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BACK IN JUST A BUILT.
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WE'VE ALL HEARD OF THE STAY
AT HOME MOM, BUT THESE DAYS,
MORE AND MORE STAY AT HOME DADS
ARE AROUND AND RAISING CHILDREN.
JOHN ENGLE IS ONE AND IS HERE TO
GIVE US TIPS.
US.
THANK YOU.
TALK ABOUT THE JOYCE OF BEING
A STAY AT HOME PARENT.
DO.
IT IS AMAZING, SETH.
JUST HAVING MORE CONNECTION WITH
MY KIDS BY HAVING MORE TIME AT
HOME WITH THEM.
THE UPSIDE BEING THAT MY WIFE
AND I FEEL MORE CONNECTED,
BECAUSE WE HAVE A SHARED
EXPERIENCE OF PARENTING AND NOT
JUST ME FILLING IN AT NIGHT AND
ON THE WEEKEND WHEN SHE HAS A
BREAK, BUT BOTH HAVING
SIGNIFICANT BLOCKS OF TIME.
WHEN OUR KIDS WERE YOUNG, OUR
BUDDIES.
IF THEY HAD BOTH BEEN IN FULL
TIME DAY CARE, THEY WOULDN'T
HAVE HAD AS MUCH TIME TOGETHER
AS THEY DID, BECAUSE ONE OF US
WAS HOME WITH THEM.
IT'S IMPORTANT IN THAT HE IS
EARLY YEARS.
A LOT OF TIMES PARENTS PUT THEIR
KIDS IN DAY CARE.
THAT ABILITY MUST CREATE A
HIGHER INTELLECT AND BOND
BETWEEN KIDS AND PARENTS.
I CAN CERTAINLY SPEAK TO THE
BOND.
EACH DAY IS AN ADVENTURE.
NOW OUR KIDS ARE IN KINDER
GARDEN FIVE DAYS A WEEK.
TODAY?
GET IN THE BIKE TRAIL ARE AND GO
TO A PARK OR WHATEVER THE EVENT
MIGHT BE.
JUST HAVING THE OPPORTUNITY TO
OPPORTUNITY.
IT MUST BE GREAT TO HAVE ALL
THAT TIME.
WHAT THINGS DO YOU RECOMMEND FOR
PARENTS TO DO WITH ALL THOSE
DAYLIGHT HOURS?
FOR US, GETTING POUNDS WE CAN
GO DOWN TO THE MILL RIVER IN
NORTHAMPTON AND ADAM WILL THROW
ROCKS IN THE RIVER FOR AN HOUR
AND JOEY WILL COLLECT RIVER
GLASS.
THEY'LL DO THAT FOR AN HOUR AND
THAT'S ALL IT TAKES, SO WE BIKE
OVER THERE, DO THAT AND HIT THE
PLAYGROUND ON THE WAY BACK.
THERE YOU HAVE TWO HOURS.
DESCRIBE TO ME HOW IT WORKED
WITH YOUR EMPLOYER.
EVERYONE KNOWS MATERNITY LEAVE
AND YOU GET A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF
TIME OFF.
HOW DOES MATERNITY LEAVE WORK?
IT WAS ONE OF THREE EVENTS
THAT FOR ME EARLY ON JUST
CHANGED MY WHOLE PERSPECTIVE
FAMILY.
I WAS WORKING FOR A SMALL
COLLEGE IN CALIFORNIA ON THE ANE
POLICY WAS PROGRESSIVE.
OUR DAUGHTER WAS BORN BY
SEPTEMBER AND THROUGH WINTER
BREAK AND UNTIL THE NEXT
SEPTEMBER, I WAS FULL TIME AT
HOME WITH HER THREE DAYS A WEEK.
IT WAS NOT JUST FILLING IN AT
NIGHT AROUND THE WEEKEND, IT WAS
A FULL 10, EIGHT HOUR DAY
EXPERIENCE THAT KIND OF BROKE ME
INTERNALLY AND I BEGAN TO ACCEPT
ALL THE JOYS THAT COME WITH
BEING AT HOME AND NOT THINKING
ABOUT THE 17 THINGS I'M THINKING
I SHOULD BE DOING WHEN MY
DAUGHTER JUST WANTS TO BE HELD.
HAVING THAT PATERNITY EXPERIENCE
WAS MY EXPERIENCE AT BEING HOME
WITH AN INFANT.
YOU WERE SAYING TO ME HOW THE
LIFESTYLE CHANGE NOT ONLY
IMPACTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH
YOUR CHILD, BUT CHANGED YOU AS A
PERSON.
I JUST THINK THAT BETWEEN
HAVING PATERNITY LEAVE AND AT
THE END OF 2008 BEING LAID OFF
AND MOVING CROSS COUNTRY FROM
COLORADO TO MASSACHUSETTS, THOSE
THREE THINGS TOGETHER FOR ME WAS
THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE IS ME
AND THEN MY WIFE AND I WERE
TOGETHER AND IT'S US AND AT SOME
POINT IT SHIFTED TO WE.
THE TRANSITION FROM ME TO WE IS
WHAT'S HAPPENED FOR ME, AND IT
TOOK MONTHS AND YEARS TO ACCEPT
NEW LEVELS OF THAT.
WHEN WE HAD A SECOND CHILD AND
BEING AT HOME FOR TWO OF THEM
WITH SOME OF THOSE LONG DAYS WAS
A NEW BREAKING INSIDE AND
ACCEPT, OK, SO THIS IS A CHOICE
WE MADE.
ONE OF US WILL BE HOME WITH THE
KIDS AND ON CERTAIN DAYS IT'S ME
FAMILY.
IT'S HEALTHY FOR WE, EVEN THOUGH
PURSUING THINGS.
SOME OF THE THINGS YOU
LEARNED IN BUSINESS YOU USE AT
HOME, SOMETHING AS EASY AS MAKE
A MOTTO.
JUST HAVING ORGANIZATIONS ALL
THE TIME, OR TRYING TO IDENTIFY
THEMSELVES AND THEIR DIRECTION
STATEMENT.
I THINK FAMILIES CAN BENEFIT
YOUR MISSION STATEMENT.
WITH THAT ONBOARD, YOU CAN HAVE
CONVERSATIONS AS TO WHAT OTHER
ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES THAT
EACH OF YOU AS PARENTS HAVE IN
DELIVERING ON THAT MISSION
STATEMENT, WHAT ARE THE
TO BE TOGETHER AND IN THE END
THE MEASURE OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP DRIVES THOSE FOUR
THINGS.
JOHN, THANK YOU FOR COMING ON