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[APPLAUSE] [MUSIC]
>> WELCOME, WELCOME. WELCOME, AND THANK YOU FOR
JOINING US TODAY. THERE ARE FEW TIMES IN LIFE WHEN
YOU MEET SOMEONE THAT MAKES YOU BELIEVE THAT ALL HOPE IS NOT
LOSS. I WILL NEVER FORGET THE DAY I
MET OUR FIRST GUEST. HER STORY OF HOW SHE OVERCAME A
DRUG ADDICTION WAS SO POWERFUL IT BROUGHT TEARS TO MY EYES WHEN
I LISTENED. IT MADE ME REALIZE HOW MANY GOOD
PEOPLE HAVE BEEN CAUGHT UP IN THE WEB OF DRUG ADDICTION.
YOU MAY EVEN KNOW SOMEONE. TODAY YOU WILL HEAR FROM PEOPLE
WHO HAVE BATTLED ADDICTIONS INCLUDING A TV PERSONALITY WHO
HAD TO FIGHT HIS BATTLE PUBLICLY.
ALL OF THEM ARE SHARING THEIR STORIES.
>> TAKE A LISTEN TO THE STORY OF MY FIRST GUEST.
[MUSIC] >> CASANDRA WILLIAMS NEVER
IMAGINED SHE WOULD ONE DAY BE A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUNG GIRLS.
>> I'M STILL AT AWE I HAVEN'T EVEN GRASPED REALLY WHERE I AM.
THIS IS A PLACE I ALWAYS WANTED TO BE.
>> FOR MUCH OF HER LIFE, MORE THAN 19 YEARS, CASANDRA WAS IN A
DOWNWARD SPIRAL ADDICTED TO CRACK ***.
>> WHAT WAS ROCK BOTTOM FOR YOU? >> THE DAY I CHOSE DRUGS OVER MY
FOUR CHILDREN AND THE MAN THAT LOVED ME.
>> ONE OF HER MOST PAINFUL MEMORIES WAS WHEN HER YOUNGEST
DAUGHTER WAS FIVE AND CASANDRA MADE A QUICK STOP TO GIVE HER
CHILDREN SOME MONEY ON THE WAY TO BUY DRUGS.
>> MY DAUGHTER, I GAVE HER THE MONEY, SHE WAS LIKE MOM GIVE ME
A HUG AND I PUSHED HER AWAY I WAS LIKE, I'LL BE BACK, I JUST
GOT TO GO RIGHT NOW, I GOT TO GO.
I DID HUG HER AND I JUMPED IN THE CAR, AND I WAS RIDING DOWN
AN ALLEY. [MUSIC]
>> CASANDRA WORKS HARD TO BE THERE FOR THE GIRLS IN HER DANCE
GROUP IN A WAY SHE WASN'T ABLE TO BE FOR HER OWN CHILDREN.
>> SHE'S LIKE ANOTHER MOTHER FOR ME.
SHE'S HONEST, AND SHE LIKES TO HELP PEOPLE.
>> FROM THE BEGINNING, SHE'S ALWAYS BEEN HONEST WITH THE
GIRLS ABOUT HER PAST. >> IT MADE ME FEEL A LITTLE SAD
BUT HAPPY AT THE SAME TIME, BECAUSE IT WAS LIKE A MIRACLE.
>> A MIRACLE BECAUSE CASANDRA QUIT THE DRUGS COLD TURKEY.
A MIRACLE BECAUSE CASANDRA HAS BEEN DRUG FREE FOR SIX YEARS
NOW. A MIRACLE BECAUSE SHE WENT ON TO
EARN A G.E.D. AT 41 YEARS OLD AND IS NOW IN ENROLLED IN
COLLEGE. >> I'M A STUDENT AT LIBERTY
UNIVERSITY. I'M GETTING MY BACHELORS IN
CRIMINAL JUSTICE, I'M GOING TO BE A PROBATION OFFICER, BECAUSE
THAT IS MY GOAL. >> CASANDRA CREDITS GOD FOR HER
TRANSFORMATION IS FOREVER GRATEFUL TO HER SISTER, AND HER
CHILDREN'S FATHER FOR NEVER GIVING UP ON HER.
>> IF YOU HAVE A CHILD OR A NEIGHBOR, DON'T EVEN HAVE TO BE
RELATED TO YOU, THAT ARE ON DRUGS, I BELIEVE THE GREATEST
THING THAT YOU CAN TELL THEM IS SHOW THEM IS LOVE RIGHT WHERE
THEY ARE. >> SHE HOPES HER LIFE WILL BE AN
EXAMPLE TO OTHERS THAT NEW BEGINNINGS ARE POSSIBLE.
>> YOU CAN HAVE DONE SOMETHING BAD BACK THEN, BUT YOU CAN STILL
CHANGE IT AND REVERSE WHAT YOU'VE DONE AND TURN IT INTO
SOMETHING GOOD. >> GREAT JOB.
>> WE NEED EACH OTHER. >> I HAVE IMPACTED A WHOLE LOT
OF LIVES. I'M NOT ASHAMED TO TELL MY STORY
BECAUSE SOMEBODY NEEDS TO HEAR IT.
>> CASANDRA IS IN OUR STUDIO TODAY.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR STORY.
>> YOU CAN SEE IT HAS BROUGHT TEARS TO MY EYES AND I'M SURE TO
MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE WATCHING YOUR STORY IN THE AUDIENCE.
WHAT WAS IT LIKE TO SEE THAT UNFOLD THERE?
>> LIKE ONE OF MY DANCERS SAID, IT IS A MIRACLE.
A PLACE I NEVER THOUGHT WAS POSSIBLE, BUT I'M HERE AND I'M
SO GRATEFUL. >> AND TO SEE IT, DOES IT REMIND
YOU OF JUST HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME?
>> YES. I CAN JUST GLANCE BACK AND THINK
THE WAY I WAS AND I SAY NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE, BECAUSE THIS IS
REAL. I'M STILL AT A SHOCKING STAGE,
LIKE THIS IS REAL. I'M STILL HERE.
YOU KNOW, IT IS JUST SO AWESOME. I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT I'M STILL
HERE, BUT I KNOW THAT EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
>> AND SO CASANDRA, I KNOW YOUR DAUGHTER IS HERE AND WE SAW IN
THE PIECE YOU WERE THE YOUNG GIRL WHO WAS FIVE YEARS OLD WHEN
YOUR MOTHER HAD THAT EXPERIENCE WITH YOU, DO YOU REMEMBER THAT
AT ALL? >> A LITTLE BIT.
I CAN REMEMBER SHE JUST TOLD ME THAT SHE COULDN'T HELP ME
BECAUSE SHE WAS ON DRUGS AND SHE DROVE OFF.
THAT'S ALL. >> SO YOU DO REMEMBER HER
DRIVING OFF? >> UH-HUH.
>> HOW HARD WAS IT FOR YOU GROWING UP KNOWING THAT YOUR MOM
WAS ADDICTED TO CRACK AND WASN'T THERE?
>> IT WAS VERY HARD, BECAUSE I KNEW THAT IT WAS *** MY
FATHER. HE COULDN'T DO EVERYTHING, AND I
JUST WANTED LOVE FOR MY MOTHER BECAUSE I NEVER HAD IT AND I
JUST REALLY WANTED HER TO ALWAYS BE THERE FOR US.
ALWAYS BE THERE, HOLD US, DO OUR HAIR, BUT SHE COULDN'T BE THERE,
SO SHE WAS JUST ON THE DRUGS AND I JUST WANTED HER TO BE THERE.
>> WHEN YOU LOOK AT YOUR MOM TODAY, TO THINK THAT SHE WAS
ADDICTED TO CRACK FOR 19 YEARS AND NOW TO SEE YOUR MOM TODAY
WHERE SHE IS, HOW DO YOU FEEL? >> I FEEL HAPPY.
I JUST THANK GOD THAT SHE'S OFF DRUGS.
THAT SHE CAN ALWAYS BE WITH US. AND I CAN TELL HER MORE AND I
TRUST HER, AND I LOVE HER. >> AND YOU FOR GAVE HER.
>> YES. >> WERE YOU EVER ANGRY?
>> UH-UH. I LOVED HER SO MUCH.
I ALWAYS WILL FORGIVE HER. >> AND SO CASANDRA, I KNOW ONE
OF THE REASONS WHY WE WANTED TO SHARE YOUR STORY IS THERE ARE A
LOT OF PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO ARE WATCHING WHO MAY HAVE GIVEN UP
ON A LOVED ONE. 19 YEARS IS A LONG TIME AND
THERE ARE PROBABLY PEOPLE WHO GAVE UP ON YOU.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO SOME FAMILY MEMBER OR SOMEONE OUT
THERE THAT'S WATCHING WHO FEELS LIKE THEY ARE GIVING UP?
>> WE ALWAYS GOT SOMEBODY IN OUR FAMILY THAT'S DOING SOMETHING
BUT WHEN IT COMES TO DRUGS, BECAUSE IT IS SUCH A HARD THING
TO GIVE UP. IT IS SUCH A HARD THING TO DO ON
YOUR OWN STRENGTH, THE GREATEST THING WE CAN DO IS TO SHOW THEM
LOVE. NOT THAT YOU HAVE TO GIVE THEM
MONEY OR ANYTHING, SHOW THEM LOVE IN A POSITIVE WAY.
TRY TO HELP THEM TO DO SOMETHING.
LIKE MY GOAL IS TO CONTINUE TO DO POSITIVE THINGS.
I DIDN'T KNOW ANY POSITIVE THINGS AND WHEN A PERSON IS ON
DRUGS, THEY DON'T KNOW MANY POSITIVE THINGS.
WE CAN'T EXPECT THEM TO DO BETTER IF THEY DON'T KNOW
BETTER, BUT WE CAN HELP THEM TO TRY TO DO BETTER, EVEN WHERE
THEY ARE. >> TO LOVE THEM RIGHT WHERE THEY
ARE, I THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY AND WE'RE GOING TO
HEAR FROM MORE PEOPLE WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH SIMILAR STRUGGLES.
WE THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE TODAY, AND WE'LL BE RIGHT BACK.
>> COMING UP... >> HOW DOES IT START?
HOW DID IT START FOR YOU, JACKIE?
>> WHEN I WAS 13 I WAS IN A VERY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND I
LEARNED TO NUMB AND TO SELF-MEDICATE.
>> YOU CAN'T BELIEVE THE THINGS YOU DO FOR THE ADDICTION, FOR
THE DRUGS. >> JOIN US ON FACEBOOK AND ON
THE WEB AT THE HOUR OF JOY.COM.
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[MUSIC] [APPLAUSE]
WE HAVE BEEN TALKING TODAY ABOUT OVERCOMING ADDICTION.
MY NEXT GUEST HAS BATTLED ADDICTIONS TO ALCOHOL AND
PRESCRIPTION PAIN KILLERS. THANK YOU BRYAN AND JACKIE FOR
JOINING US. I KNOW WE JUST HEARD CASANDRA'S
STORY CAN YOU RELATE TO WHAT SHE WENT THROUGH?
>> I WAS CRYING, A LOT OF IT RELATES TO ME.
AND IT IS PRETTY AMAZING HOW A LOT OF ADDICTS IT KIND OF DOES
INTERTWINE AND IT SEEMS TO BE A LOT OF THE SAME STORIES, SO IT
IS VERY INTERESTING. >> WHAT ABOUT YOU, BRYAN?
>> YEAH, I CAN RELATE A LOT. THE INSANITY OF IT ALL.
YOU CAN'T BELIEVE THE THINGS YOU DO FOR THE ADDICTION, FOR THE
DRUGS, YOU KNOW. YOU DON'T WANT TO, BUT YOU
PRETTY MUCH HAVE TO. >> IT IS THAT BAD THAT IT ALMOST
FEELS LIKE IT HAS SUCH A HOLD ON YOU, WHAT IS THAT LIKE?
>> YEAH, YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE NOT GOING TO DO IT
ANYMORE. YOU KNOW, BUT YOU DON'T KNOW
WHAT YOU'RE UP AGAINST. YOU END UP DOING SOME OF THE
MOST INSANE THINGS TO GET THAT DRUG, YOU HURT FAMILY, FRIENDS,
EVERYTHING LIKE THAT. IT IS REALLY TOUGH.
>> WHEN YOU'RE GOING THROUGH THAT, DO YOU REALIZE THAT YOU'RE
HURTING PEOPLE, IS IT JUST THAT YOU CAN'T STOP, OR HOW DO YOU
GET BEYOND THAT WHEN YOU KNOW THAT YOU'RE HURTING LIKE A
FAMILY MEMBER OR SOMEBODY YOU LOVE?
>> I THINK FOR ME, YOU DON'T REALIZE THAT YOU'RE HURT THAT
FAMILY MEMBER, YOU'RE SO SELF-ABSORBED.
FOR ME I WAS HURTING MY ENTIRE FAMILY AND HAD NO IDEA UNTIL
RECENTLY. THEY WERE STARTING TO OPEN UP
AND SHARE WITH ME KIND OF THE PAIN THAT THEY WENT THROUGH
BECAUSE IT REALLY IS A FAMILY DISEASE.
>> MANY PEOPLE WONDER, HOW DOES IT START.
HOW DID IT START FOR YOU? >> WHEN I WAS 13 I WAS IN A VERY
ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP FROM 13 TO 16, AND I LEARNED TO NUMB AND
SELF-MEDICATE AND THAT KIND OF GOT ME THROUGH.
IT STARTED WITH ALCOHOL AND THAT JUST HOOKED ME.
I COULDN'T STOP. IT IS INSANITY.
I KEPT TRYING TO STOP AND JUST COULDN'T.
>> HOW MUCH WERE YOU DRINKING, IF YOU COULD KIND OF GIVE US AN
IDEA? >> ABOUT A FIFTH A DAY.
>> A FIFTH OF -- >> A FIFTH OF LIQUOR.
>> EVERY DAY? >> EVERY DAY.
>> WERE YOU ABLE TO FUNCTION? >> IN THE BEGINNING NO.
I DID IT TO PASS OUT AND TO FORGET BASICALLY SOME OF THE
THINGS THAT HAD HAPPENED THROUGHOUT THAT RELATIONSHIP AND
I WAS SO YOUNG AND JUST DIDN'T KNOW ANY BETTER, AND THEN GOING
ON TO COLLEGE, IT BECAME AN EVERYDAY THING, I QUIT GOING TO
SCHOOL AND I WOULD END UP -- I WENT TO COLLEGE AT THE BEACH AND
I WOULD END UP ON THE BEACH AND HAD A FIFTH OF LIQUOR BY MYSELF
AND THEN WOULD GO OUT DRINKING THAT NIGHT.
SO I WAS FUNCTIONAL THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT.
SO IT PROGRESSED AND I BUILT UP MY TOLERANCE TO IT.
>> WHAT ABOUT YOU, BRYAN? WERE YOU A TEENAGER WHEN IT
STARTED? >> WELL, I STARTED DRINKING WHEN
I WAS A TEENAGER. I GUESS I'VE DRANK MOST OF MY
LIFE ASIDE FROM, YOU KNOW, THE TIME THAT I WAS IN THE AA
PROGRAM AND HERE IN THE LAST YEAR AND A HALF.
BUT MOST OF MY LIFE I'VE BEEN ADDICTED TO ANYTHING THAT WAS
PLEASURABLE. AND ALCOHOL WAS THE FIRST THING
THAT REALLY GOT OUT OF HAND FOR ME.
>> HOW BAD DID IT GET FOR YOU? >> VERY BAD.
VERY BAD. I WAS IN THE AA PROGRAM BEFORE,
IN THE '90S, AND I HAD ALMOST TEN YEARS OF SOBRIETY.
I WENT BACK OUT FOR ANOTHER 12 YEARS.
>> WOW. SO YOU WERE -- HAD GONE THROUGH
AN AA PROGRAM WERE SOBER FOR TEN YEARS AND WENT BACK?
>> YES. >> SO NOW HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN
CLEAN THIS TIME? >> A YEAR AND A HALF.
>> YOU DESERVE A ROUND OF APPLAUSE.
[APPLAUSE] >> SO WHAT WOULD YOU SAY --
BRYAN, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IT DIFFERENT THIS TIME?
WHAT MAKES IT CLICK? HOW DO YOU GET TO THE POINT THAT
YOU SAY I'M GOING TO DO THIS? >> EVEN WHEN I WAS, YOU KNOW, AT
MY LOWEST LEVEL, I WANTED TO GET BACK.
I KNEW THE HELP WAS THERE, BUT JUST SELF-PRIDE AND THOSE TYPE
OF THINGS. I JUST KEPT PUTTING IT OFF AND
PUTTING IT OFF, UNTIL I REACHED SUCH A BOTTOM THAT I WAS READY
TO TAKE MY OWN LIFE. >> IT HAD GOTTEN TO THE POINT
THAT YOU WE'RE READY TO TAKE YOUR OWN LIFE.
>> RIGHT. >> AND EVENTUALLY I TRIED IT,
AND THANK GOD, YOU KNOW, GOD HAS A DIFFERENT PLAN FOR ME, HE
DIDN'T WANT ME JUST YET. SO I MADE IT BACK HERE AND MADE
IT BACK INTO THE PROGRAM. WITH THE HELP OF ALCOHOLICS
ANONYMOUS AND ALL OF THAT AND A FEW DOCTORS HERE AND THERE, YOU
KNOW, I'M BACK, AND IT IS GREAT NOW.
IT IS WONDERFUL TODAY. I'VE GOT TO GIVE A HEAVY MENTION
TO MY WIFE. >> SHE SUPPORTED YOU.
>> OH, THROUGH IT ALL. >> 27 YEARS.
>> THAT SEEMS TO BE A BIG THING EVEN WHEN WE TALK TO CASANDRA IS
PEOPLE NOT GIVING UP. I THINK SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUDGE
YOU OR THEY THINK WHY CAN'T YOU JUST GIVE THIS UP.
YOU KNOW IT IS HURTING YOU OR HURTING YOURSELF, JUST QUIT.
HOW IMPORTANT WAS IT FOR YOU TO SEE THAT PEOPLE CARE OR HAVE THE
SUPPORT AND SAY, HEY, I'M STANDING BY YOUR SIDE?
>> REMARKABLE. I WENT THROUGH A TREATMENT PLAN
AND I HAD A RELAPSE, I, AS WELL, HAD SOME TIME, I HAD ABOUT A
YEAR AND A RELAPSE. I WENT BACK TO THEM, I WAS
DISCHARGED FROM THE PROGRAM AND WENT BACK AFTER MY RELAPSE.
TO HAVE THAT UNCONDITIONAL SUPPORT AND LOVE IS JUST -- IT
REALLY DOES HELP YOU PICK BACK UP.
YOU KNOW, BECAUSE YOU REALLY FALL -- AND WHEN YOU FALL, YOU
FALL HARD, AND IT IS NICE TO HAVE THOSE HANDS THERE TO PICK
YOU BACK UP. >> WHEN SOMEBODY IS DEAL WITH AN
ADDICTION, BECAUSE THERE MAY BE SOMEBODY WHO IS WALKING TODAY.
MAYBE IT IS CRACK, MAYBE IT IS BATH SALTS, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY
TO THEM, WHAT HAS TO CLICK IN THEIR MIND FOR THEM TO BE ABLE
TO GET THE HELP THEY NEED AND TO START ON THAT PATH, WHAT DO YOU
THINK HAS TO CLICK? >> I THINK YOU HAVE TO BE READY.
I THINK IT REALLY IS GOD AND SPIRIT AND YOU.
I MEAN, I THINK YOU JUST HAVE TO BE READY.
BECAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE, I SAID THIS EARLIER IF LOVE COULD HAVE
GOTTEN ME SOBER, I WOULD HAVE BEEN SOBER A LONG TIME AGO.
BUT IT REALLY IS SOMETHING THAT HAS TO COME WITHIN YOURSELF.
>> WHAT WOULD YOU SAY, BRYAN? >> I WOULD SAY YEAH, THAT'S
TRUE, YOU'VE GOT TO WANT IT AND I KNOW THERE'S A LOT OF PEOPLE
OUT THERE THAT WANT IT AND JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
THEY NEED TO KNOW THERE IS HELP OUT THERE.
IF YOU REACH OUT, I MEAN, AA IS RIGHT IN THE PHONE BOOK.
YOU CAN CALL THAT NUMBER AND THEY'LL FIND YOU PEOPLE THAT
WILL HELP. THAT'S HOW THE PROGRAM WORKS.
WE HELP EACH OTHER. IF THERE'S ANYBODY OUT THERE
THAT IS SUFFERING NOW AND JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, THERE'S
LOTS AND LOTS OF HELP OUT THERE. YOU GOT TO BE WILLING, YOU GOT
TO BE HONEST, AND BE WILLING TO HAVE A SPIRITUAL PROGRAM IN YOUR
LIFE. MAN, THE DIFFERENCE IS SO
INCREDIBLE. >> HOW DO YOU FEEL NOW?
>> I MEAN, IS IT LIKE NIGHT AND DAY, HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE THE
DIFFERENCE? >> IT IS LIKE NIGHT AND DAY, IT
TRULY IS. THE JOY THAT COMES -- I MEAN,
I'M A TOTALLY DIFFERENT PERSON, AND I MEAN, THE TRANSFORMATION,
YOU KNOW, I HEAR STORIES OF HOW JUST TWO YEARS AGO, I HAD TWO
YEARS SOBER DECEMBER 10TH AND TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE, I MEAN, IT
IS JUST THE PATH, THE THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED TO ME, THE
PEOPLE THAT I'VE MET. >> THE ONE THING THAT I THINK A
LOT ABOUT IS THAT THIS COULD HAPPEN TO ANYONE.
I THINK SOMETIMES PEOPLE CAN BE JUDGMENTAL, BUT THIS COULD
HAPPEN TO ANYONE. I THINK WHEN PEOPLE LOOK AT YOU
ON THE STREET, THEY MIGHT NOT THINK THIS PERSON IS DEALING
WITH A PROBLEM. WHY DO YOU THINK PEOPLE HAVE
THIS MISCONCEPTION THAT IT IS ONLY CERTAIN PEOPLE?
>> I THINK IT IS JUST SOCIETY. IT IS KIND OF WHAT SOCIETY HAS
MADE IT OUT TO BE THAT ARE BUMS OR WHATEVER.
>> BUT YOU WERE A COLLEGE STUDENT?
>> YEAH. I MEAN, THERE'S DOCTORS,
LAWYERS, I MEAN, SO PEOPLE THAT IT CAN EFFECT.
IT IS NOT DISCRIMINATORY AT ALL. >> WHAT WOULD YOU SAY?
>> I'VE SEEN A LOT OF PEOPLE AT THE MEETINGS, IT IS ALL WALKS OF
LIFE. THE DISEASE HAS NO RESPECT.
THERE'S PEOPLE WHO PULL IN THERE IN A MERCEDES AND SOMEBODY PULLS
IN THERE ON A MOPED. AND THESE GUYS LOVE AND SHAKE
HANDS. IT IS AMAZING TO ME, JUST ABOUT
EVERY AGE, RACE, SEX, RELIGION, WHATEVER, YOU KNOW, AND IT CAN
HIT ANYBODY. A LOT OF PEOPLE, YOU KNOW, IT IS
A LITTLE HARDER FOR THEM TO ADMIT, BUT IT IS OUT THERE, AND
IT CAN GET YOU. THE THING I KNOW IS, THERE IS
HELP. >> I APPRECIATE BOTH OF YOU
COMING ON. WE'RE GOING TO TALK TO AN EXPERT
WHO IS GOING TO TELL US MORE ABOUT ADDICTION.
STAY WITH US. >> STILL TO COME... WHY IS IT
THAT SOME OF US CAN SHOP OR EVEN GAMBLE OR EVEN TRY A DRUG AND
NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT. >> IT IS GENETIC PREDISPOSITION,
THE TRAITS, THE VULNERABILITY -- >> JOIN US ON FACEBOOK AND ON
THE WEB AT THE HOUR OF JOY.COM.
[MUSIC][APPLAUSE]
>> WELCOME BACK, WELCOME BACK. TODAY WE'RE ASKING THE
QUESTION HOW DO ADDICTIONS BEGIN?
OR WHAT ARE SOME OF THE SIGNS THAT YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP?
>> DR. PATEL HAS BEEN TREATING ADDICTIONS FOR MORE THAN 28
YEARS. THANK YOU FOR JOINING US.
>> THANK YOU. >> I KNOW WE'VE HEARD FROM THREE
PEOPLE TODAY WHO HAVE SHARED THEIR STORIES ON DRUG
ADDICTIONS, WHAT ARE SOME OF THE COMMON TYPES THAT YOU'RE SEEING.
>> THE ADDICTION IN GENERAL COULD BE CHEMICAL ADDICTIONS,
ALCOHOL, MARIJUANA, CRACK ***, GOOD OLD HEROINE.
THERE'S ALSO BEHAVIORAL ADDICTIONS, GAMBLING, SHOPPING,
EATING. NOWADAYS, THEY HAVE BEEN ABLE TO
FIND WITH NEUROSCIENCE RESEARCH THAT IN THE BRAIN THE SAME AREA
THAT GETS LIGHTED UP WHEN YOU DO ALCOHOL OR CRACK *** OR
MARIJUANA OR ANY OF THOSE DRUGS. THE SAME AREA GETS REALLY
LIGHTED UP WHEN PEOPLE -- THOSE WHO ARE OVEREATING OR THOSE WHO
HAVE A SHOPPING ADDICTION, GAMBLING ADDICTION, SEX
ADDICTION, SO SCIENTISTS ARE ABLE TO LOCATE THAT ALL
ADDICTIONS IN THE BRAIN, THEY WORK MORE OR LESS THE SAME WAY.
IT IS ALMOST LIKE THAT SOMETHING THAT YOU DO REWARDS THAT YOUR
BRAIN AND BRAIN LIKES THAT, BRAIN REMEMBERS THAT AND THEN
YOUR BRAIN KIND OF DIRECTS YOU TO KEEP GOING BACK TO THAT AGAIN
AND AGAIN AND AGAIN. THAT'S WHY WE FIND A LOT OF
ADDICTION PATIENTS, THEY GET TREATMENT AND GET BETTER AND
THEN SOMETHING HAPPENS IN THEIR LIFE AND THEY GET RELAPSE AGAIN.
>> WHY IS IT THAT SOME OF US CAN HAVE ADDICTIONS, SOME OF US CAN
SHOP OR EVEN GAMBLE AND HAVE NOT PROBLEMS WITH IT.
THERE'S BEEN PLENTY OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE TRIED MARIJUANA, THEY
MAY HAVE TRIED SOMETHING BUT NEVER GOT ADDICTED.
WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE? >> THAT'S A VERY GOOD QUESTION.
I THINK WHAT IS THE IMPORTANT PIECE IS NATURE VERSUS NURTURE.
A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE DEBATING IS IT ONLY THE CHOICE OR JUST THAT
CAN PEOPLE JUST DECIDE. WHAT SCIENTISTS ARE FINDING,
THERE IS GENETIC PREDISPOSITION. >> SO THERE'S A GENETIC
PREDISPOSITION FOR ADDICTION? >> ABSOLUTELY.
THERE'S A GENETIC PREDISPOSITION -- NOT THAT IF MY PARENTS HAD IT
THAT I WOULD DEFINITELY GET. NOT THAT KIND OF, THE TRAITS,
THE VULNERABILITY, THE POSSIBILITIES, THERE ARE SO MANY
OTHER SUBGROUPS OF GENETICS THAT MAKES ONE PERSON MUCH MORE
VULNERABLE AND IF THAT PERSON IS EXPOSED TO THAT ENVIRONMENT,
WITH FRIENDS, PEERS, FAMILY. >> I THINK MANY OF US DON'T
THINK OF THERE BEING SOME KIND OF GENETIC COMPONENT TO THAT, WE
THINK -- BUT THAT'S REALLY INTERESTING.
SO ARE THEY LOOKING INTO THAT MORE AS A TREATMENT OPTION IF
THEY ARE NOTICING THAT THIS IS A GENETIC REASON?
>> THAT'S THE MOST RECENT ONE. THERE'S A LOT OF RESEARCH GOING
ON ALL OVER EVERYWHERE. ACTUALLY THE GOOD OLD -- THE
AMERICAN SOCIETY OF ADDICTION MEDICINE TOOK ALMOST FOUR YEARS
AND 80 DIFFERENT EXPERTS WORLDWIDE TO REALLY REFINE THEIR
DEFINITION OF ADDICTION. THERE'S A HUGE, IF YOU GOOGLE
AROUND AND YOU'LL FIND TONS OF DIFFERENT DEFINITIONS, NOW THEY
ARE TELLING THAT ADDICTION IS NOT JUST THE MORAL PROBLEM OR A
SOCIAL PROBLEM OR CRIMINAL PROBLEM, IT IS A PROBLEM OF THE
BRAIN. IT IS A BRAIN DISORDER, AND
BECAUSE OF THE BRAIN DISORDER, THE BEHAVIORS -- SOCIAL
PROBLEMS. IT MAY BE CRIMINAL ACTS,
BEHAVIORS MAY BE EVERYTHING. BEHAVIORS IS ONE PART.
BUT THERE'S A SMALL TINY AREA IN YOUR BRAIN RIGHT BEHIND YOUR
EAR. IT IS CALLED LIMBIC SYSTEM.
REWARD CIRCUIT. >> YOU HAVE A REWARD CIRCUIT.
>> ABSOLUTELY. NORMALLY.
>> SMALL KIDS, IF YOU WANT SOMETHING TO BE DONE, YOU GIVE
THAT KID A LOLLIPOP. EVEN AS AN ADULT WE ALL HAVE
THAT SAME BEHAVIOR CIRCUIT. THAT REWARD CIRCUIT, THAT
CERTAIN BEHAVIOR YOU DO, THAT CIRCUIT GETS STIMULATED AND THEN
YOU GET A REWARD. WHEN THAT BEHAVIOR IS DONE, THEN
YOU ALMOST CRAVE FOR IT. >> YOU HAVE A CRAVING.
>> I'M WONDERING WITH ADDICTIONS, DO YOU SOMETIMES
PARTICULARLY WITH THE DRUG ADDICTION TO GIVE THEM ANOTHER
REWARD OR SOMETHING ELSE THAT CAN COUNTERACT THAT?
>> ABSOLUTELY. THERE'S TWO WAYS.
THE GOLDEN RULE OF THE TREATMENT IS 12 STEP LIFESTYLE, AA, BUT
THAT'S STILL ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.
WHAT THEY HAVE FOUND IS IT IS ALL FOUR COMPONENTS, YOUR
TREATMENT MODALITY NEEDS ALL FOUR COMPONENTS.
YOU MAKE A RECIPE, AND THAT WAY YOU CREATE -- IT IS ALMOST LIKE
OTHERWISE IF SOME PEOPLE JUST GET OVER THIS ONE PART AND THEY
MAY NOT GET THE FULL PICTURE, THEY MAY GET DRY, BUT NOT
NECESSARILY SOBER. >> DO MOST PEOPLE EVEN AFTER
THEY GET HELP GO THROUGH RELAPSE?
>> RELAPSE IS THE RULE, NOT AN EXCEPTION.
>> WOW. I USUALLY TELL TO MY PATIENTS,
IF YOU POUR WATER ANYWHERE, WATER BY NATURE WILL ONLY GO ON
THE DOWNWARD SIDE. FIRE BY ITS NATURE WILL ONLY GO
UPWARD. THESE ARE ALL CHARACTERISTICS,
THIS IS THE BASIC QUALITIES, THE SAME WAY ADDICTION ILLNESS IS A
RULE NOT AN EXCEPTION. >> WE KNOW IT IS A POSSIBILITY
THAT IT COULD HAPPEN. >> IT IS VERY GOOD PROBABILITY
UNLESS YOU'RE ACTIVELY WORKING AT IT.
>> IF SOMETHING LIKE ONCE YOU'VE IDENTIFIED SOMEONE HAS AN
ADDICTION, WHETHER IT IS GAMBLING OR DRUG ADDICTION.
UNLESS YOU'RE TREATING ALL OF THOSE COMPONENTS AND DEALING
WITH THOSE AREAS, THEN THERE'S A GOOD CHANCE THAT YOU'RE GOING TO
RELAPSE. >> ABSOLUTELY.
>> YOU LOOK AT CASANDRA'S STORY. >> VERY POSSIBLE.
>> AND YOU REALIZE 19 YEARS, SO IT IS POSSIBLE.
>> OH, ABSOLUTELY. >> I HAVE HEARD SOME STORIES,
SOME PEOPLE THAT 32 YEARS AND THEN THEY HAD A RELAPSE.
BRIEFLY. >> WHY?
>> BECAUSE IF THEY GET OFF, THEN THEY LOSE THAT HOPE.
THERE'S HOPE ABSOLUTELY. IF THERE'S NO HOPE, I WON'T BE
IN THIS FIELD FOR THE LAST 28, 30 YEARS.
BECAUSE WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT ADDICTION PATIENTS, THEY GET
TITLES, LABELS, THEY ARE THE WORST MANIPULATOR, THEY ARE THE
TOUGHEST -- THEY GET ALL KINDS OF NASTY NAMES, BUT THEY ARE THE
BIGGEST CHALLENGE IN HEALTHCARE FIELD FOR US CLINICIANS.
AT THE SAME TIME, THEY ARE THE BIGGEST REWARD GIVING PATIENT
POPULATION. >> REALLY.
>> SO THIS CAN HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE.
>> ABSOLUTELY. >> THEY ARE MOTHERS, CHILDREN,
GOODS PEOPLE WHO FALL INTO THIS TRAP.
>> YES, YES, IT DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE, AGE, SEX, OR THEIR
PROFESSION, EVERY WALK OF LIFE, THEY DO GET AFFECTED WITH THAT.
>> WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO A FAMILY WHO IS WATCHING THIS
TODAY WHO HAS A LOVED ONE WHO MAY BE ADDICTED TO DRUG.
HOW CAN THEY HELP THAT LOVED ONE?
>> I THINK THE BIGGEST THING THEY CAN DO, THAT YOU NEVER GIVE
UP ON THEM. [APPLAUSE]
>> YOU NEVER GIVE UP ON THEM. >> I DO WANT TO GIVE ONE OTHER
POINT THERE THOUGH, THAT GIVING UP AND GIVING IN TO THEM,
THERE'S A DIFFERENCE. >> OKAY.
>> NOW, I'LL DESCRIBE THAT BY ONE BRIEF QUICK STORY OF A
PATIENT OF MINE. FOR SEVEN TIMES THAT PATIENT
KEPT COMING TO HER TREATMENT. EACH TIME WE NEVER GIVE UP.
AND 7TH TEAM US AS A TREATMENT TEAM, WE ALL SAID TOGETHER AND
WE WERE ALMOST FEELING HOPELESS. WE WERE FEELING LIKE THIS GUY IS
SUCH A HARD-HEADED FELLOW, HIS ILLNESS IS SUCH A TERRIBLE
ILLNESS, IT IS NOT BUDGING. WE DECIDED WE WANTED TO CALL HIM
AND TELL HIM, LOOK, NEXT TIME YOU GET DRUNK, DON'T COME TO US,
WE ARE GIVING UP ON YOU. WE CANNOT TREAT YOU, BECAUSE YOU
ARE BEYOND THAT. WHY WE WERE TELLING THAT, I WAS
LITERALLY WITH TEARS. THAT NIGHT, I COULD NOT SLEEP.
WHY DID I GIVE UP? I'M TRYING TO TEACH DON'T GIVE
UP. WHAT I FOUND LATER ON THAT
ACTUALLY I WAS NOT GIVING UP ON HIM, BUT WE HAD DECIDED TO STOP
GIVING IN TO HIS RELAPSES NATURE OF CYCLE.
HE WAS NOT ABLE TO BREAK THAT CYCLE ON HIS OWN YET.
BUT WHEN WE DECIDED TO STOP GIVING IN TO HIS CYCLE, BECAUSE
HE GETS DRUNK, HE COMES, WE TREAT, WE CURE -- WE KIND OF
SEEMINGLY CURE HIM, GET HIM OUT. HE GOES, HE GETS DRUNK, HE COMES
BACK. IN FIVE YEARS, SEVEN TIMES, WHEN
WE STOPPED GIVING IN, IT WAS THE FIRST TIME IN THREE MONTHS HE
SURPRISED ME. HE CALLED MY OFFICE AND MADE AN
APPOINTMENT FOR FOLLOW-UP. THE PREVIOUS SEVEN TIMES, EACH
TIME WE HAD TOLD HIM WE WANT TO GET YOU FOLLOW-UP AND GO TO AA
MEETINGS AND HE WON'T DO THAT. THIS TIME HE DID.
HE TURNED AROUND AND TODAY THAT PERSON HAS BEEN ABLE TO SAVE HIS
MARRIAGE, HE'S STILL WORKING, AND THAT PERSON HAS ALSO QUIT
SMOKING. >> WOW.
I GUESS THAT'S A GOOD MESSAGE. WE THANK YOU FOR JOINING US DR.
PATEL. I GUESS THAT MESSAGE IS DON'T
GIVE UP, DON'T GIVE UP, DON'T GIVE UP.
WE'LL BE RIGHT BACK. >> COMING UP ON THE JOY OF
FITNESS. >> WHAT IS YOGA?
>> DO YOU THINK IT IS A GREAT STRESS RELIEVER?
>> THE WORD YOGA MEANS CONNECTIONS OR UNIONS.
DOING YOGA BRINGS YOU INTO THAT PLACE WHERE YOU'RE ACTUALLY
AWARE OF WHAT YOUR BODY NEEDS.
>> THE JOY OF FITNESS IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY OUR HEALTH MAGAZINE.
THE PREMIER RESOURCE FOR HEALTHCARE AND HEALTHY LIVING
INFORMATION. [MUSIC]
[APPLAUSE] [MUSIC]
>> WELCOME BACK, WELCOME BACK TO "THE HOUR OF JOY."
>> SOMETIMES JUST THE STRESS OF LIFE CAN LEAD TO AN ADDICTION.
AS WE SEARCH FOR HOPE TO DEAL WITH LIFE CHALLENGES.
WE'RE TALKING ABOUT YOGA TODAY. IT IS ONE OPTION THAT CAN REALLY
BE A STRESS RELIEVER. >> I'M JOINED BY TERRY FLAHERTY
AND HER WONDERFUL PEOPLE WHO ARE SHOWING THE MOVES OF YOGA.
>> WHAT IS YOGA? >> WELL, THE WORD YOGA, JOY,
MEANS CONNECTIONS OR UNIONS. BRINGING TOGETHER THE MIND WITH
THE BODY. >> AND DO YOU THINK IT IS A
GREAT STRESS RELIEVER? I KNOW WE TALKED WITH A LOT OF
PEOPLE SUFFERING FROM ADDICTIONS OR FINDING WAYS TO COPE, HOW CAN
IT HELP YOU? >> IT IS A WONDERFUL STRESS
RELIEVER BECAUSE IT BRINGS YOU INTO PRESENT MOMENT AWARENESS.
IT DRAWS YOUR MIND INTO AN AWARENESS OF YOUR BODY.
IF YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO RUNS AROUND AND DOESN'T EAT WHEN
YOU'RE HUNGRY OR DOESN'T STOP AND GO TO THE BATHROOM UNTIL IT
IS URGENT. THEN DOING YOGA BRINGS YOU INTO
THAT PLACE WHERE YOUR AWARE OF YOUR BODY.
>> I DON'T HAVE TO PUT MY SHOES ON, IT LET'S YOU BREATHE A
LITTLE BIT. THESE GIRLS, I DON'T KNOW IF I
CAN GET DOWN AND DO THIS. IS IT MORE CHALLENGING?
IS IT AS CHALLENGING AS IT LOOKS?
>> IT CAN BE CHALLENGING AND IT CAN BE GENTLE.
THERE ARE SEVERAL DIFFERENT FORMS OF YOGA.
THEY ARE DOING POSTURE. THEY ARE BRINGING THEIR MIND'S
AWARENESS INTO THEIR BODY AND YOU CAN DO IT WITH SIMPLE
MOVEMENTS RATHER THAN AN INTENSE POSTURE.
>> WHAT ARE THE BASIC MOVES? TYPICALLY THERE ARE A SET OF
MOVES THAT YOU GO THROUGH, OR CAN IT VARY?
>> IT CAN VARY ON THE STYLE. BIKRAM RELIES ON THE 26 POSTURES
AND IT IS DONE IN A HOT ROOM. >> IT IS A STEADY FLOW OF
POSTURES AND THERE'S NO SET SEQUENCE.
>> WHEN YOU'RE DOING THIS, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
YOU'RE TRYING TO CONNECT YOUR MIND WITH YOUR BODY?
WHAT ARE WE DOING WITH THESE TECHNIQUES?
>> THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF YOGA, IN AND OF ITSELF, IS THE
BREATH. >> HOW YOUR BREATHING?
>> HOW YOUR BREATHING, YES. >> IT IS A FULL DEEP BREATH AND
THAT'S ONE OF THE VERY FIRST THINGS I TEACH IN A CLASS.
WE START EVERY CLASS WITH A CENTERING IN BREATH.
I'VE BEEN SITTING OUT IN PREPARATION FOR THIS DEEPLY
TRYING TO MANAGE MY STRESS. >> IS IT HELPING US TO KIND OF
CENTER US? >> YOU BRING YOUR MIND INTO
PRESENT MOMENT AWARENESS. YOU DRAW YOUR MIND INTO
ATTENTION WITH THE BREATH. ATTUNING MOVEMENT WITH THE
BREATH. IF I LIFT MY ARM AND I'M GOING
TO INHALE THE ENTIRE WAY UP WITH MY ARM AND THEN EXHALE IT DOWN.
>> NOW IS YOGA SOMETHING THAT PEOPLE CAN JUST LEARN AND DO AT
HOME. IT SOUNDS COMPLICATED.
IS IT SOMETHING THAT'S EASY TO LEARN THAT YOU COULD DO AT HOME?
>> YOGA IS VERY EASY TO PRACTICE AT HOME.
THERE ARE SOME VERY BASIC POSTURES.
THE THING THAT I WOULD SUGGEST IF SOMEONE DIDN'T WANT TO GO TO
A CLASS, LOOK INTO VIDEOS OR A BOOK AND TRY SOME BASIC
POSTURES. GOING TO THE CLASS, SO THEY ARE
INSTRUCTED. >> TAKE US THROUGH IT FOR OUR
AUDIENCE. >> OKAY.
>> SO A LITTLE BIT OF PREPARATION IS JUST COMING INTO
CONTACT WITH YOUR BELLY, SO EVERYONE BRING THEIR HANDS TO
THEIR AND IF YOU'RE COMFORTABLE DOING THAT.
NO ONE HAS TO PARTICIPATE IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT.
TRY BREATHING AND NOTICE IF YOUR BELLY MOVES WITH YOUR
INHALATION. AND THEN EXHALE OUT.
IF YOU'VE ALREADY THE EXHALE AND INHALE THAT'S FINE.
PART OF YOGA IS INCREASING THE EXPANSE OF YOUR BREATH.
>> BRING YOUR HANDS UP TO YOUR RIB CAGE AND SEE IF YOU CAN FEEL
BREATH AND YOUR RIBS EXPANDING. IN YOUR RIB CAGE YOU CAN ALWAYS
PUT YOUR HANDS ACROSS YOUR WRISTS IF THIS DON'T FEEL
COMFORTABLE. >> MANY TIMES I THINK WE'RE NOT
REALLY BREATHING, YOU KNOW, WE'RE ON THIS FAST PACE.
>> EXACTLY. >> WE'RE NOT REALLY BREATHING.
IT IS ALMOST LIKE YOUR -- I NEED THAT TODAY.
>> TAKING A DEEP BREATH. >> THAT'S TRUE, PEOPLE AREN'T
AWARE OF THEIR BREATH. A LOT OF TIMES WITH THE PRESSURE
OF THE WORLD WE END UP HOLDING OUR BREATH OR BREATHING REALLY
SHALLOWLY. IT IS KIND OF LIKE HOW TODDLERS
AND BABIES BREATHE. THEY USUALLY USE ALL OF THAT
SPACE. >> IT IS A GREAT WORKOUT AND A
WAY TO KIND OF GET CONNECTED TO OURSELVES.
ANY LAST ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO SOMEBODY WHO IS RELUCTANT
ABOUT TRYING IT? >> LIFT YOUR HANDS OVERHEAD,
SPREAD YOUR FINGERS WIDE, STRETCH THE WEBBING BETWEEN EACH
FINGER. NOTICE THAT CHANGES YOUR STATE
OF MIND. >> GIRL, I FEEL GREAT, I NEED TO
GO HOME NOW. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR COMING.
AND WE'LL BE RIGHT BACK. >> THANK YOU.
>> ON THE NEXT EPISODE OF "THE HOUR OF JOY" WITH JOY SUTTON.
>> WHO COULD THINK A COOKIE COULD HELP YOU BREASTFEED?
HOW DID YOU COME UP WITH THIS IDEA?
>> JOIN US ON FACEBOOK AND ON THE WEB AT THE HOUR OF JOY.COM.
THE JOY OF GIVING IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY GOOD SAMARITAN
HOSPICE, GOOD SAM FOR GOOD REASONS.
[MUSIC] [APPLAUSE]
>> ON "THE HOUR OF JOY" WE LOVE TO BRING OUR AUDIENCE A LITTLE
JOY WITH OUR GIVEAWAYS. SOME OF OUR AUDIENCE MEMBERS
WILL TAKE HOME GIFT CERTIFICATES FOR PRIVATE AND GROUP YOGA
LESSONS COURTESY OF TERRY FLAHERTY.
>> OUR SIGNATURE SPONSOR MEMBER ONE FEDERAL CREDIT UNION IS
GIVING A FREE FULL FINANCIAL PROFILE.
NOW MEMBER ONE IS A FULL SERVICE CREDIT UNION.
IT HAS AN ARRAY OF PRODUCTS AND SERVICES TO HELP MEMBERS ACHIEVE
THEIR FINANCIAL DREAMS. >> AND EVERY MEMBER OF OUR
STUDIO AUDIENCE IS GOING HOME WITH STANLEY STEEMER'S SPOT
REMOVER. >> NOW LET ME TELL YOU, THIS IS
A GREAT PRODUCT BECAUSE THIS PRODUCT QUICKLY AND EFFECTIVELY
REMOVES SPOTS ON CARPET AND UPHOLSTERY.
IT IS PET FRIENDLY AND IT CAN BE USED ON YOUR CARPET.
>> OFFERING ONE LUCKY FAMILY A HOME CLEANING PACKAGE.
GO TO OUR WEBSITE AND TELL US WHY YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW
DESERVES TO WIN THIS GRAND PRIZE FROM STANLEY STEEMER WE'LL
ANNOUNCE THE WINNER ON THE FINAL SHOW OF OUR SEASON.
STAY WITH US. [APPLAUSE]
>> AFTER THE BREAK... [MUSIC]
>> GUEST ACCOMMODATIONS FOR THE HOUR OF JOY ARE PROVIDED BY
HYATT PLACE.
[MUSIC]
>> THE JOY OF MUSIC IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY VIBE YOUR SOURCE FOR
TODAY'S BEST R & B AND CLASSIC SOUL.
[MUSIC]
>> ON THE JOY OF MUSIC, CARLISA
DAVIS IS HERE TO PERFORM HER NEW SINGLE "HOLD ME".
SHE'S ON HER WAY TO THE TOP OF THE MUSIC CHARTS WITH A SOULFUL
SOUND THAT WILL BRING DOWN THE HOUSE.
>> LET'S GIVE IT UP FOR CARLISA DAVIS.
[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
[MUSIC]
I NEED YOU TO HOLD ME TIGHT
[MUSIC] [MUSIC] MAKE LOVE TO ME ALL NIGHT [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] TAKE ME BY MY HAND [MUSIC] [MUSIC] DON'T LET GO [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] [MUSIC] COME ON AND HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] HOLD ME [MUSIC] [MUSIC] NEVER LET GO [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] LOVE ME RIGHT [MUSIC] [MUSIC] AND BOY DON'T YOU LEAVE [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] TO SHARE THE STARLIGHT [MUSIC] [MUSIC] TAKE ME BY MY HAND [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] UNDERSTAND [MUSIC] [MUSIC] COME ON AND HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] DON'T YOU EVER LET ME GO [MUSIC] [MUSIC] NEVER LET GO [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] YOU'RE THE MAN OF MY DREAMS, ALL I THINK ABOUT IS YOU [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] MY KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR [MUSIC] [MUSIC] FAIRY TALE COME TRUE
[MUSIC] HOLD ME [MUSIC] [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] NEVER FELT THE LOVE LIKE THIS [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] I NEVER FELT THE LOVE LIKE THIS IN MY LIFE [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] I NEVER SEEN THE LOVE LIKE THIS [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] I'VE NEVER KNOWN A MAN LIKE THIS IN MY LIFE [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] COME ON AND HOLD ME [MUSIC] [MUSIC] HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] NEVER LET GO [MUSIC] [MUSIC] I WANT YOU TO HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] HOLD ME [MUSIC] [MUSIC] NEVER LET GO [MUSIC]
[MUSIC]I'M YOURS FOR THE ASKING [MUSIC]BABY LET'S GO
[MUSIC] [MUSIC] HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] COME ON AND HOLD ME [MUSIC] [MUSIC] HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[MUSIC] NEVER LET GO [MUSIC] [MUSIC] COME ON AND HOLD ME [MUSIC]
[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE] [CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
[MUSIC] HOLD ME, HOLD ME HOLD ME [MUSIC] [MUSIC] AND NEVER LET GO [MUSIC]
>> THANK YOU. TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HER MUSIC GO
TO OUR WEBSITE THE HOUR OF JOY.COM.
>> I'M JAMEY SINGLETON I WORK HERE AT ABC 13 IN LYNCHBERG.
I'M COMING TO YOU FROM OUR STUDIO.
I'M ALSO A RECOVERING ADDICT JUST LIKE MANY OF YOU.
WE ARE RECOVERING FROM A DISEASE THAT AFFECTS ALL WALKS OF LIFE.
FROM THE TYPICAL STREET DRUG DEALERS THAT WE'RE USED TO
SEEING ON TELEVISION AND IN THE MOVIES, TO THE, WELL, ON AIR
PERSONALITIES, SOME OF YOU MAY REMEMBER MY PAST WHICH INVOLVED
SOME OF WHAT YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW TODAY.
YOU CAN OVERCOME THIS. I WANTED TO COME ON JOY'S SHOW
TO SAY THIS. ANYONE CAN EASILY FALL INTO THE
DISEASE OF ADDICTION. IT IS A SLIPPERY SLOPE,
ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVEN'T EDUCATED YOURSELF ABOUT THE
RISKS INVOLVED. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO SEEK HELP.
KIDS, EMBRACE THE D.A.R.E. PROGRAM IN YOUR SCHOOL.
ASK YOUR PARENTS, GUIDANCE COUNSELORS IF YOU FEEL
PRESSURED. ALWAYS SAY NO TO DRUGS.
EVERYONE ELSE, YOU YOURSELF HAVE TO MAKE THAT DECISION TO CHANGE.
IT IS NOT JUST GOING TO GO AWAY. AT SOME POINT YOU MAY HIT ROCK
BOTTOM. I'VE BEEN THERE AND IT IS NOT
FUN. BUT I GOT THROUGH IT AND THERE'S
HOPE FOR YOU, TOO. I GREW UP IN FRANKLIN COUNTY AND
HAD A NORMAL LIFE UNTIL MY ANXIETY ATTACKS STARTED.
I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT THEY WERE, SO I STARTED SELF-MEDICATING, I
KNEW I COULDN'T GO ON FOREVER DOING THAT.
I WANTED TO MAKE AN ALL IMPORTANT CHANGE IN MY LIFE FOR
THE BETTER. WAS IT EASY?
>> IT WAS NOT EASY. I'VE GOTTEN THROUGH IT SO FAR.
I'VE SPENT YEARS AND MONTHS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHY I MADE
THAT DECISION SEVEN YEARS AGO. IT ALLOWED ME TO MEET OTHER
PEOPLE WHO WERE GOING THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THINGS I WAS
GOING THROUGH. THEY DIDN'T CARE I WAS A TV
WEATHERMAN IT DIDN'T MATTER. WHAT MATTERED IS ALL WE SHARED
THE SAME DISEASE. I HAVE TURNED MY LIFE OVER TO
THE LORD. I HAVE TOOLS AND SUPPORT GROUPS.
JUST TO SHOW YOU SOMETHING HERE, THIS IS A KEY CHAIN THAT I'VE
CARRIED AROUND FOR SEVEN YEARS. IT IS KIND OF HARD TO SEE.
IF YOU'VE BEEN TO MEETING BEFORE, YOU KNOW WHAT IT MEANS.
IT STATES THAT YOU'RE READY TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND TURN
AROUND. >> IT HAS SCRATCHES AN BITE
MARKS ALL OVER IT. I KEEP IT AS A REMINDER OF WHAT
I WENT THROUGH. FOLKS, IT IS OKAY TO WANT HELP
AND TO NEED HELP. BE PATIENT, IT TAKES TIME.
YOU MAY HIT ROCK BOTTOM, ONE, TWO, THREE, FOUR, FIVE TIMES BUT
NEVER GIVE UP. YOU CAN AND WILL RECOVER IN A
GOOD WAY IF YOU WORK THE PROGRAM.
THANK YOU FOR LISTENING. >> I'VE HOPE YOU'VE BEEN
INSPIRED OR TOUCHED IN SOME WAY BY TODAY'S SHOW TO SEEK THE HELP
YOU NEED AND TO NOT GIVE UP ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE.
>> REMEMBER, EVERY DAY IS A LITTLE BRIGHTER WHEN YOU START
IT WITH JOY. [MUSIC]
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