throwing it back and then extending it as far as you can and telling Bruce that they're
out in the park, but any kind of physical activity where it's back and forth, you know,
and then NOTING that she waited really well. And of course all of those positive rewards,
the comments and being VERY specific and telling you just as specific as you are -- there's
no hitting -- that you're very positive, I really noticed how well you waited as opposed
to "you're such a good girl, " being VERY specific about what you admired in what's
she did is also a real positive. COACH: Ready? One-two-three-four
Child: .... five... COACH: ...five and here it comes. Good catch.
Ready? -- So when you're doing this with Caroline...
JILL: Ohhhhhh (claps). Child: [inaudible] a surprise mom.
COACH: Ok. That was so hard I fell over! So I think, you know, a lot of energy and then
she has a little trouble reining it in.. JILL: ..right..
COACH: ... and I think that you guys are very physically active...
CHILD: I wanna get it. COACH: ...so when there's a place where it's
fine to run around and go crazy the more she can get that out the better.
JILL: I think it was the same thing when she was pushing me back yesterday and I was doing
that and she got very excited and that's when she slapped me in the eye.
COACH: Yeah, yeah. JILL: I think you're right.
COACH: Also she's trying to figure out what's allowed. I mean even though she KNOWS it,
I think there's a -- it's amazing to me, she seems to be like almost a different person
once you flip the switch on, she's really very energetic, in a way that when I first
met her I thought SHE was the quieter of the two.
COACH: Caroline is a VERY active child but she has very little control of her impulses,
and if you have a kid who's this way it's really important to help learn to tolerate
increased amounts of frustration. So even tossing a ball back and forth and counting
and waiting, or doing activities that require them to wait can help them build those muscles
which can really help in the long run.