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[music] [text] The University of Michigan and
[text] CAPS: Counseling and Psychological Services presents
[text] Hey Man, do something [text] Only one-third of CAPS clients are
University of Michigan men [text] Where are the men?
[text] Part 1: CAPS counselors are doing something about men's issues
[stop music] [text] What does being a man mean to you?
Man 1: For me, being a man means being strong. But it's not just physical strong. It's also
a mental strength. It comes from the heart. Man 2: It means you're courageous. It means
you take on challenges. You don't back down. Man 3: Sometimes it means being strong. And
sometimes it means having the strength to admit when you don't have the strength, and
you need some help. That's what being a man means to me.
[text] What you think it means to be mentally strong?
Man 1: Being mentally strong is about being strong in a lot of different ways. Sometimes
it means being strong in the fact that you are going through a lot of stuff in life,
and that's okay. So allowing yourself to feel that, allowing yourself to take care of yourself.
That's part of being mentally strong- and you know that you actually take care of yourself.
Man 2: It's also about having perseverance. I think about the player that's the most mentally
strong that I've ever coached. I think about actually a 16 year old girl who loved the
tough moments. It kind of kept her highs and lows in perspective.
[text] 63% of UM males say they would not feel okay with themselves if they made the
choose to seek professional help. Man 4: I think the primary message I would
send is to give it a shot. I know there is a stigma out there against counseling that
you're weak. That you're crazy if you go to counseling. I don't think that's true. It's
actually think that's a sign of strength to recognize that sometimes we can't do everything
on our own. Man 3: And a counselor is just another guy
or another woman who can sit down and talk honestly and openly with you about what's
happening, and come up with practical, concrete kind of solutions.
Man 1: Counseling helps you problem solve and be successful. And that's a good thing.
[text] What do you do when you are struggling? Man 3: I think a lot times, a lot of men do
everything but kinda deal with the problem and that can look like withdrawing, sometimes
it means getting high or drinking, fighting, pointing a finger.
[text] 65% of college males say that a reason they might not seek help is that they "think
are a lot of different way to work through struggles really helped me out. So, talking
about it, getting it off my chest. One of things I'll do is go to the gym; I'll go for
a run. Come up with creative ways to deal with it rather than just do it the old way,
which was just keep it to myself 'cuz that wasn't working.
Man 3: I know for me a big thing sometimes was struggling with feeling that as a man
I shouldn't have problems, and if I have a problem that that's somehow shameful and…
Man 1: Like most men, when I struggle, I tell myself that I need to figure it out. I tell
myself that to be a man means that I need to sit down and figure it out- and just handle
it myself. And I realize that's not true. A team, the quarterback, the players on the
team- they're not doing it alone. They have whole team with them, fighting with them,
working with. So why do I have to be alone? [Text] What message would you send to U-M
men who are struggling? Man 2: I think the message to send is that
there's other people out there that feel the same way. And you're not alone. I know just
from playing and coaching that you need to struggle together; you can't do things alone.
That's the whole idea of being together on a team.
Man 1: So reaching for support. And when I don't reach out, I miss out on all those..that
support from other individuals. And they usually tell me "I wish I had known. I could have
helped." Man 3: One of the beautiful things about being
on a campus at the University of Michigan is that there are so many resources. And there
really is a community of caring. And whether that's your academic advisor, your counselor,
your friend, your professor- there's a huge network of support. And that's what it's all
about. [Music]
[Text] Part Two Coming Soon [Text] CAPS for more information visit www.umich.edu/~caps
www.mitalk.org or call
734-764-8312 [Text] Many thanks to: the Division of Student
Affairs and Daniel Goldstein, Travis Fox, Dwaine Campbell, and Ed Huebner
[Text] Title of movie: Hey Man, do something