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Our communication is unbelievably powerful. Let me give you an example: Please, do not
imagine flying pink elephants with blue socks. What happens? Most people see one or two
elephants flying by. But let's try something else: Please, do not remember your very first
real kiss. What you might notice now - maybe for the
first time - is, that your subconscious does not understand the word "No" Everything you
want to negate you have to visualise first. Here is little Paul. Standing on top of the
stairs. There is his uncle John. Standing on the bottom of the stairs. and uncle John
is quite worried about Paul rushing down the stairs. So what might uncle John say?
Maybe he says something like: "Don't fall down!". And what happens in little Paul's mind in
that case? "Ouch!" - Paus sees himself falling down the stairs. So what does Paul have to
do to come down safely though? He has to erase the picture in his mind. And that's the big
challenge. - Even for grown-ups. So, what should uncle John have said instead?
Maybe something like: "Take care!", "Come down slowly". In that sense you should better say what you
want and not what you don't want. I know it sounds simple and easy, but as a matter of
fact this is one of the major challenges in everyday-communication. So, say what you mean,
to get what you want.