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- What's up! - Hi guyssss
- So last time, we had what turned into Jessica's fiery personal opinion about how to approach British girls with a view to dating.
This time, we'll be taking it from the other point of view and be talking about how to approach Japanese guys!
- Okay, so it's kind of tricky to find ways to talk to guys...I don't know, I suppose...
how about a club? - Club?
*don't try this at your local music and dancing establishment*
- Yeah, what do you think about that? - Yeah...erm...
probably not the best approach in the world... - Understood...
Okay, so, just send them a text or something? - Yeah I think so - at the end of the day
I'd say it's best just to be yourself and be honest. - Yeah, be natural!
Okay, so the one thing that girls agonise over on their first date is:
"what shall I wear? What make-up shall I do?" - do you have any advice?
- Hmmm...well we're talking first dates here, right?
- Mmhm.
- Well, in that case it's obviously important to properly get to know the other person,
so you shouldn't try too hard and change your style to try to be someone you're not.
You have your own personal style, so you should just go with it and be your normal self.
Actually, I think most guys prefer girls more natural and without makeup -
girls who look like they've slapped it on with a trowel don't make the best of impressions.
Well, that's my personal opinion. - You heard it here first!
Okay, so you're on the date, you're walking around in public - what do you think about
holiding hands? A bit of hanky panky? Kiss on the cheek?
- Hmmm, I think it depends on the person, but I guess in dramas and movies, European people
always seem to kiss or hug as part of greetings, so you kind of expect it.
- So...we look like hoes? - I don't mean it that way! But there may
be people who kind of anticipate those touchy-feely-type greetings. So is holding hands ok? ...hmm...
I really don't know, it's difficult to say! But don't get me wrong, I think any guy would
be happy to get that kind of physical attention. - So you won't slap them away?
- No way. Great lad points right there. - Go for it!
In the UK, on first dates - I'm not speaking for myself here because I don't drink - but
most people get absolutely trolleyed (drunk). - Oh really?
- Yeah, I mean how would you feel about a little tequila contest with a girl on your
first date? - That's probably not good for a first date...
- Is that because you'd lose? - Erm yes...it's probably true that compared
to British people, the Japanese are somewhat weaker when it comes to alcohol...but anyway,
since it's the first date, it's all about getting to know each other, so I guess if
you're drinking a small amount to relax and be able to talk more freely then it's alright,
but it's probably not best to get drunk off your face.
- Yeah, might get a bit messy... Okay, so do you have any kind of specifically Japanese tips?
- Hmmm...how about GAP / TSUNDERE? You hear that a lot in Japan.
Do you know what it means? - Noo, what's that?
- Okay, so GAP / TSUNDERE is when, for example, a person who's normally always really cold and reserved
suddenly shows a more tender side of their personality, or like somebody
who's usually really alpha (assertive) might show their omega (submissive) side. That GAP is a kind of technique
to draw in guys - and not just from girls to guys, it works the other way round too.
- So you've got a kind of bi-polar flirting dynamic going on there (lol)
- I think it's a good one to use!
- So you've finished the date and you've gone your separate ways. How do you let the guy
know that you're interested in him? Should you play kind of hard to get and leave him
hanging? Or will that just backfire terribly? - I guess if you're both head over heels then
it may work, but in most cases, since it's your first real meeting then if you did that
I think it'd seem like you really don't have any interest in the guy. You probably shouldn't
use that tactic until around the forth time you've gone on a date, after you've got closer,
but still, I'm not sure if it actually works. - So...honesty, be natural,
and don't dance like a weirdo. - Yup. That last one is important.
- Okay. Well, that's probably about it for today!
- As always, if you have any comments or questions, please write below:)
Until next time, BYE BYEEE
This time we'll look at how Japanese guys should approach British guys
ER, I MEAN GIRLS...lol sh*t
This time we'll look at...*lol fail*
*lol nope...not happening*