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0:10 DEE FRAZIER Hi, Iím Dee Frazier and Iím
a member of Princess Cruisesí Department of Romance. Iím known as the Dating Diva,
probably because Iíve had, mm, many dates. And because of that, I was asked to write
a book, which I did, and itís called Dating 101, The Second, Third, or Fourth Time Around.
0:29 And the first time, particularly if youíre
young, youíre fearless; you have no sense of what could happen. And you havenít ñ
you donít bring to the relationship a lot of Ö I hate to overuse the word ëbaggage,í
but a lot of stuff that maybe wasnít great the first (?). But when youíre, after a divorce
or even after many relationships that didnít work, you have a lot of thoughts and conversations
that go on in your head about how, whatís wrong, and what you donít want.
1:03 Well, my rule is that there arenít any rules.
But you have ñ there arenít any rules based on what people tell you, or thatís set up;
but you do have to have rules for yourself that youíll live by. About money, about sex,
all the things that people concern themselves ñ you have to have your own standards or
boundaries. 1:24
For the first time around, youíre geared to your parentsí rules, or your peer groupís
rules; but the second time or third time around, you really get that youíre in charge. But
they donít have to come from what society says or what family says. And one of the rules
is not to let society and particularly family tell you what to do. íCause they love to.
1:48 I am an executive coach, have been working
with people professionally throughout my career. Along the way, I was asked to help people
as they were moving from married to single because sometimes itís a very scary world.
So I created a company called the University of Dating, which is really there to help people
redefine the entire dating experience. 2:11
So a cruise is the most wonderful way to really reconnect with your partner, if you have one,
but also to reconnect with yourself. When a person is playful ñ just look at a child,
I mean, they have no sense of their ëissuesí or their problems, because theyíre playing,
and theyíre spontaneous; and when we play, we create a whole new aura about who we are.
It really is very very attractive.