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Hi, it's Dr. Minkoff here. This is a little friendly possibly advice that you
can use. Its bailed me out innumerable time. This August I'll be married 50
years, and we were together five years before that. We've survived a lot of
stuff. Marriages are always a work in progress
and they can never be taken for granted. A few years ago I was... actually it's
more than a few years ago, probably over 20 years ago I was sitting in an
emergency room. I was an emergency room doctor sitting in the emergency
room and the ward clerk is sitting there and he's in conversation with his wife
and they were having a roux about something and he's there and he's got
the phone out to hear I can hear that she's really upset and she's yelling at
him and it's pretty much a continuous ten minutes where he was not really
listening to her and he had heard it all before and he wasn't saying anything. So
I said to him "just put the phone on mute for a second, I want to tell you
something" so he did and I said "there's two things
that if you say it to her right now you will handle her and this will be over." He
said okay, what is it? I said here's what you tell her "honey
you're right, I'm sorry." He takes it off mute, he says "honey you're right, and I'm sorry".
Dead silence on the other end. I said to him "don't say a thing just wait".
She starts crying "I love you, thank you, I'll see you when you get home". Okay,
next time you get into a jam with your spouse, just try it. It isn't always the
easiest thing to say or admit when you're in the middle of one of these
things, but if you can muster that up "honey you're right, I'm sorry".
I think it works better on women than it does on men, but either way give
it a try and if it works for yo,u I want to hear back okay?
So post something and let me know because I found that it's sincere,
said sincerely it can really help, and give it a try, okay? Have a good day.