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Hi, it is David Laroche
from the series "WakeUpCalls"
today I will talk to you about something I like
that I did create it is a concept I did create
called the "Delayed Advantage".
The delayed advantage is a tool which will allow you
in three minutes when you will discover it
to transform your complex
your past
hard things
the difficulties
the problems of your life
in a tool which will create the success, the well-being
and the joy of your life.
Waouww, what a pledge in three minutes.
So naturally it is a tool which ask for me long hours to develop it
it is the reason why we have an audio CD
if you want to explore more the delayed advantage on Amazon.
What is the delayed advantage?
The delayed advantage is that
everything which generate drawbacks
create some advantages.
All which generate drawbacks
create some advantages
if it is not in short term, it is in long term.
It is the reason why I call it the delayed advantage.
If for example
I have not what I want in short term
it does become an opportunity
for beginning to find some advantages
and to shape later.
So I will give you some ideas of advantages.
All which goes in your life
is the origin of learning.
When we talk about learning means
in long term you will do better than before.
So you delay the advantage.
Let's take an example of a delayed advantage.
If for example I was born in suburbs
we will able to say that it is an inconvenient.
And if people are unhappy for being born in suburbs
it is that they see more drawbacks
to be born in suburbs than advantages.
And when I act in secondary school in business school
I try to work them on this.
For example sometimes I act in suburb secondary school
and sometimes in secondary school where
there is a public with more money.
And I do to work them about
advantages and drawbacks
for being born in estate
advantage and drawback for benig born with wealthy parents
and for each people I try to work on this.
So they have four things to do.
And it is amazing to realize at this point
there is advantage and drawback in these two situations.
If I was born in estate
and for example I was born in Paris
and I have to go to in Toulouse for a job interview.
And the subject of this interview is to evaluate
the tenacity of the candidate.
And I am in competition with somebody
who parents did tell me to speak well
who did give me a network.
Who has more advantage at this moment?
It is the one who was born in estate
because first we say: "***! he was able to
go from Paris, take the train, be here in front of me
of course he is relentless.
It does not mean the other cannot.
Because he has got others advantages.
He has got the network, the knowledge
the money.
there are different advantages.
If for example I was born poor
and after I can generate my first million in euros
and there somebody was born rich
and who generate his first million of euros
From who do we talk to in the medias?
So we will talk to the one who was born poor.
It means the next year he will generate more money than the other
because medias would have talked delayed advantage.
Let's see the shyness for example.
In the shyness what is the advantage?
people say to me: "There is no advantage in the shyness.".
Of course yes.
People who are shy develop empathy, the ability
to ask questions because they do not want to talk
the ability to listen, to observe to analyse
and when you do training about the communication
and I give training
what do we learn to people?
we learn to ask questions, to listen,
to observe, to be empathic
what does it mean?
in the shyness there is germ
of a wonderful communication.
Are you now surprised
that there are so much orators, speakers
who were born shy, who were shy during their childhood.
And they did transform that
because back each desire there is a big fear
because back each fear there is a big desire
so if I have the desire to be in relation
it is usual that I am afraid to be in relation.
There is no desire without fear.
So the delayed advantage is to say :" I did not have maybe
the past I want
maybe I did not have the origin I want
the age I want
the sex I want
the education I want
and if it does become an advantage?".
And if I decide today to create to transform it in advantage?
If you have a problem to integrate this
go to read for example "Man sorting for meaning"
someone who did emprison during 4 years
in concentration camp
with sterilization test during 4 year
without anesthetic.
Imagine a scalpel on your testicles
if you are a man
and only imagine a scalpel on your testicles.
And he says: "I do not regret. Anything.
Because I do not know if
I will be this person
if I did not live this.
And today I have created amazing things
for me and for the others that I do not know more.
What create well-being
and which boost your self-esteem
and allow to create the acceptation
it is to see advantage and drawback.
and it is the same when I guide someone
who has an handicap.
In what does it generate advantage and drawback?
People say to me: "But wait, you cannot say there is
advantage to be handicapped".
Yes. Like there was advantage to be for example hitted
or to have parents who were not enhancive
it did always generate advantage.
I do not say it was enjoyable
I do not say it was not painful
I say that we have all lived painful childhood.
If I did take each person
here in front of the cemara
and I tell you :" Tell me what it was more painful in your life?"
and I will be sure that I can cry everybody.
We did have all a past as it is.
Stop to compare with the others
stop to say :"I did suffer more, or
you did suffer more" and say just: " with the life
given to me, I want to create an amazing life".
This..is the delayed advantage.
If you want to go deeper go to Amazon, the audio CD
is at a ridiculous price
order it. You will see. It will make the difference.
Share this video, because it is a trick which really changed my life.
I gave me a complex with my age my physical, my shyness
Aaahhhh today I like all this.
So no matter who you are
no matter what you look like
no matter what your past
you have the perfect life
for being proud or yourself
in two years.
If in two years you have created your inspiring life
and we ask for: "How did you create it?".
And you answer: "It is through my pain".
Will you regret?
No.
See you tomorrow.