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Hi everyone! Welcome to the Platinum Girl Celebrity Show where I give love advice to
the stars and the everyday woman. I am your host, Vanessa Taylor. Thank you so much for
joining me. Iíve mentioned that Iím a coach for the
book, The Rules Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein and Sherrie
Schneider. And because itís the holiday season, one topic, of course, thatís coming up quite
frequently is how to handle dating around the holidays. A lot of fun, I know. Dating
around the holidays can be very, very stressful. A couple of tips that I have: the first one
is that if you donít have a boyfriend, you do not get to invite him to all the holiday
parties just because you donít want to show up alone. Simply because youíre walking into
a party feeling insecure about not having a date on your arm is not an excuse to start
asking men to accompany you. They still have to pursue you. But try to keep an open mind
as Ellen was tweeting yesterday, ìYou never know who you might meet when you are actually
at that party.î And now if you do have somebody who you are
seeing, if youíre not exclusive, try not to get too stressed about whether heís actually
inviting you to meet his family and taking you to all the work parties and everything
else that might be coming up now. Give it a little bit of time. Letís see what he does
around Valentineís Day. If youíre still not exclusive, then you can decide whether
you should consider still seeing him. And if you are in an exclusive relationship, and
heís not taking you to this parties, then you need to make sure that you start thinking
about whether you even should be seeing him at all.
Okay, moving on to the celebrity discussion. Big news that happened this week was that
Khloe Kardashian finally filed for divorce from Lamar Odom. What made me really happy
about this is that I know for a long period of time, Khloe wasnít divorcing Lamar because
she was really concerned that his addiction was going to worsen if she did so. What the
takeaway here for a lot of women is that when it comes to dating or even being married to
an addict, you canít hold yourself back all because youíre worried about him. Itís a
very nice thing to be worried. Of course, it means youíre very caring, etc. but you
also canít stop your life because of an addict. As you learn in 12-Step programs, you donít
have control over whether someone is going to stop their addiction. So you canít put
your life on hold for that entire time. Now working in Khloeís favor, I know that she
did everything she possibly could to keep her marriage together with Lamar. She moved
from California to Texas to better be with him and then from Texas back to California
not too long thereafter. And where it actually got her was that he was rapping about how
he was cheating on her. I think itís just so ridiculous that he was doing that but in
any event, and I guess that seemed to be the straw that broke the camelís back so either
way, Khloe and Lamar finished and the takeaway for any woman who is dating a man with an
addiction is that you cannot stop your life all because of his problems. You have to distance
yourself, not let your ego get in the way and think that you can actually fix him because
you canít. Move on to that healthy relationship. You owe it to yourself.
Okay, next stop was Simon Cowell. As I mentioned in my blog post earlier this week, he had
a baby shower for his girlfriend who is pregnant, Lauren Silverman. And of course, we all know
thereís a lot of history there. I wonít get into that one. But while he was there
at the shower giving his speech, he said something really arrogant like, ìOh, Lauren was really
lucky to have found me.î Not surprised that Simonís kind of an arrogant jerk. Weíre
pretty familiar with his routine by now. What I started thinking about is all the women
who are dating men who are just complete ego-maniacal jerks. And when the woman says to him something
like, ìHey, whatever you told me or whatever you said in front of all those people really
hurt my feelings,î he always says something back to her like ìOh, it was a joke. You
need to have a sense of humor.î No, you donít have to have a sense of humor. If a man is
openly insulting you in front of people, that is not a good sign. Donít let him make you
think that because you didnít find one of his insults funny, that all of a sudden, it
means you donít have a sense of humor. And if you continue to let a man get away with
that, the insults are only going to worsen and youíre only going to start to feel as
if youíre in an emotionally abusive relationship. So keep your eyes open, whenever it comes
to a man who is doing something like that because itís not going to work out well for
the long term if he thinks that he can get away with it.
And then the last story that I wanted to expound on just a little bit more was the Stacy Keibler
post that I wrote about where she was initiating a hangout session with Cindy Crawford kind
of going out and doing a girlsí thing. For those of you who might not know, Cindy is
very loyal to George Clooney, Stacyís ex-boyfriend. What I thought about after reading this and
hearing that Cindy blew her off is that I felt badly for Stacy. As I said in the post,
I know that she didnít do anything that was wrong. Stacy always seemed really nice to
me. Iím sure she was just trying to reach out to Cindy but, in the end, Stacy got rejected.
So whenever it comes to dealing with the ex in any of his family members or his friends
that you may have developed ties to, donít reach out to them after the relationship is
over. You want them to reach out to you. And one of the things that I thought about after
writing the post was that it makes you look badly if the family member or the friend goes
back to the ex and tells them that theyíve rejected you that theyíve turned you down
for plans. Itís just not good. I mean you donít want him to have to call you to worry
to see if youíre okay after the breakup or anything else that could be further considered
errant. Whenever it happens and you have the relationship that falls apart, unfortunately,
you have to let those relationships go with his friends and family unless they make it
very clear to you that they still want to keep in touch.
Okay, so Iím going to end here. Itís the holiday season so I have lots of shopping
to do. But, again, keep up with my blog during the week at PlatinumGirlCelebrityBlog.com
and you can also book a session with me. Donít forget to pick up your copy of Not Your Motherís
Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider and then also my book Text.Love.Power, the
Ultimate Dating Guide for Ttexting and Dating in the New mMllennium. And I hope that you
enjoyed this video. If you did, please give it a thumbs-up and if you really enjoyed it,
I hope that you share it. Okay everyone! Thanks for watching. Iím Vanessa
Taylor saying goodbye to you from sunny Los Angeles, California. Bye!