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Hi, my name is Philip Tristan and in this video I want to talk about how to GET A BOY
TO LOVE YOU and how to Get him to love You by showing Your Strong Character
A crucial element of getting somebody to love You is the ability to say 'no' assertively.
Assertive communication happens when you are not afraid to express your feelings, desires
and thoughts. You don’t always have to agree to all requests and suggestions made by other
people. I know how hard it is to refuse when someone asks you a big favor, even when doing
the favor is inconvenient for you. We care too much about what other people think of
us. We fear that if we refuse help or a favor, they will stop liking us.
Of course, the ability to say 'no' is only part of assertiveness training, courses of
this kind are very popular now, which shows how hard it is for people to behave assertively.
Assertiveness is also the ability to say good things about yourself or to take criticism
and negative evaluations from others. Learning to say 'no' can become the first step to reaching
your inner power.
This exercise that I want to propose is
very simple. I want you to practice it every day. When your partner, and if you don’t
have a partner at the moment – it can be a friend or a colleague from work proposes
something that he would like to do – say 'no'.
For example:
Him: Honey, can we watch that movie that
my friend lent me now?
You: No. I'm doing something else at the moment. But I'll be
happy to watch it with you in the evening.
Do You understand how and why it works?
As you can see, this exercise is not really about
refusing. It’s about enforcing your opinion. When you say “no” to his small request,
you establish yourself as a person that he has to reckon with and consult. When you often
use 'no' as a postponement method – he will start considering your opinion. He will know
that if he wants to do something together with you, he must first ask if you agree.
At the subliminal level of communication, you become the decision-maker in this relationship,
while at the same time giving him a sense of power – the feeling that you reckon with
his proposals. So don’t be afraid to say 'no' from time to time.
Remember, however – to make the impact of the word as strong as possible, you have to
reward him for his suggestion. Don’t refuse him – say "no, not now" – and reward for
his proposal – "but I will be happy to watch it later when I'm done ...". Use this exercise
even if you don’t have a reason to refuse. You'll see how quickly he will start respecting
you and your opinions. And your shared experiences will become more valuable to him. If You want
a boy or a man to love you more – that’s one of the secrets. But of course – don’t
overdo it. Use this trick every four, five propositions from him. You will create a balance
of power in your relationship. And it doesn’t matter if You’ve just met or you’ve been
dating for some time. So show Your strong character thanks to the power of the word
'no'.
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